Do Looks Matter???

@lisa0351 (303)
United States
May 31, 2009 7:54pm CST
I always hear how people say in relationships that looks shouldn't matter and should be put behind other things such as honesty, being trustworthy, etc. What is your opinion? Do looks matter to you? Being honest, looks do matter to me. I think that the way a person looks reflects a lot about who they are and how they take care of themselves. Even an average person can look amazing with proper grooming and self respect. So yes, to me looks matter....but thinks like honesty matter more.
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@BlueGoblin (1833)
• United States
1 Jun 09
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@Archie0 (4669)
1 Jun 09
looks does matter... but it also depends on how you carry yourself. just becuase things donot come as fast as we want to people tend to get clingy! and this pushes people away becuase no one wants to have to carry any one else and their own weight. try dressing up some more and relaxing and pratice confidence. and deeep down inside you may be chasing peoplewho have issue themselves wtih commitment. just lay back and try to fins someone who isnt so hard to chase and will play game but look for someone else who may be like you or who may have flaws that others do not have i bet you will make a good match for each other and will learn to grow
• Senegal
5 Jun 09
Nobody wants to have ugly hubby...but what is beauty if the brain is empty....
@apples99 (6564)
• United States
1 Jun 09
I'm gonna be honest as I am always when someone ask this question, I think that the first and most importaunt thing is whats (inside) and the kind of person someone is, over all, but I do belive that fisical attraction plays a small part when to people first meet untile after they get to know each other and learn more about whats inside so I belive in some small way looks do matter but its not the most importaunt thing becuse if someone was fisiclly atractive but lacked a loving and caring heart and had no personalty I would defintly not take an intrest in them no matter how they looked, and I consider myself very open minded and caring and I also belive that everyone deserves a chance at love even if they may not be so fisiclly perfect. but as I said looks do play a very small role when we first meet people its not what people want to belive, but I think its true, lets look at nature the peacocks for exaple the females mate with the male peacock with the most atractive tail fethers and there are many other creatures that mate with eacother based on what they belive is beautyful, but that also reminds us that beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
@happy6162 (3011)
• United States
1 Jun 09
I think as far as looks go if a person is clean has clean clothes and is well groom then that is what counts in the looks department. Honesty and trustworthy matter more. If you can not trust the person in the relationships or that person is not honest the relationship will have a hard time to last.
@SKLOTS (21)
• United States
1 Jun 09
Hygiene is a MUST! Should be a given really, but with guys... you just never know. LOL! just kidding! Seriously, personality matters so much more. Someone's personality is what makes them all the more beautiful. Someone with an excellent sense of humor and a good out look on life tends to give off an attractive vibe. Ever meet a really good-lookn person, then watch them say or do something mean, suddenly they just seem less good-lookn?
@jcc51189 (78)
• United States
1 Jun 09
Look so matter to an extent. However, looks should not be the sole reason to be with someone. I prefer to look at personality but I do have a limit on what I want someone to look like. I would not go out with someone with poor hygiene that's for sure. I agree with you that looks can sometimes reflects how much self respect and worth that person has for themselves. Most of the time, if someone has the perfect personality for you, then they will also appear to be physically attractive ^_^
1 Jun 09
I think looks must matter to everybody. Otherwise what attracted you to that person in the first place. You don't look at someone and say, hey he is so honest I'm gonna go chat him up. I personally think that the only difference is taste. Some people will only go out with eye candy. Others are happy with a normal looking person who isn't full of themselves. Then the personality etc... comes into play.
@flyhun (28)
• Germany
1 Jun 09
Yeah, to me looks are really important. Because people will always judge you by looks first. And nobody can know if your partner is very nice or not. They will think: Wow, that person's ugly, how can he/she be your bf/gf? That's what really bothers me. But at the end of the day, if you love the person for who he/she is, then I guess you should go for it maybe.
• Philippines
1 Jun 09
Honestly speaking good looks in a man/woman really matters lets not be Hipocrite here,when we saw someone we always base on how they look buT for me that should not be the basis on someone,there are more important in a human aside from their look,like their attitude or their overall personality buT h0w can we do that if we are already decieve of what we saw,lets just remember that good lo0ks will fade away in the fuTure buT go0d heart will remain until we die..
@gemini_rose (16193)
1 Jun 09
I have to say that looks matter to me too in a relationship, if I look at a guy and there is no initial attraction there look wise then I would probably not bother! But saying that the person could be the best looking person in the world and have no personality to match which I have come across a few times, but I still go for the looks attraction first. Well, not anymore cos I am married but if I was not then I would hehe!!!
@Ithink (10673)
• United States
1 Jun 09
I think personality is way more important. Looks dont last no matter what a person looks like, everyone gets old and changes, so you better hope that there is more to the relationship then being with someone because of their looks. There is so much more to a person then looks. Yes good hygiene is one thing but looks is totally another. To just want someone because of their looks is shallow. Like I have read, You can have a beauty that is all about themselves or someone that is more plain but that cares about others. What would your choice be?
• United States
1 Jun 09
I don't think looks are the most important thing in a relationship, but if you aren't physically attracted to someone why would you have come to be in a relatinship in the first place. I try to go by a person's personality and values, but you have to have mutual attraction also.
• Philippines
1 Jun 09
Beauty fades but a persons heart is eternity... Looks is just a bonus to me...
@Sandra1952 (6052)
• Spain
1 Jun 09
Looks is probably the first thing that attracts us in most cases. In my case, my husband was a friend who became important to me before we fell in love. He is the first to admit he's not God's Gift to Women, but he is a really nice person who is always happy. He is always clean and well groomed, and smells nice, so he is great to be with. Most importantly, he treats me like a queen and never looks at other women, although they are attracted to him by his personality and sense of humour. I think a lot of good looking people know they are good looking, and think that is all they need to contribute to the relationship. They think too much about themselves and not nough about others.
@gogoshan (30)
• Canada
1 Jun 09
Of course Looks matter! but it doesn't matter the most though. If two people are online dating before they meet in person...and they already build up this feelings for each other, then looks probably matters less to them. Coz they won't judge each other by their appearence then. But still, self respect is a must! You must respect yourself before paying respect to others!
• India
1 Jun 09
To be frank,lokk matters a lot ,not only for me but i think for everybody.It is the look that flashes first to every body,and not his honesty or other traits.
@amylan (191)
• France
1 Jun 09
To me the way that look matters is that it constitute the complex of self-identity. I rely on my instinct so I do believe looks relect personalities. Honestly I do dislike certain people because of their looks and it's hard to say they look good or not ,just the fact that I don't like the way they look.
@rexertea (117)
• India
1 Jun 09
Looks does matter, but only initially. It's like a bait, once the relationship starts, then the look doesn't matter that much. few other characters play more dominant role in maintaining a relationship. traits like honesty, ability to accept people as they are, ability to tolerate others and so on, are some of these qualities that play a major role in influencing a relationship. Yes, looks does play a role in many people's life when they look to start a relationship. beyond that the game is entirely different.
@chillpill90 (1937)
1 Jun 09
i go for personality all the time because when someone is old i would rather be with someone who i get on with rather than somone i have nothinbg in common with. Also i believe that if you have a good personality it is reflected in how you or they look.
@denisewy (90)
• Philippines
1 Jun 09
You know, if you really like a person, looks won't matter anymore. It's true that people always notice the "looks" before the attitude. For me, looks doesn't matter that much. As long as the person loves you then everything's alright. Hey mylotters answer my questions too. . whine. . . .thanks