Do you take your ring off?

United States
May 31, 2009 10:03am CST
Does your ring come off when you do the dishes? bathe a child? do messy work? get mad at hubby? Mine normally stays on. I learned to take it off while making bread by hand... dough is extremely difficult to clean out of the diamond setting area!! I learned that the hard way sadly. I'm a bit of a brat sometimes too, and whenever hubby and I get in a big fight I will take my ring off then too. He hates it, and I know I shouldn't do it, but it's one of those things for me. When I'm mad at him I can't wear my ring. It only happens during really really big fights though, which don't happen too often thankfully. When was the last time your ring came off? Have you ever taken it off when you were mad at your spouse?
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@MsTickle (24962)
• Australia
7 Jun 09
When you say ring, do you mean wedding ring or engagement ring? Traditionally, where I come from the wedding ring is a plain band, the engagement ring is a diamond and some are lucky to have an eternity ring with stones around the band. A lot of ladies take the rings with stones off when doing heavy or messy work in case the stones get lost...getting them dirty is not a problem because they are easily cleaned. But the wedding band never comes off. It's a symbol you wear of your love and the vows you made to one another...to remove your ring was to break your vows of marriage. I think standards and values have fallen by the wayside these days and wedding vows are meaningless. People lie and cheat to their spouse and think nothing of it as long as they don't get caught. In spite of the fact that you know your husband doesn't like it, you remove your ring when you fight, like a child throwing a tantrum or maybe as a warning or a threat...whatever your reason, and you DO have one even if you say you don't, to me that would mean you disrespect your vows or that your vows have ceased to have value. If your husband wore a ring and he took his off...how would you feel?
• United States
7 Jun 09
I don't own a wedding band, just an engagement ring, even though I've been married for 6 years. My vows do mean a lot to me. I'd never cheat on my husband, I'd never lie to him. He knows that. He knows it would take a HUGE force to get me to leave him. And I know it would take a HUGE force to get him to leave me. That's just how we feel about our marriage. So no, taking my ring off when I'm mad doesn't mean a darn thing. Honestly, you don't know me, my life, my husband, or my family, so how can you just jump to conclusions and assume that I mean a terrible thing when I take my ring off? How can you tell me I'm throwing a temper tantrum when you don't even know me?? Are you here when it happens? Do you see how my husband and I interact with each other? Is my ring directly tied to my vows? I didn't think it was. I thought it was just a piece of jewelry I wear on my finger that shows others that I'm married. I didn't even own this ring until a few months after our wedding. So how is a ring really all that important??
@MsTickle (24962)
• Australia
8 Jun 09
He-hey person, this is YOUR discussion, I'm just responding and adding my 2 cents worth...it's just my opinion and was not meant to offend...obviously I hit a nerve (or two ) to have you come back at me like that....sorry 'bout that.
@cynthiann (18619)
• Jamaica
1 Jun 09
No, I never managed to get it off. Even during sugery they had to tape the ring in case of germs. Once, I tried to get it off and throw at my husband but I could not get it off. We ended up giggling. He would never fight or argue so my tantrums during the foirst year of masrriage just fizzled out. He was so quiet - full of fun but his temper was not arounsed easily. I still wear both rings - even though I have been a widow for 9 years now.
• United States
1 Jun 09
I would too... unless I remarried.
@ravinskye (8242)
• United States
31 May 09
Right now my rings are off because they don't fit my finger. I kept getting a pain in my hand and couldn't figure out why, then I thought maybe it was because of my rings being tight. I took them off and the pain went away. I bought a really pretty ring that has a heart in the middle and our birthstones on it to take its place though. The only other time I usually took my rings off is when we fought really bad too. (ya know i'm starting to think we were separated at birth lol) I usually feel like that is the only way to get through to him that I'm really upset.
• United States
31 May 09
It doesn't mean anything to my hubby anymore. He just gets mad at me when my ring comes off and calls me childish for doing it. There's not a whole lot I can do these days to show him how upset I really am.
• United States
31 May 09
I take my rings off when I do the dishes or shower. I have a lot of dishes to do and the soap and dirty water can leave a really nasty scum on the stones really quickly! I get my rings dirty enough without the help of the dishes! I also take my rings off when I sleep. A few years ago, before I was married, I had forgotten to take my rings off one night. The next day I was going to an amusement park with a friend. We had to stop at the first aid station when we first got there. My fingers swell a bit overnight and I couldnt get my rings off! I didnt want my fingers to swell more in the heat and humidity, so I had them pry them off at the first aid station. It hurt quite a bit to have it done, but I was thankful they didnt have to cut them off! I wont be making that mistake again!
• United States
31 May 09
I think mine would have be to cut off , or I would have to be greased i[ like a pig to get it off . It's only a small band so I forget it's there .
@lilybug (21148)
• United States
31 May 09
I have never been married, but I have been engaged. I used to take that ring off during a fight. It was just a cheap little ring anyway. I got mad at him one time and threw it out the car window in the middle of the night once. Never saw that ring again.
• United States
31 May 09
Doesn't sound surprising you didn't end up getting married to that one, does sound like it was a very good relationship! I've thankfully never thrown my ring somewhere I couldn't retrieve it. Mine is a real diamond... not much of one mind you, but it is real. I'll throw it across the room and sometimes have to dig into a pile of clothes or toys in order to find it, but I've always managed to get it back.
• Canada
31 May 09
I don't do a lot of cooking, that's hubby's job. He loves cooking. However, I would take my rings off if I did the tasks you mentioned. I don't have kids either, so I don't need to think about baithing children or cleaning up after them. My mother always takes her rings off to bake and do dirty work. As for getting mad at hubby, I can think of one funny occurance, but it got the point across. he was on the phone with one of his ex-wives (he has a few) and I could tell she was pulling his strings and being rather manipulative. I was trying to get him out of the line of fire, but AS USUAL my husband was allowing this woman to suck him in, and as his WIFE (no ex there!) I was sick of it. I took off my ring, and handed it to him!! I just handed it to him while hwas on the phone. He kinda looked at it for a second, and then figured out what I was trying to say, and got done with the ex right away. :) Now when he's in a similar situation "giving him the ring" is our signal that she's trying to rope him into something.
• United States
31 May 09
Glad he got the message. My hubby is also very willing to let people walk all over him... everyone except me that is. Sometimes that means these people end up walking all over me, and somehow he's more capable of dealing with my attitude than anyone else's.
@caesarin (1091)
• Indonesia
25 Jun 09
I never wear my ring and so is my husband. I'd love to wear it but since my husband don't wear it, I don't too. He doesn't want to see the soft scratches on his ring, while he have to do lots of messy works. Besides, our wedding rings have diamonds on it. So, we decided to wear it on special occasions like parties, etc. Somewhere we don't do messy works.
@sacmom (14315)
• United States
25 Jun 09
I don't normally take it off to do the dishes or bathe the kids, though I have taken off one of my rings (I wear both my engagement ring and wedding ring together) while I was working some years ago. As the job I had was a real messy one I only wore my wedding ring, as it is a simple gold band. I didn't want to chance loosing my engagement ring as it is a diamond solitaire. Not only that, but it's actually the ring I got married with so it has a lot of sentimental value to me. I've also taken my rings off a couple of times when I was mad at my husband. I haven't done that in years. I did take it off last night to make a point though. My husband hasn't been wearing his ring for a few months now because his fingers have swelled up and his ring doesn't fit. Which wouldn't normally bother me, but he's started teasing me about the women coming on to him. So I took mine off to make a point. He didn't like it one bit. Big surprise!
@deejean06 (1953)
• United States
8 Jun 09
Hi katsmeow...I constantly take my ring off - I take it off when I wash dishes, when I shower, when I go to sleep. I know there are some people who think that you should never take your ring off because you'll only lose it - but thankfully that hasn't happened to me yet. I've never taken it off out of anger though. I think that would hurt him more than anything and I just couldn't do that.
@emma412 (1156)
• United States
8 Jun 09
Ha Ha! I think I have taken my ring off twice when my husband and I have gotten into a big fight. I was just so mad I didn't want to look down and see that band that was tied to the thing making me so angry. He got really mad both times when he realized I was not wearing it. I think I have taken it off one or two other times just because it was irritating my skin. I am pregnant right now and my fingers are so swollen all the time. I don't think I could get it off if I tried right now. I hope the hubs doesn't piss me off! Haha!
@walijo2008 (4648)
• United States
2 Jun 09
I don't hardly take them off, the only time I'll take them off is like you when I'm messing with any kind of dough, or if I have to use my hands to mix something up like meatloaf or making hamburger patties, its gross to get that meat in your rings. I don't take them off when I get mad at my husband though. He does get onto me if I have them sitting by the sink he says thats a good way for them to fall down the drain..lol
@jesssp (2742)
• Canada
1 Jun 09
The last time I took mine off was this morning when I put hand lotion on. I cannot stand putting lotion on when I'm wearing rings! I take mine off a lot, they come off when I do dishes, when I work in the yard and every night before bed. I made the mistake of wearing my engagement ring when I did yard work last year and I wore the finish off the bottom of it. I can't sleep with them on because my hair gets caught in the setting and ripped out! I try to remember to put them on whenever I leave the house but if it's a weekend and I'm running around between doing chores and errands it usually stays at home. Luckily I haven't got mad enough at him to leave it off on purpose but I am definitely not above doing that if I was angry enough!
• United States
1 Jun 09
The last time I took it off was to clean it. Yes I've taken it off when I've been mad at him. And boy does that piss him off! But you know what... he's lost 2 rings so far (haven't bought #3 yet) & they don't allow them to wear it at work so I understand. But still hurts that he doesn't wear one on his off days.
@cobra1368 (704)
• United States
1 Jun 09
I do take my ring off occasionally. However, I've never taken it off in anger with my hubby. Typically, it comes off when I'm gardening, when I apply lotion to myself, and sometimes before showering. I've scratched the bejesus out of myself with that thing! I will also take it off if I'm doing a type of cooking that involves hand-kneeding or hand-mixing. I have to admit that occasionally, I will leave the house without it, having forgotten to put it back on. It is never intentional though. I love my ring and it has become an extension of my hand!
• United States
1 Jun 09
The only time I take my ring off is when I'm cleaning it.
• United States
1 Jun 09
Me and my husband always used to wear our rings. I used to take it off only when I would do my daughters hair cause of the conditioner I would put in her hair my rings would fall off. He had to take his ring off cause... well, painfully he got stuck to the rack of his van at work cause of it and it messed up his finger. Then we got into a big argument about 3 months ago, and he told me to take them off so I did. Haven't put them on since. But normally if he didn't ask, I would never take them off, not even in an argument.
@la_chique (1499)
1 Jun 09
I'm not even engaged, but I've told my bf that I want a wishbone sapphire ring. No big rocks or anything. I'd hate to ever have to take it off. I know I'd need to for cleaning sometimes or cooking but I dont think I'd even take it off when we argue. As much as he annoys me sometimes, it doesnt mean I dont love him.
@vivapinay (232)
• Philippines
1 Jun 09
rain or shine, I always wear my wedding ring. Thats the only ring that I want to ring. The rest of the rings I have, I only wear when there is an occassion. I am not really a jewelry person so I just wear something when the outfit needs it. I will probably wont wear it when I will separate with my husband which I hope will not.
• United States
1 Jun 09
I wanted to never take my ring off but the day after the wedding I realized that that was impracticle. My ring is titianium and slightly too large. Whenever it is cold or if I am washing dishes it just slids right off.
@schulzie (4064)
• United States
1 Jun 09
It is very rare for me to take my ring off. The only time I do is if I am making meatloaf or bread, something like that because it is just so difficult to remove all of the stuff from the diamond setting area - just like you said. The only other time I have removed my ring was when I gave birth as the hospital made me do that because I was having an operation - all my kids were c-sections. And lastly I have removed it when I was painting as I did not want paint on my diamond. Have a great day and happy myLotting!!!