Need advice on Wedding planning with my daughter.

@Mommamea (1215)
United States
November 12, 2006 3:15am CST
I love my daughter dearly and she is starting to make plans for her wedding. The date isn't actualy set yet but with her fiance being in the Army he told her to start looking at dresses. Like that isn't a hint. I want my daughter to have the best day of her life. We don't seem to be able to communicate very well when it comes to the details. I want her to keep an open mind on her options. She is totally the opposite of a Bridezilla. How do I get her to understand that I want her to be pampered and Queen of king of the day? I don't want her to say later on I wish I would have done that on my wedding day. Any suggestions? She reads my discussions so you can give her the advice as well.
2 responses
@Ljorge (1497)
• United States
12 Nov 06
in the end, she wants what she wants. if she is the oposite of a bridezilla, then let her pick what she wants. I feel it is IMPOSSIBLE to cover all the bases when you are planning a wedding. No matter whats she decides on, there will always be 1 or 2 things she will be like, " Dang, why didn't i think of that!". Thats why i say offer her what you can, and let her dicide what she wants. Thats exactly what my inlaws and my parents did with me and my wife, and i ended up with a very good wedding. =O)
@Mommamea (1215)
• United States
12 Nov 06
Thank You for the advice. I just hope she will have the same ending as you and your wife. I am trying to get her to be prepared not to sweat the small things, that it will be okay if some things aren't exact and she has already put the warning out if anything isn't exact she will stop in the middle of the ceremony and perfect it. I guess I taught her to well to never accept anything in between. Now she's paying me back. LOL. I hope things are better for you.
@sbeauty (5871)
• United States
12 Nov 06
I think you need to step back and let her plan her own wedding. No one has the same ideas of what makes a perfect wedding. You can help her when she asks, but don't try to force your ideas on her. It sounds like she has awhile to plan, so let her. There are plenty of magazines to give her ideas, and websites, too. The best wedding doesn't necessarily have to be a big fancy one that costs a fortune. I know some brides and grooms choose a small wedding and then her parents give them the extra cash they had planned to spend for the wedding. That way they have a little nest egg or a downpayment on a house. Other people want a huge, elaborate wedding. It all depends on the tastes of the bride and groom. So let your daughter do her planning. She needs to get what input she can from her fiance, because he's a part of this, too. And she'll appreciate knowing you're there to help her when she needs it.
@Mommamea (1215)
• United States
12 Nov 06
I guess you took it that I am not behind her doing what she wants. She is very demanding on what she wants and says every thing will have to be exact or else. I wouldn't care if it was in a cow pasture some where as long as that is what she wants. And for having a while to plan take it from a Mothers intuition it isn't that far away..getting help from her fiance, Ha Ha Ha. He is the greatest at saying it's what ever you want honey, the only problem is she is the same with him so that becomes an issue. Believe me it will be like she wants or someone will get hurt. Thanks for the response though.