is he worth a friend..?

@abanerji (1026)
India
June 4, 2009 1:16pm CST
i have a friend for about 4-5 years now. we studied together and then started working together too.. but now life has moved ahead and we are in different cities. we still like to interact with each other and do interact over phone. i ask if he is worth a friend or not because during these years he has hardly bothered to ask me about me or he hardly bothers is i have to say something. he just vents out his emotions, discusses his problems and sometimes even takes my help in coming out of problems... he would keep talking without asking if i have to say something.he would rarely show his concern about me. otherwise he is a good and intelligent person to interact with. i am in regular touch with him but somehow i feel he lacks the quality of being a good friend... am i expecting more or is he not worth a friend....?
3 responses
@kerriannc (4280)
• Jamaica
5 Jun 09
He is self centered. I think that he is abusing your friendship and so I would advice you to let him know how you are feeling where this is concerned. I have a question though. If he behave like this who is the one who does all the calling is it you. If so my advice is to drop his friendship. He only sees you as one who he can get free advice from.
@abanerji (1026)
• India
5 Jun 09
hi! am not calling anymore for the past one year... its he who regularly calls up to talk. may be to vent out his emotions.
@figjam00 (1450)
• India
4 Jun 09
buddy i have the same problem with my friend. I mean he is always full of himself and rarely does he cares about my problems. i always get disappointed with him. i think there is no universal definition of friendship, every friendship is unique in its own way. i am in the same dilemma as you are in. the solution would be to say right to the face of the friends because I think I am gonna do that for sure so that he can realize that.
@abanerji (1026)
• India
4 Jun 09
well, here i have my apprehensions... suppose i say so right on his face and he reverts back saying that he is not bothered about me or stops interacting with me. in both cases i would lose a friend with whom like to spend time... even if i am only listening.
• China
5 Jun 09
Everyone has his own way to deal with the relations of friends.Maybe your friend like to tell everything to you for he think you are his best friend.You can tell him that you want to tell him sth not just listen to him.