how do you maintain good friendship with your friends?

Philippines
June 4, 2009 2:53am CST
When you really create a friendship you'll want to make sure it stays forever. Here are the following things that i did in order to maintain good friendship with them. Trust the person.Support each other through good and bad times.Keep in touch, especially if your friend lives a long distance from you.A true friendship is something that can stand the test of time. Simply because you haven't spoken or met your friend in years, does not mean that you are friends no longer. Please share yours.
2 people like this
20 responses
@jheLaichie (4439)
• Philippines
4 Jun 09
share mine? i guess more or less the same as yours my friend. well i dont know what kind of friend i am. but i guess you know that. i may have hurt you in some ways and even hurt myself more for hurting you and my other friends. but i am trying my best to change whats has to be change and to accept criticism from good and close friend like you! thanks for the friendship biang! and good day! jhelai
• Philippines
5 Jun 09
no problem here.true friends really comment only the truth and nothing but the truth. The connections of friendship can: * Increase your sense of belonging and purpose * Boost your happiness * Reduce stress * Improve your self-worth * Decrease your risk of serious mental illness
1 person likes this
• Philippines
29 Sep 09
good one biang. and that are all true. thanks jhelai
1 person likes this
• India
5 Jun 09
Just be friendly with them. Understand their individual attitude s and act accordingly. Just love them without any expectations. True love is the only tool to maintain a good friendship!
1 person likes this
@seymiss (627)
5 Jun 09
i agree with you ;-) just to love and give without any expectations that's the key
1 person likes this
@loveykoh (73)
• Philippines
4 Jun 09
a good friendship for me is accepting that each one of you are a different person. you will accept and respect everything he/she is and not try to change him/her to be the same as what you are. a true friend should always be honest even though sometimes it can hurt him/her. it's not always hearing what you want to hear, it's much better that a friend tells you the truth than hearing it from others. also, it's in bad times that you will know who your true friend is. good friendship does not also mean that you have to be always physically present. sometimes the distance can make a friendship lasts and stronger.
1 person likes this
• Philippines
29 Sep 09
that's absolutely true. friendship should be unconditional.no matter what happens and no matter what's the likes and dislikes of our friends,we must respect them. anyways, what are friends for?we should be there for them and work together for great things. thanks for responding to my post.
@leyisa (487)
• Canada
4 Jun 09
I am 30 years old and two of my best friends are girls that I met when I was 13 - although we may not speak or email everyday, we try to get togeher once a month or so to catch up.....we all have our own lives now but we make the efford to get togeher..
1 person likes this
• Philippines
6 Jun 09
my friends and i go out to eat and bond.those were the only times when we got to ask how's everybody.going out together keeps us update things.
@meapas (2434)
• India
5 Jun 09
A healthy friendship stays for ever distance immaterial.Trust and support are the bricks and cement of a healthy relationship. Stay 100% committed come what may. meapas.
• United States
5 Jun 09
Most of my friends live very far from me. But we do keep in contact. I haven't seen my good friend in over 5 years. But I am sure I will get to see her soon enough. I grew up with her and her brother when I was little. They are like family. That has never changed. we have always trusted each other.
1 person likes this
@rtslvtwy (1088)
• Malaysia
5 Jun 09
I guess that frequent communications and keeping in touch with each other be it through phone, email, online chat or any means would maintain the friendship to last a long way. Probably some updates about what you are doing and things happening in your life would be great to share it with your friends and continue with frequent updates on each other. Now with the advancements of technology, it makes it much easier where you can all share and communicate through facebook or other social networking site.
@saraines (154)
• United States
5 Jun 09
i totally agree with you... good friends are hard to find, so it is very important we keep the ones we have...my main thing is to keep a good relationship with friends or even partner is Honesty, always be true, if the friendship is really strong no matter what, it will remain, if it falls apart, it never was...which actually happened to me once, but that's another discussion...
1 person likes this
• China
5 Jun 09
If you want maintain good friendship with your friends,I think firstly you trust your friends,keep in touch, you can often eat food with your friend but don't just stay together,when you meet the bad things,you can tell your friend and get the help. I have many friends in my city and in the other cities,you can invite your friends to attend the part,play games with your friends and so on.
1 person likes this
• India
5 Jun 09
For very good friendship following are important Share your mind with friend use your mind during speaking with he/she(most important) Don't lazy, help them in all situation When you have problem don't remove your friend from that
1 person likes this
@mizcash (686)
• Canada
5 Jun 09
It's great to have a treasured friend but, keeping that friendship can be hard if effort is not put into it. Phone calls are great to catch up also emails are a great way to touch base and send pictures. remember birthdays and anniversaries.
1 person likes this
@sid556 (31005)
• United States
5 Jun 09
You have to make a promise to each other to never ever let anything come between the friendship. Over time you are bound to have your differences. One of you has to be big enough to make the first move to make ammends. The friendship has to mean more to you than anything you could possibly be fighting over.
1 person likes this
• United States
5 Jun 09
I agree with the way you handle your friendships. That's how I handle mine as well. It takes someone a while to earn my trust though, and I always support my friends no matter if I agree with them or not. I don't keep as good of touch with some of them that I would like because of my schedule though.
1 person likes this
@macel19 (202)
• Philippines
5 Jun 09
When I was young I always thought that I need to have a lot friends to complete me. I made conscious effort to build friendship with different personalities. But when I grew up i come to realized that the numbers of friends are not really important and what is more important are those people who stick through ups and downs.It takes a lot of time and effort to maintain a good frienship with someone. I take nowadays it is reallyhard to find tur friends and I am sure that if you find one you are blessed so it is really important to preserve and maintain good friendship with other. If you want to maintain good friendship I guess you should make an effort to keep in touch with others.If our friends need someone to cry on I guess we should be there and listen to their problems without judging them, most of us need someone who will listen to our failures and disappointments.Friendship is a gift and through our friends we can be a better person.
1 person likes this
• United States
4 Jun 09
I do miserably at it and for the longest time I stressed over it so much but now I have learned to accept it. My friends are all more the most part single or not parents so its hard to keep up with them. But when I do work it out and we hang out its a riot and I have a lot of charisma they tell me so they stick around, lol. Thank god for Myspace and websites like these (facebook is useful even though i rarely use it, just post quick notes and pics) help me keep in touch and give my quick hello's. I always know my friends when their excited to hear from you and not criticizing you for falling behind in a way that makes me feel bad, of course I want to keep my friends around, you know? I like to write letters and I think that is my best most personal way of saying I care.
1 person likes this
@jheLaichie (4439)
• Philippines
4 Jun 09
and here are some tips i got from the web biang. for others to read and to know and enjoy! Communicate with one another. A friendship, like any other relationship, needs honest communication. Provide a listening ear. There will be times when your friend is just looking for someone who will listen to her problems without judging her. Even if you don’t agree with the way she is handling certain things, learn to be a listener. Work at maintaining a two-way street with your friendship. If only one person is attempting to be a good friend, the friendship isn’t going to work. One person can’t carry the entire friendship on her own. It has to be a partnership where both contribute equally. A good friendship is both give and take. Speak up in order to protect your friend. Don’t stand by idly and watch your friend make mistakes. If you think your friend is making a mistake, express your concerns. Be honest about how you feel, but be careful not to berate her. Choose your words carefully, and do not insult her in the process. Try to keep fighting and arguing to a minimum. Naturally there will be times when you disagree with each other, but don’t blow things out of proportion. Instead, try to talk things over and put the situation to rest. Most situations people argue over aren’t worth ending a good friendship over. Never date each other's exes. This is something that can tear a friendship apart. Friends should have enough love and respect for each other to not do things to hurt each other. Be there for each other through good times and bad times. Celebrate each other's successes, and help each other get through failures. Give each other room to grow, and give the friendship room to grow. happy mylotting everyone! jhelai
1 person likes this
@med889 (5958)
4 Jun 09
One should be faithful to the other, honest and always ready to listen when the other need someone to listen to his/her problems. The person should also be understanding and thus he/she should never judge a friend no matter what happens, We anb allow ourselves to voice out our opinions but not to impose on the other.
@abanerji (1026)
• India
4 Jun 09
freindship is not just a mode of enjoyment. it much beyond it and i feel the best relationship on earth if you see the relationship seriously. you can share everything with your friend. freindship remains even if your don't see your freind for years. distances and spaces cannot kill a reationship. i maintain friendship y trusting my friend and allowing my friend to trust me. we try to understand the problems of each other and do not make trivial things an issue to argue over. some love, some care and some affection... freindship needs nothing more than these.
1 person likes this
@jugsjugs (13045)
4 Jun 09
I have been friends with a school friend for years and even though we are now both 38 years old we both see each other most days.We often go out for a drink together and go to each others houses.If either one of us have a problem we both help each other out.We still live just up from the road from one another just like we did when we were children,its great to have a good friend and a friendship that has lasted years.
1 person likes this
@EliteUser (3971)
• Australia
29 Sep 09
Hey, Well I don't really know how to maintain a good friendship with my friends. I try my best, but for some reason the friends that I have, they just don't seem like true friends, they can't even keep a simple secret. Make sure you have a good day, God bless and Happy Lotting!!