Do you get mad when your friends don't participate in your discussions?

@Citychic (4067)
United States
June 1, 2009 12:19pm CST
Hello Mylotters, hope you all had a great weekend. Just wondering if you get mad when a new friend doesn't participate in your discussions? Recently I had an incident where I lost a friend over this matter. Just wondering if any of you take offense easily over the matter?
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@emilie2300 (1882)
• United States
1 Jun 09
I wouldnt get mad because maybe it a topic they have nothinbg to speak upon. So it is there opinion to speak in your disscussion or not as for me I don't get mad.
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@Citychic (4067)
• United States
1 Jun 09
Are we going to get mad or not mad here at mylot, That is the question:) Hello Emilie2300, thanks a lot, I like the way you said that and I couldn't have said it any clearer. Happy mylotting..............To speak or not speak here at mylot is the friend's choice and it shouldn't be mandatory. Hope you have a great day.
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• United States
8 Jun 09
Your welcome well I was just speaking my feelings and opinion. We may not have things to talk about it that topic.
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
1 Jun 09
There are a lot of things that I've found myself getting mad over easily from this site. I think though that when it comes to people not responding there are a lot of circumstances that cause a person to not respond to a discussion or discussions a person's made. Sometimes it's as simple as having a lot of emails to go through and not finding the email from mylot until later, sometimes it's using the "friends started" tab and having the same thing happen, I usually just try to think about it as this, really there's nothing to worry about! Just respond!
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@Citychic (4067)
• United States
1 Jun 09
mad at mylot? Okay I can understand where you're coming from SomeCowgirl. My take on it is why worrry, worry cannot add one day to our lives. Usually it will not win a friend back and if the person was a real friend they wouldn't be expecting for you to do everything for them anyhow............ Thanks for responding. Happy mylotting!
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@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
2 Jun 09
I'm one of those members that like to stick to the rules. Lol, although trust me I'm not one you could consider a "troll" why would I waste my time doing that? lol. Well I wanted to comment back and say I appreciate you commenting back to me. I agree though, Why worry? lol, reminds me of "don't get mad, get glad" or "don't worry be happy".
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@Citychic (4067)
• United States
2 Jun 09
Hello SomeCowgirl, I think that you are I are on the same page. I like to keep things lighthearted as much as possible. Whenever possible. If we do decide to get mad we would only be hurting ourselves because life moves on and wait on no one. I think the whole idea behind mylot is so that we will respond to discussions then eventually form bonds through our friendships.....As for trolls I am pretty good at ducking them out....and if it comes up I will set a trap......hee hee hee!
@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
1 Jun 09
It's swings and roundabouts, the way I see it, sometimes my friends start discussions which I cannot contribute to, and sometimes I have started discussions that my friends haven't contributed to, not every discussion can be responded to for the sake of friendship or earning extra cents! So never get mad, accept that this is what happens. I am sorry you lost a friend over it. It takes a lot to offend me and I guess I just accept more things nowadays, especially on Mylot.
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@Citychic (4067)
• United States
1 Jun 09
Mad or not??? Hello Wolfie, thanks also for giving lot of insight into this discussion. I'm not here to try to offend anyone and I want to keep as many people happy as I possibly can but I think that you hit the nail on the heard when you said "not every discussion can be responded to for the sake of friendship". Right there I thought that you said a mouthful because I guess some people feel like since we are friends we are obligated to respond their discussion. Well I don't know about anyone else but I can only speak for myself and I just like to let folks know that my family comes before mylot. For example if I have to make a choice whether to cook dinner for my family or be here at mylot answering discussions and posting them. Well mylot would probably get left behind. While I'm not trying to say that the friends that I meet here are not important. All that I'm really trying to say is that we all have our priorities.....Hope that everyone that read this post can understand. There is actually more to life than mylot and I have to get to posting discussions etc and chatting with friends when i can simply because I'm always someones mom and that happened way long before I ever even heard of mylot! Wishing everyone all the best.
@Reesers (1387)
• United States
1 Jun 09
No, I don't get mad. We all have different interests. I understand not everyone is going to like the same things that I do and vice versa. If they don't respond, that's fine. Sometimes they do and it's usually on a common interest. It's like any other discussion for me - if it interests me, then I'll respond. If not, I'll move on until I find one that does.
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@Citychic (4067)
• United States
1 Jun 09
mad or not mad at mylot??? hello Reesers, thank you for your input, I couldn't have said it any better myself. If you see what you are looking for, you hang around and if not then you move on. Maybe at a minimum it will drive our friends to put more into their discussions. Let's hope so! Happy mylotting........... Hope you have a nice day!
@ds6413 (2070)
• United States
1 Jun 09
Hello Citychic , I can't say that I have ever started any discussion. If I did I wouldn't take offense to one of mylot friends not participating. I try to read up on what my mylot friends started but if I don't have anything to say on the matter I hope they are not offended when I don't contribute.
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@Citychic (4067)
• United States
1 Jun 09
Okay ds6413, let's hope that they are not offended. But since you say that you don't post discussions I don't think that you will have anything that you need to be concerned with. Hope it all go well with you. Happy mylotting.
@kalaga (547)
• United States
1 Jun 09
i dont think so.u know but it is also differs in many ways.sometimes we forget to comment,sometimes we are not interested in that topic or we dont know what to say about that topic..,u know.lot of reasons.maybe they will respond to some other ones.u never know.
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@Citychic (4067)
• United States
1 Jun 09
Mad or not??? Hello Kalaga, yes I know exactly what you are saying. It could be many different things that might all be taking place at once. So I"m not going to worry about it. Anyhow, thanks for giving me some insight.....I guess that is kind of like what I was curious about concerning mylot in the first place. How in the world could so many different people respond to one post. Even if they did, would you humanly be able to respond back in a reasonable amount of time??? Oh well it's just things that I be over here wondering about. Don't feel pressured to answer back, only if you want to. Happy mylotting, have a nice evening.
@justinus (1104)
• Karawaci, Indonesia
1 Jun 09
Of course not.even I dont think that I will get respond from my friend list only, see I am more than 3 years member at myLot, posted only less than 500 and collected $8.5, yes I posted posted new discussion and there was NO ONE respond, I felt not enjoy but I didnt blame anyone, I know as Asian which is difference in time, culture and all aspects I can not expect much from the base of peoples where myLot station, I mean people from USA and other north america. My experince told that much respond come to me only from Phillipine, Singapore and sometime China all of them are my neighbour countries. Even I have to say thanks that I still allowed to be myLot international member although myLot did not classified their membership by region or by continent and then treat them at difference grade, it was just matter of distance and diference time.It is all right to me and fully .it is all right to me and fully accepted.
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@sid556 (30960)
• United States
2 Jun 09
my friends tend to be ones that i meet on here through other discussions. No...I don't get upset if they don't answer my discussions. I assume that they either did not see them or that my particular discussion was not anything that interested them. If you lost a friend for that reason...they were not much of a friend to begin with. their loss.
• Malaysia
2 Jun 09
No, I experienced it before but i never felt being offended. Since he or she is new friend, we may not yet know each other well. It takes years to build the trust and it can be break within a second. If you want to make more friend, be patient and understanding. Once your new friend discovers your virtues, they will treasure their friendship with you.
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@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
1 Jun 09
No, I realize that my discussions may not be for everybody. On the other hand, if somebody never visits my discussions, it's much less likely that I will visit theirs. If somebody visits my discussions a lot, I will make a point to visit theirs.
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@sweetyethot (1737)
• China
2 Jun 09
Personally,I dont mind whether my friends participate in my discussions or not.I've been inactive for a long time.Whenever I sign in,I try to respond to my friends' discussions.Hope you wouldnt get mad at me if I dont participate in yours.
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
1 Jun 09
I always appreciate it when my friends particiate in my discussions, but I definately don't get mad or disappointed if they don't particiate. I can't expect everyone to be interested in the same topics as me, and maybe my friends just don't have anything to say about my topics. I always take a look at the discussions started by my friends. A few of my friends start a lot of discussions that I find interesting and I often respond to their discussions, but that doesn't mean that they are more important to me than my other friends or that I don't want to help the other friends earn, we just happen to have a lot of hobbies in common.
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@jugsjugs (12967)
1 Jun 09
I do not get mad at anyone for not answering one of my discussions as just like me they may not find the time to answer all the discussions of all their friends.I dont always find the time to come on mylot,but when i do i try to answer as many discussions as i can if they are my friends dicussions or other people discussions.Happy mylotting.
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@tashakau (131)
• Canada
1 Jun 09
I do not think this is a reason to get mad, your friends may not even have the answer to your questions and maybe they did not have the time to respond yet. We are all very busy people and anytime we can discuss and respond on mylot is a privilege. The definition of friends is not someone to responds to our questions!
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@YazEid (1139)
• Philippines
1 Jun 09
Hello Citychic , It would be grate if all my friends commented on my posts and discussions , but I know that it is impossible , but I won't feel offense If someone didn't , everybody has a reasonable excuse not to comment and I can't blame anybody for that have a nice day
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• Philippines
8 Feb 10
Hello Citychic! I do not get mad even if my friends do not participate in my discussions. I couldn't expect everyone to be interested in the discussions I start. I believe that's just how it is. While I am not interested in ALL the discussions my friends start, I am sure that they also feel the same towards some of the discussions I start.
@vicky30 (4766)
• India
1 Jul 09
I never get mad when friends don't participate in my discussions.I know they will be busy or they will not have access to the internet.i will always respond to a friends discussion to get ratings.I could also get a best response from there.Even if one friend responds to my discussion i am very happy.a few other people respond because they like my discussion.
@mammamuh (582)
• Sweden
4 Jun 09
No way! I don't have the time to respond to the discussions my friends started - I respond to discussions I feel I have things to add something to. Some friendsmakes tons of discussions on topics I don't care for andI really hope they doesn't think I'm a bad "friend". I've never added any friends here - I've been added by almost all of them - they don't ansver my discussions either *lol*
@CHORES (229)
• China
14 Jun 09
Well I think I won't be so mad.I think there must be some reason.Maybe she just isn't interest in the topic Why should we force our friend to participate in our program? So I hope you can talk to your friends more and the you may won't lose a friend! Happy Thoday!
@TRS757 (19)
• United States
1 Jun 09
No, and the reason is because you can't make your friends do what you want. Its up to them. Remember not everyone is interested in the same subject!
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