You can look but don't touch!

United States
June 3, 2009 9:57am CST
Does it bother you when your partner looks at a beautiful man or woman?You are just walking and a beautiful person walks by and his/her head turns?for me,it doesn't matter to me. He is going home with me. How about you? Does it bother you when your partner head is turned by beauty?
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16 responses
• China
4 Jun 09
I think it is quite normal for us to be attracted by a good-looking person.If my girlfriend looked at a handsome guy on the road ,i would be glad to discuss with her whether the guy is really handsome or not.And when i see a beaty ,i usually speak to my girlfiend ,say,'hey,look,that is a pretty girl.'If she really is,my girlfriend would say she agree with me.Sometimes i added a word,'she is even beautiful than you!'so i got a hit on my back. lol
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• United States
6 Jun 09
That last sentence is dangerous. Some girlfriends will send you to the hospital. Me, I would just walk away. Looking is one thing, compairing, even in jest, is dangerous.
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• China
6 Jun 09
Actually,i had gone to the hospital a couple of times for that ----kidding. lol I think that depends on what kind of tone i say that word in and how much we know each other.If she know that i am just kidding and i don't really think that way,she will not mind and just give me a pretended anger and hit. In fact,we can say this is a kind of flirting. looool
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• United States
7 Jun 09
I am way too sensitive for that.I would take way too seriously. I can hear me now saying the classic, "If you think she is prettier than I, then go be with her!"
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@jillhill (37354)
• United States
3 Jun 09
It's been a long time since I had anyone so I don't know if I have changed or not. I don't mind if they look....but when they start flirting then I am out of the picture..even if it's just temporary. I have a bit of a distrust from my ex....but let me tell you....if they look that means I can too...so they better be prepared!
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• United States
4 Jun 09
That's right. In fact if my steady started to flirt , then I would flirt too. I am just that way. If he can do it , so can I.
@Maryam27 (412)
• Pakistan
4 Jun 09
Applaud for Jill hill. Good answer buddy ;)
@mrbluey (36)
• Singapore
4 Jun 09
Of course it's natural and wholesome to admire beauty. As an understanding partner, people should let these things pass. But, if partners attracted to beauty were good partners, they would also be sensitive to their own partners, and try to refrain. This rule is good: One look is fine, twice is too much. Don't try to twist this by 'making the first look really long' - that's what some people (ahem) might do. You should know the rule refers to the principle of faithfulness and abstinence, and not the absolute literal meaning.
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• United States
6 Jun 09
My rule is there are no rules in looking, flirting is something different. If he gets to flirt , so do I.
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@ibelle09 (157)
• China
3 Jun 09
Hi. This is an intereting question. But unfortunately, my partner never looks at beautiful women when we are together, so I don't have to the chance to feel being bothered. :) But if he does, I think it is OK. Everyone likes beautiful things. When I meet a handsome guy, my eyes will also be caught for a while. But my heart is still on my partner. So I think it is normal that if my honey's head is turned by beauty. :)
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• United States
4 Jun 09
It means he is human. I would worry when a beauty Doen't turn his head.
• United States
3 Jun 09
I feel exactly the same way you do! My husband still thinks that I am beautiful, too. The human body is a really beautiful thing. It should be enjoyed! In fact, my husband and I will often point out beautiful people to each other. He doesnt have a desire to go be with that other person, he is just admiring. In my mind, that is no different than admiring a beautiful piece of artwork!
• United States
4 Jun 09
You soud like my mom. She would point out beautiful women for my dad to look at. after he passed, she had these man watchers cards. they were cards that a woman was suppose to give out to any good looking man she sees. My mom was bold and did give a few cards out but most of them weren't given out.
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@icesmile (7172)
• Romania
3 Jun 09
Hi, yes of course that i don t like this. If he want to choice a woman more beatiful..he is free to go with she. If he look after other woman he don t respect me, this is sure. In my opinion, i don t want a man who are with me and thinking to other woman. You know, when somebody love you, never look after a beatiful woman, or maybe if he look, not when you are with him. Any way, man are so strange sometimes, they want much more, but never think that you can want much more too.
• United States
4 Jun 09
What is good for the goose is good for the gander. In other words I look at beautiful men All the time, If my boyfriend has a problem with it, then he won't be my boyfriend too long.
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@leyisa (487)
• Canada
4 Jun 09
My motto is "you can look at the menu - just don't order the food" :)it doesn't really bother me either b/c I know that my husband is goign home with me....Besides, when ever I see an attractive man, I also look and infact i'll even tell myhubby "that man is handsome". I think as long as there is trust between you and your partner, then no one should feel insecure if someone is looking at someone else....
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• Philippines
4 Jun 09
Seeing your partner is not a treat. It is also not serious.I mean it happens to everybody and while some may be irritated when their partners stare at attractive girls, they would have to admit that it also happens to them! I really don't think girls or guys should give this much thought!
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• Canada
31 Aug 09
We have no problem with the other person looking, but flirting is the problem. OK we have some mutual friends of both genders that we joke around with, and to strangers it may appear we're flirting when it's all very innocent. He and I know, and the people we joke with know, and it's all good. However, when it comes to strangers (people who are strangers to one or both of us) looking is one thing, but flirting is off-limits.
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• United States
31 Aug 09
I agree.Flirting can be dangerous.
@CJscott (4184)
• Canada
4 Jun 09
Jealousy is bad. Faith, Love, Romance, Desire are good. It matters not to me if she looks, nor to her if I look. We love each other, desire each other, are romantic to each other, and most importantly have FAITH in each other. Jealousy has no place in our lives. Cheers.
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• United States
4 Jun 09
Fantastic!
• Canada
3 Jun 09
It does seem to matter to me and I am unsure why as normally I am not of a jealous nature. I've been married for nearly 10 years and when my husband does commit the occassional glance, I sometimes question him on it. Not really in a accusing tone but more questioning as he stateshe does not realize he is taking a glance until I bring it up....I am satisfied that it does not happen on a frequent basis, but I do feel it is disrespectful.
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• United States
4 Jun 09
I would worry if he didn't look. To me that would be a sign that he isn't interested in women at all, including me. I guess it goes back to my mom and dad . My mom would point out pretty women for my dad to look at.
@winterose (39931)
• Canada
3 Jun 09
well my partner does not do that, and if he did I guess it would depend on how much he is doing it. If he was paying more attention to other women than me I guess it would bother me, but if he is just casually looking so what, doesn't bother me either.
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• United States
4 Jun 09
When I started this post I was thinking of the time when you two are walking down the street and a beauty passes by. I know if a guy is hott, I lose my train of thought, I look and then I try to remember what I was talking about. So since i do it, it is okay if he does.
@gotcho0O (1258)
• United States
2 Sep 09
It depends with my first intuition..I might get jealous if she's really attractive lol.
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@Maryam27 (412)
• Pakistan
4 Jun 09
I won't bother me if he look at her while she was crossing and knowing the fact that she is a "beautiful" woman than it'll be ok for me if he just looked at her once but if he keep looking at her and look at her again and again than that would be quiet annoying and frustrating for me. SO not it won't bother me if his head turns at a beauty ONCE. Twice is a mistake and thrice.....well...;)
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3 Jun 09
This always used to happen with my and my ex boyfriend. He was always constanly staring and eyeing up other beautiful girls and I used to hate it. It used to make me feel really low and it used to make me feel rubbish about myself as well and made me think that I wasn't good enough.
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@soulist (2987)
• United States
3 Jun 09
It doesn't bother me if my man checks out other women because honestly I check out other men. It's human nature to look at someone we find attractive so why get mad over it. I know my man loves me and he knows I love him.
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