Treating our children the way the world will treat them

The world treats you like cr@p. Are they suggesting we treat our kids like cr@p? I think we need to prepare them for the world, yes. We need to explain the harsh realities of the world. But, home is supposed to be where you go to feel safe. It's where you go to get away from the world. Why would we not let our kids feel safe and protected at home. The truth is...home is also a part of the word. Mom's and dad's, brothers and sisters have mood swings. They have issues. We don't need a model to tell us what to do, we just need more common sense at home AND out there in the "real world".

I think that as a society we tend to go to far one way or the other. We recently went through a generation in which the children are going to have a sence of entitlement, every child made the team, every child got a trophy, you did not keep score in little league games as there is no loser or winner. Now society is starting to say, hey that is not right, there are losers in the world and children need to learn this so we are moving back to teaching children the harsh lessons of life, after all you do not always get what you want in life and there will be failures etc. I think that it is important that we teach our children that you are not always going to win, get the trophies, etc, but we have to do it in a manner that we are not harming our kids either. There needs to be a happy medium... what that is I have no idea.

Yes, I think we should, if not treat, but at least teach our children how the world will treat them. In fact, this is one of the regular discussions between my son and me. He'll be 10 soon and I am just letting him go a little. He comes back with lot of complaints and tales of neglect, which I dont encourage...rather I teach him how he should have responded, how he cant expect other people to treat him special...sometimes, how he has to stick to his ground...not compromise etc.

Perhaps this is the right way to get them ready for life. This is how my parents brought me up. I saw in the course of my childhood and early adulthood. some, not many though, flaws in the method of my parents, and therefore wanted to take some steps to avoid just those actions that would hurt or mar the childrens' self-confidence and self-image. Because, I felt, due to certain statements my Dad esp. and my mom inadvertently made in my childhood, had left deep impressions in my mind and I had to fight the feelings of confidence or inadequacy due elaborate philosophical self-analyses to get "in shape". A lot of time was spent in this activity that could be mistaken for daydreaming or fantasying! I thought I would avoid these very pitfalls, while bringing up my own children. I do not know if Nature/God designs some features into every being born, to put them through the fire that try as you may, as a parent, you will not be able to avoid for your children those things that happened to you. Or it may come to pass that what you planned elaborately, was not the things that are bothering your children at all. Inherently, and despite your stupendous efforts to build confidence, you could find your children lacking it and you need to keep consciously working at it. This is a great pain. We want the confidence to get built silently and without goading or explicitly rubbing it in, but you are often called upon to do that very thing.

Child is easy to teach and like a clean clothes.They will learn and catch everything we teach because they have good memory and dont know nothing.They also believe adult as their keeper.