Heated Confrontations With Neighbours

@wolfie34 (26793)
United Kingdom
May 30, 2009 5:26am CST
Do you get on with your neighbours? Is your neighbourhood quiet and peaceful or is there never a day goes by when your neighbours are causing noise, stress, aggravation or worse? Have you ever had any heated confrontations with your neighbours? How often does this happen, once in a blue moon, one a month, or more regularly? What have you had to confront your neighbours about that it has ended up heated with arguments and even name calling and swearing? Do you avoid confrontation with neighbours at all costs or do you confront them head on? What do you do if your neighbours get nasty? Do you go out of your way to avoid them even though they carry on doing what you think is antisocial and selfish? Do you avoid going out into your garden for fear of your neighbours being out there or do you go out into your garden ready to do battle? How do you deal with heated confrontations with neighbours?
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19 responses
@balasri (26553)
• India
5 Jun 09
I have chosen to buy my house in a decent calm locality to have good neighborhood.Well I got it and I am in one of the posh localities in the city.I haven't encountered any trouble with my neighbors exempt for one incident.My neighbors dog was giving a lot of a lot of noise when it was small.I just went there and told the owner that the barking was disturbing me and requested him to take proper care of his dog.Well he said OK and that is that.That is the only complaint I can remember with my neighbors.
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@wolfie34 (26793)
• United Kingdom
5 Jun 09
Wow you are very lucky in that respect! If I had the money I would buy a place away from everyone! I can see myself being a hermit, I guess I just don't like people around me.
@balasri (26553)
• India
6 Jun 09
I know.More are becoming more unlikable nowadays.We always feel happy to stay away from them.Pity.
@twoey68 (13651)
• United States
31 May 09
Actually we live in apartments and we rarely have anything to do with our neighbors. I know a couple of them well enough to say Hi to if I see them outside when I'm out but for the most part I don't know the ppl around me. We tend to keep to ourselves and treat others the way we want to be treated...no loud music, no loud parties or fights and we don't let ppl that come to see us bother anyone else either. We did have a problem a while back with another family here who had children and they'd play right outside our office window, screaming and carrying on...I talked to the manager and she took care of it. They eventually moved b/c several residents complained that the kids had vandalized their cars in the parking lot. [b]~~AT PEACE WITHIN~~ **STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS**[/b]
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@wolfie34 (26793)
• United Kingdom
31 May 09
Don't get me wrong I like kids but when they scream and shout, there is absolutely NO need for it, we have a family of about six kids and they have made so much racket that even in the warm weather I have to keep the windows shut, we have told her about the noise but she gives you a right mouthful for your trouble, is it any wonder the kids are so mouthy! Sad to say that is what society is breeding, no doubt the kids will be having kids themselves too, oh boy!
@twoey68 (13651)
• United States
1 Jun 09
I know what you mean...last summer we had to keep our windows closed just about all summer b/c they wouldn't quit running by our office window screaming, yelling and looking in. They also liked to beat on the trasformer box in back of our apartment...like we need them doing that. One of them even took the opportunity to climb up a satalite tower that was up by the office...he's lucky he didn't fall and break his neck (it wasn't hooked up anymore). The kids were just totally out of control and the mother never bothered to watch them...they'd just run wild and she'd sit in her apartment doing whatever. I'm so glad they moved. [b]~~AT PEACE WITHIN~~ **STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS**[/b]
@MsTickle (24983)
• Australia
5 Jun 09
My neighbour is an interfering, overbearing harridan and I avoid her like the plague. I rarely go into my back yard and I stay home so as not to run into her. She's bossy and domineering and not afraid of putting people down. I'm not an assertive person...when confronted I get tongue tied and stutter. I have trouble thinking of something to say that makes sense. I just don't handle those situations well at all.
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@wolfie34 (26793)
• United Kingdom
5 Jun 09
She sounds like a nasty piece of work and a bully my friend, and yes I'd have difficulty dealing with her too, in confrontations it's very difficult to stay calm and assertive, I tend to get too aggressive, never used to be, guess I have my ex to thank for that! A Taurean I come out fighting if backed into a corner, sadly!
@ellie333 (21029)
30 May 09
Hi Wolfie, I am blessed with amazing neighbours and the only time I have ever had to go out and have a confrontation was when some of the kids were climbing up onto my wall and staring directly into my lounge window and I asked them too move they didn't so I went and asked the mother to remove them as I felt it was an invasion of my privacy, they got told off and not to do it again. I have had one knock on my door to complain about my dog andI thought I don't believe this as my dog barked for one night and yet when their dog was alive whenever they were out which was often overnight it would bark constantly but I never said a word as I just got used to it as a background noise. Some people eh! I am an easy neighbour but if I needed to I would confront but in a mild mannered way but let them know I was upset or annoyed by their behaviour. Huggles. Ellie :D
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@wolfie34 (26793)
• United Kingdom
30 May 09
You can choose your friends but you can't choose your neighbours! I think tact and diplomacy is called for in tense situations along with a talent of assertiveness! So many people in today's society get aggressive which only escalates the problem and the confrontation which can turn nasty. We have very noisy neighbours mainly their kids who scream and shout all day! I have no problem with children playing etc but why do they have to scream and shout continually? Thank you my friend!
@Ithink (10501)
• United States
31 May 09
The few neighbors we do have pretty much leave us alone and we leave them alone. Most of them are older too. The few that we do know are nice and that is good as I can be grumpy right back if I need to be. I think the only thing that has ever bothered me is the one behind our house, it is a ways, but you always hear his dog and at times I get disgusted but I dont say anything as I know that you cant totally control your pets like that.
@wolfie34 (26793)
• United Kingdom
31 May 09
Barking dogs, aaaaaaaaah that is so antisocial, sorry but owners who have dogs do have a responsibility to keep their dogs under control, sure they bark, but constant barking? NO, something is amiss, that would drive me cuckoo!
@Ithink (10501)
• United States
31 May 09
Thankfully it isnt right behind us. You have to go thru the woods and over a creek so it isnt really loud just annoying at times. Probably sees rabbits, racoons and such.
@Ithink (10501)
• United States
31 May 09
lets make racoons into raccoons =)
@nannacroc (4049)
30 May 09
It's nice and peaceful now at last. I'm surprised you couldn't hear the music we've had to put up with for the past few hoours. Most of our neighbours are quiet but the one right next door likes his loud music at all times of the day and night. In the past couple of weeks he's had the police out to him a few times for vrious reasons, each time distubing us in the early hours. We have had a confrontation with him before but he only seems to understand violence and we're not resorting to that. He'll get his come uppance soon though without us doing anything so we just have to be patient.
@nannacroc (4049)
30 May 09
Sorry it's posted twice, it said it hadn't posted the first one.
@wolfie34 (26793)
• United Kingdom
31 May 09
No problem my friend, double post, double come uppance and please let me know when he gets his because I hate antisocial people! Trouble is the police seem to be powerless and going down the noise abatement road takes forever and a day! Have you got one of those dolls that you stick pins in? That helps PMSL
@nannacroc (4049)
31 May 09
Hadn't thought of that but I do have three daughters and once they get together the power of three works wonders. Might think about the doll though.
@nannacroc (4049)
30 May 09
If it wasn't for the idiot next door our neighbourhood would be lovely and peaceful. Since about 3 this afternoon he has had his tv on so loud that I'm surprised you can't hear it. We have had confrontations with him before but he's so stupid he doesn't seem to understand anything but violence and we won't resort to that. In the past two weeks the police have been out to him for various reasons, each time disturbing us in the early hours of the morning. He'll get his come uppance soon without us doing anything so we just have to be patient.
@wolfie34 (26793)
• United Kingdom
31 May 09
Are you a believer of karma? He'll get his for sure, trouble is I am not very patient when it comes to karma. He sounds like a right nutcase! Of all the places in the world he has to be next to you! I hope he gets his come uppance! I would love to send some bad karma to him but knowing my luck sending out bad karma has a nasty habit of boomeranging back! I am a peaceful wolf and like my peace, so I am very anti-noise! That's why I'd be happy to live on my own away from civilization, bliss! With just mother nature and her animals and vegetation to keep me company
@nannacroc (4049)
31 May 09
They say sending bad karma makes it come back to you threefold but you could send me good karma and see what happens.
@ladynetz (968)
• Canada
3 Jun 09
Not yet - but I might, soon. I have ne neighbours - their garden is a mess, no flowers, no planting, just mud.But that's not my concern, it's not mine. What annoys me, is that they have parties till late night, or evenwhen they are alone, they play music so loud, they don;t care about anyone else. People are working in shifts, or have babies.They don't care. The police even came few times(not because of my call - I did not call them), but they are still doing their"act". Also, she has two small kids from the previous friend.She has them over few days a week, and they are as noisy as their mother. They run all oer the place, yell like crazy, even painted my side of the fence in the garden. I asked them very nice, polite and quiet to clean it - they did. But they are the "victims"....can you imagine?
@wolfie34 (26793)
• United Kingdom
3 Jun 09
Absolutely crazy! Some people are so damn selfish and antisocial, they don't care about others and know that they can do as they please without come-uppance and I bet the police haven't done much either, they don't have the powers. That makes me mad! I hope you manage to get rid of them, trouble is I pity whoever they move next to!!!!
@kellyjeanne (1576)
• United States
2 Jun 09
Most of my neighbors are kind of strange, except for my neighbor across the hall from me. He's quiet, but, curteous. I just basically don't go out of my way to get to know them because they are too strange for me! LOL! Purrs, Catwoman=^..^= & Mija
@wolfie34 (26793)
• United Kingdom
3 Jun 09
I don't do strange either, that kind of freaks me out!
@sweetie1026 (1723)
• Philippines
2 Jun 09
We have a neighbor here who i can say has a personality problem.I say this because once in a blue moon he gets into this rage of shouting and calling us names then trows rocks and stones at our roof. Often times we just ignore him because we know that he is not very well. But one time we could not help ourselves and confronted him because his stone trowing almost got one of our little children here hurt.We demanded him to come out and settle things with us but instead his eldest son came over and talked to us. He just kept quite in his home and never went out of his house for several months. Now, he has been quite though sometimes he goes out. But we never socialize with him.
@wolfie34 (26793)
• United Kingdom
3 Jun 09
That is one antisocial neighbour for sure! You shouldn't have to put up with that, especially if you have children, even if he is not well that isn't an excuse for that kind of behaviour my friend.
@cdparazo (5768)
• Philippines
1 Jun 09
I never had a direct confrontation or a spat with a neighbor ever. Though we are a noisy lot, but its part of our culture. We get on very well with most of our neighbors with all our eccentricities. But my father once had an argument with one of our neighbors because he parked on a place which used to be used by said neighbor to park his jeep. Said neighbor didn't own said parking area because it was public so my father parked there. The neighbor threatened my father with bodily harm since he is so much bigger. When my father told me, they had to really stop me from going over to our neighbors house to confront him. The lout! How dare he threaten my father! Well, i had him reported at the police station instead since i can't do him bodily harm myself.
@wolfie34 (26793)
• United Kingdom
3 Jun 09
Sounds like this guy was a right bully and a thug, I hope he was brought to task, no one should be threatened in that way, especially if they are in the right!
@bellis716 (4806)
• United States
1 Jun 09
To quote a line from one of my favorite hymns, "The neighbors here are grand. We get along in sweet accord." The worst problem we've had lately is the loud music the teenager next door plays at times. It has been known to rattle our windows at times. He will turn it down when asked, though. Since he graduated from high school this spring, he should be moving on soon. The problem is, so will his parents. They've already bought a place out in the country and were just waiting for John to graduate before moving out there. Hopefully, they'll change their mind when they realize the time they'll have to spend commuting.
@wolfie34 (26793)
• United Kingdom
3 Jun 09
Hopefully if they do move you'll get decent neighbours in place of them!
• China
31 May 09
hi,wolfie. I live in apartment building.In China,we call the apartment building commodity house.there is no private garden.People get in the house and close the door after work,and don't know each other with their neighbours.the only chance to meet each other is in the lift. most of the neighbours are easy.
@wolfie34 (26793)
• United Kingdom
31 May 09
Welcome to Mylot! I think everyone would love to have easy neighbours!
• United States
31 May 09
My neighbors are quiet. The one side is my inlaws. The other side are quiet but they have complained about my dogs barking. First off the first time they complained they said my dogs barked for 2 hours. My dogs where in the garage first off and second they had just been put out there. Another time they called to complain and my dogs where in the house. I told the person that called to tell us about the complaints to contact them and let them know I will get them for harrasment next time and a neighborhood petition against there daughter who tresspasses on everyones propertys and will just walk in your house. Ive had no problems since then. My dogs only go out to potty and walks. I guess they dont think any other neighbors have dogs. My dogs are brindle boxers and they think they are pit bulls. So I think they are trying to find ways that they can get us to be forced to get rid of them. My dogs bother no one. And I keep my yard clean.
@wolfie34 (26793)
• United Kingdom
31 May 09
Welcome to Mylot, it's none of their business any how, some people need to learn to keep their beaks out of other people's lives! Cheek indeed, glad you stood up to them
• United States
31 May 09
we have no neighbors on one side and a bad neighbor on the other. we have had to get no trepassing papers served on the bad neighbor due to him bothering our dog. He thinks that he owns the neighborhood and we basically had to put him in his place. He is just trouble.
@wolfie34 (26793)
• United Kingdom
31 May 09
Shame he wasn't a dog himself you could have put him down! LOL, forgive my humour!
@elemental69 (1562)
• Ireland
30 May 09
Thankfully I only have one neighbour, and that happens to be my brother-in-law and his wife. We get on really well and have never fallen out. :-)
@wolfie34 (26793)
• United Kingdom
31 May 09
Sounds like the neighbour to have!
@polachicago (19073)
• United States
30 May 09
I have very good neighbors and I don't need to have heated confrontation with them... I don't have any problem at all....nobody is walking into my place...except when they help me with cut my grass...by surprise...such a nice service from my neighbors...
@wolfie34 (26793)
• United Kingdom
31 May 09
Neighbours who cut your grass for you! Wow! Thats neighbours to be proud of for sure!
• United States
6 Jun 09
I extend my hand in friendship easily enough... Being a good neighbor helps to have good neighbors in the neighborhood sometimes it works and sometimes there is nothing you can do but to stay clear or keep your distance.
• China
2 Jun 09
we are alway get on well with neighours.I come from china ,I haven't this problem