what should I do?

@Vivianh (331)
China
June 2, 2009 9:59am CST
There is a guy,we get along with each other well and we're familiar in some ways and talk about many things and he told me much about his exgirlfriend so I know he was hurt in that relationship and he still loved her.But one day he said that seem kind of like me.I really don't know what to do,maybe I like him and I don't want to lose a friend.I even don't know what is true and what to do..
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@faisai (1140)
• Hong Kong
2 Jun 09
Just take step back ask why he can change so suddenly when he still loved her ex-girlfriend and suddenly start to like you. I am not saying that he has made up a story to get your sympathy so you feel moved of his experience and turned into liking or even loving him. But who knows? So, do ask yourself, if it isn't what he had told you about her ex-girlfriend, would you still like him anyway? Just make sure you are not affected by that story he had told you.
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@rmuxagirl (7569)
• United States
2 Jun 09
I agree with faisai and take a step back and look at the situation. Has he talked or spent time with other women. It could be that he is transferring his emotions on to you. You can easily tell him that you kind of like him too, but you need to really see and want him to make sure he likes you and not just desire that emotion and closness of someone that he had with his ex.
@Vivianh (331)
• China
3 Jun 09
Yes,thank you ,I think maybe i need more time to know everything better .
• United States
2 Jun 09
Anytime a guy leaves a relationship it's always one sided in thier minds. You got to really try to look at the whole picture and decide if everything he says sounds realistic. Guys can be a lot more dramatic with girls when relationships end. It's not so much that they lie to make you like them, but they feel wronged no matter what the situation is. Just look at him as a person. Get to know him better. Unfortunately once your with someone they eventually get comfortable and you see that there is good and bad in everybody. You just got to know whether you can deal with the bad parts of that person as well as the good.
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@Vivianh (331)
• China
3 Jun 09
Thank you and I'll try to know him better.
• Cebu, Philippines
3 Jun 09
Don't jump into a relationship that you're not really sure.. It's just a waste of time. Being in a relationship would take sometime to love someone..LIKE?? hmmm there's always a posibility that it will be wasted. I would suggest that take time to know him better and if feelings will go deeper and you feel like this is it..then go ahead.
@Vivianh (331)
• China
3 Jun 09
Thank you for your words and I know what to do now.Thank you
• Cebu, Philippines
3 Jun 09
Thank you for giving me BR ^_^.. JUst remember...some things are not meant to be rushed especially when they are the things that we really wish that would last forever. Alright?
@Vivianh (331)
• China
8 Jun 09
Ok,thanks..
@jugsjugs (13046)
2 Jun 09
Be carefull as he maybe on the rebound and if this is the case and the ex girlfriend decided to see him again he may let you go to get back with her.Is it a friend ship you had and how well do you know this person,did you know of his ex girlfriend.Ask your self how well do you know him think about how you met and if it did not work as girl friend and boyfriend could you still carry on being friends.
@Vivianh (331)
• China
3 Jun 09
I'll think about that ,thank you.
@zhdy89 (304)
• China
2 Jun 09
Do you like the shadow of another woman?If the answer is no,then you very frankly to be,he will disappear,to search for another shadow.His ex-girlfriend always in his heart,no matter how much she had hurt him before.I think it is difficult to replace someone of her position.Love yourself,do not let yourself injury!Good luck!
@Vivianh (331)
• China
3 Jun 09
I know what you said and of course the answer is no.Thank you.