Do you prefer older partners, younger or same age?
By rsanders26
@rsanders26 (329)
Philippines
June 1, 2009 12:33am CST
Hi. Want to know some opinions if age matters when you choose your bf/gf? Or if given a chance what will you choose, older, younger or same age with you. If you have experiences please do share. For me, it will not matter as long as I like her and she likes me as well.:)
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36 responses
@ratyz5 (7808)
• Philippines
4 Jun 09
Yeah, me too, it wouldn't matter if she's older a few years or she's younger a couple of years.. uhmmm I hope not that young or not too old, just around two or three year difference I guess..
Then again, there are already younger people who think more mature and there are also older youths that still think like children.
Anyway, as long as we like each other, age won't matter.. as long as its just two or three years in difference between us.. 
I guess it still matters after all~!
I guess it still matters after all~!
@vasrilu (9)
• India
3 Jun 09
I ever feel that my partner should be ealder or same age but never be younger to me caz I feel that my partner should be in stage that he can guide me and make me feel that he is very much intelligent in every thing in experience or in feelings.....I like that my partner should lead me with his great thoughts...... rather than I feel that he dont know any thing more than me after all he is younger to me....
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@mylesnarvaez (5451)
• Philippines
1 Jun 09
preference is... as preference goes. most women would prefer guys older than they are. but not merely on age. most women prefer a much mature and responsible guy. someone dependable and committed. someone she can rely on. often, women associate these characteristics with older guys.
women would like to be pampered sometimes, be taken cared of, be prioritized over basketball/ football games and boxing match. often, younger guys have different focus and priorities in life. therefore, not a good match for a woman who prefers an older guy. i'm not saying a younger guy can't have great personalities, they do. it's just that often, women's wants and needs are different. like for example, a woman wants to settle down already and an older guy might just be willing to take that road also, but a younger guy would want to do something else in his life still... places to go, things to do etc.
i've been involved with guys younger and older than i am. my first was 6 months younger and the last was 2 years younger. in between those two are older guys, about 3-8 years older. i'm fairly attracted to older guys, with more experience and family-oriented. but sometimes, i end up with a younger one too. perhaps because they are also mature for their age.
would age matter? yes, definitely. when one is still in school and the other is working already. when one is mature intellectually and emotionally while the other isn't.
and no, it won't matter when both are financially independent and responsible for their choices and actions. coz this is still a matter of choice. sometimes we prefer one thing but life has given us something else.
@mylesnarvaez (5451)
• Philippines
1 Jun 09
as far back as 6th grade, i had a younger guy following me in school, he was a fifth grader. that was amusing at the time being a junior police in school and he always follows me around in my "duty areas" even when i was assigned to kindergarten kids. i just assumed he'd get tired of it after some time so i just let him be. he was really kinda sweet, saying "i love you" openly, with other kids in clear earshot... everyday. that lasted the whole school year because i went to a different school in highschool.
when i was a junior in highschool, i met a younger guy again, a freshman. he follows me around too but has maintained his distance. he was really too shy while in school but very bold when we were outside. he even sees me home after school, with one block as our distance. hahaha
anyway, when i graduated in highschool he and his friends gave me flowers and wrote me a card. that's when he wrote down something so close to "i love you". but since i left for university and moved in another city, i never really saw him again.
it was amusing at the time to be fancied by a younger guy, but i knew it wasn't really serious to take it to the next level. one lasted a year, the other lasted two years... but i didn't feel there was any courtship involved. besides we were too young then. and i knew that it was just an infatuation, a stage they would grow out of.
i don't like to encourage younger guys, but i can't do much else if they persisted. it's still amusing to find myself an object of affection of a younger guy but i always say upfront what my preferences are or my current situation in the relationship arena. if he could live with that, then so be it. but i don't make promises of the outcome whatever that may be. the most i'm willing to offer is friendship. bringing it to the next level is still an unknown ground. i just like to take each day as it is. :)
@rsanders26 (329)
• Philippines
1 Jun 09
Myles! Thanks for nice response. No comment! hehehe But if a younger guy will have interest with you, would you consider it? Smile!:)
@angelbelle578 (1635)
• Philippines
1 Jun 09
I like to have a partner that is just closer to my age around 2 years older than me. I do make relationship with girls too. About girls its okay if they are two to three years older or younger with me.
@rsanders26 (329)
• Philippines
1 Jun 09
Hi. So you both go for a boy and girl relationship? How does it feel? hehehe
@carrine (2743)
• Philippines
1 Jun 09
i prefer older than me. as in like 10 years ahead of me or more than that. i dont like younger than me ever. i dont know it, its just i dont feel being somebody whos younger than me. and time is so teaser, because most men who invited me or courting me are younger than me. and i told them , no way! i dont like younger one's and they will laugh at me. LOL
@rsanders26 (329)
• Philippines
1 Jun 09
Thanks for the response. It means that all suitors younger that you will receive a big NO right away? hehehe Maybe time is asking you to try younger ones! How about mature face but young age? hehehe
@imajerseygirl (433)
• United States
2 Jun 09
Choose? Well I just always had more attraction to the older men (3-5 years older than me) I never found the men younger than me appealing. So I don't think choose is the proper word, more of like attraction.
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@antisociality (163)
• Philippines
1 Jun 09
I prefer an older boyfriend, Im very picky really, but I know relationships are not based on age alone though.
@rsanders26 (329)
• Philippines
1 Jun 09
Thanks for passing by my discussion. I agree that it's not based on the age.:) Happy mylotting!
@med889 (5941)
•
1 Jun 09
I have always believe that my partner should atleast be 5 years older than me buy eventually my boyfriend is the same age of me with only 12 days older, I never though someone the same age can cope with me but he is what I was looking for, intelligence, maturity, and responsible which brings many positive factors also like honesty, faithfulness, affectionate and so on.
So age is not a big hurdle when you have liked or loved someone deeply, it only depends on what you feel for the other person.
@rsanders26 (329)
• Philippines
1 Jun 09
Thanks. In your situatiom right now, age will definitely not matter. You already found someone that makes you smile each day. Congrats! Hope you will be lovers forever:)
@CHORES (229)
• China
14 Jun 09
I prefer the same age.I think same age has more topic and will decrease the possibility of quarral especially quarral of different opinions.
I 've fallen inlove with a preety boy of same age.
I think everyday we spend together is sweet^-^
@queennee (186)
• Philippines
1 Jun 09
hi rsanders26,im married and my husband and i are of the same age.but if i were to choose i like older han me,reason is they're more mature than i am and i like to be pampered with older men :)though not that very old from me,five years or 8 is okay :)aside from that,older than me i think knows more in decsision making and well experience as well,thats how i figured them out :).though there some misunderstanding between the gap,but still older men i guess always understands :).well,its just a matter of choice and depends really on the partner,regardless of the age and gap as long as love is their.everything will be okay.im married with the man of my age and we enjoy each other company and understands each other.. :) good day!
@rsanders26 (329)
• Philippines
1 Jun 09
Hello queennee. Thanks for the response. What is important is you enjoy being together even if his not older than you.:)
@desteny114 (886)
• United States
3 Jun 09
I have always dated older men they might be one or two years older or more. My ex was almost ten years older than me and we were together for five years. And my husband is just a few months younger than me and have been together for two years.
I don't think that age really matters I know of a 30 something years old man that is dating a 70 something yearold women. I know it sound weir but they are together I don't know if they love each other but they do look happy.
Age to me those not matter because some people may be younger but are more matuer than others. There are also older people that have not matture enough. So all that matters is that you are happy with that person regarless of the age.
@Thebraggingman (275)
• New Zealand
1 Jun 09
I am a young person so I prefer people who are a bit younger than me. Say a year or two. Girls prefer older guys so it's only natural to aim for a lower bar and go for girls that are a bit younger. Also girls that are older are too mature for my liking. I like the fun spunky type of girls.
@rsanders26 (329)
• Philippines
1 Jun 09
Welcome to mylot! Most of the girls really like older guys. But most of them ended up in the same age/:)
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
3 Jun 09
When I was younger, I wanted an older boyfriend, at least 20 years younger. These days I see it is better if he is just little bit older or my same age. It is so good to be able to talk about the same things we remember or experienced.if he is older, he may not be in the same things or he may look ay them differently. but with that said, if there is a real connection, then that's what matters.if we love the same types of movies or he loves hockey as much as I , then it should work regardless of age.It is the connection that matters.
@idowrite72 (2213)
• United States
2 Jun 09
Age means nothing to me but it does seem that younger men have been attracted to me lately. I have been married to a man over 10 years older than I am and have had a relationship with a man 19 years younger. If I had to choose, the younger man and I got along much better. I think I could be with someone of any age, but I think that I am a young thinker, for the most part. I am seeing someone much younger now, but it is not a "relationship", but a friendship, and is someone I have known for many years and he is many years younger than I am. The age is nothing, but what is in the mind and heart of someone who I meet and who I can communicate with.
@Crysi23 (515)
• United States
2 Jun 09
To me personally age doesn't matter to me my husband is 3 years younger than me I believe it goes by maturity of the person not how old someone is. When I met my husband he was more mature than most of the men my age.
So I took as an opportunity to snag him up before any else had the chance to. We are happily married for almost 5 years now we have a wonderful baby girl together who is now 6 months.
@meticulo (1286)
• United States
2 Jun 09
Honestly for me age doesn't matter. I have a boyfriend before who is older than me for 10 years but still he has immature attributes. Now, my husband and I are in the same age but we get along well. There are just times when we fight about little things. But I guess it's part of any relationship. For me what matters is the whole personality of the person because age doesn't guarantee that a person is good enough for you.
@intari (190)
• Indonesia
3 Jun 09
i think age no matter to choose partners. no matter their age, as long as they have a good behaviour and match with us , why not? sometimes the older one still childish in face their life, and the younger can be more grown up in their mind to fill up their lives.
