For the ladies. What qualities in a man would be deal breakers for you?

@sharone74 (4839)
United States
June 1, 2009 7:58am CST
Everyone knows that women envision, from early childhood, the type of man that we want and over time when we grow up and start dating, we start to refine our list of qualities that we are looking for in a man. Also evey unsuccessful relationship also adds to the list of things that we know that we don't want in a man. So what qualities would put a man in consideration for a long term relationship or possible marriage with you? Like a sense of humor that matches yours, intelligence, a specific hair or eye color. What qualities are on your list of undesirables? Which ones are deal breakers, where if a man suddenly exibited "this" quality even if he were a strong candidate hitherto, he would just have to go? Why are these sticking points so important to you? Have you ever analyzed why you want what you want in a mate?
2 responses
@cbeee3 (2064)
• India
7 Jun 09
Interesting question. ;) Qualities I look for in order of priority: Loyalty,Respect,Intelligence, someone who is as candid as I am,Humor, similar interests, Looks ( an added bonus. lol) Qualities that would be a deal breaker: A liar, a cheat, someone who is over possessive. ( All out of personal experience) And yes I have analyzed why I want and don't want these qualities in my man. Life teaches you lessons and its wise to learn :)
@sharone74 (4839)
• United States
10 Jun 09
Amen to that cbeee3! I have learned over the years exactly what I want in a guy, and though I won't specify anything as to looks. For me I prefer solid, stable, reliable, and dependable, white males over 40. I would prefer some level of higher education but it is not required as long as they have a strong intellect. Lastly I don't like my men to pretty for the same reason that I don't want a youngster, because they often don't know how to handle a lady with as strong a will and streak of independence as mine. I believe that we build out list of criteria for the perfect man from the list of all the imperfect men we have ever met, don't you?
@cbeee3 (2064)
• India
10 Jun 09
Absolutely my girl! Every failed relation teaches us about the qualities we do not want in our men. We all set out with a checklist of good qualities.But the check list of donts normally comes out of experience. I guess this is because when we are younger, we look at the list of dos and if a guy has it, we think we are super duper blessed, until we go, "hey, why on earth is he doing that!" lol.. Touche to what you just said :)
• Saint Lucia
1 Jun 09
Well with me its disrespect for others be it your friends or family.I have learned(through experience)that when someone has no respect for others its natural he wont respect you.Also i want someone who will be a father figure for my daughter.If i meet a guy who is obsessed with s*x its a nono.There are things that i wouldnt be impressed with and one of them is a father who has neglected his childen because he and the mother dont agree.In this time and age we have to be very careful with the people we invite in our lives.Now some women choose to stay single parents because you just cant trust men around your kids.Hope i dont offend anyone but these are situation i know with some of my relatives who have men overlook the fact that these were their children.When we grow up we realize all the problem there is in this world.