Father's Day Gift Ideas for cancer patient

@khayshenz (1387)
United States
June 5, 2009 9:13pm CST
Hello - My father is ALMOST through with his chemotherapy - cancer survivor indeed. Now I don't have a lot of money but would love to give him something that he will cherish and will be able to enjoy now. I've searched high and low for the perfect "Cancer survivor" father's day gift - and i'm still sort of short. I thought about netflix - but I'm not too sure how much he'll enjoy that. Any ideas?
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@thedaddym (1737)
• United States
6 Jun 09
Good news on his recovery and survival, I wish him all the best. I think the Netflix is a good idea, who doesn't love movies? I think getting him something showing him what a great father he is would the way to go. I would not bring what he has gone through in to Father's Day. It is about him as a father and man. I would get him something like you have gotten him the past that he liked. I am sure you will find the perfect thing, but the Netflix membership does sound good to me.
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@khayshenz (1387)
• United States
6 Jun 09
Thanks for the input, though I bed to differ. I agree when you say that it's about him being a father and a man, but that's part of it also! You know, when my dad was diagnosed, he didn't wanna go through the chemo or the operation because he knew he would hurt. His thought process was that all his kids are done with college, and are set to have a good life. Therefore, it's OK for him to let his body deteriorate. We had to ask him to reconsider - think about us, his daughters, and walking us down the isle, his future grand kids, etc. And this father's day - I want him to know that what he has gone through, his courage - is deeply and highly appreciated. That because he reconsidered - I am looking forward to the day that I get married and he walks me down the isle, when I have kids -that he'll be able to play with them. Because he reconsidered I still have a father. Is that not about him being a father and man? Happy father's day to you too by the way! (Just an early greeting, eh? =D)
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@khayshenz (1387)
• United States
6 Jun 09
Of course I meant "I BEG TO DIFFER" - hahahaha..TYPO!
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• United States
6 Jun 09
congratulation on your father, my nephew is a cancer survivor when he was 7 he is now almost 15. been in remission ever since. as far as the gift for fathers day, don't think of it as a survivor gift think of it as your love for him that he is still here gift. my nephew told me the hardest part of having cancer is the look on peoples faces when they see you with no hair any where and pale and thin. i believe that when the gift finds you, it will jump out at you saying i'm the one pick me. no one knows him like you do, what does he enjoy doing, again congratulation on your father.
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@khayshenz (1387)
• United States
6 Jun 09
Ahhh -yes! Thanks for the input, Ms.T. I don't know if that's the case for my dad. I think he "missed a lot on life" or I feel that he feels that way. He had to miss my sister's graduation because he was too sick to go - he had to miss on a lot of family and church gatherings because his immune system is too sick to handle and fight a simple cold or what-have-you - the list goes on. Congrats on your nephew as well - my hats off to him. Surviving cancer is NOT easy.
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@kometer (151)
• China
6 Jun 09
The most important thing is to show him how much you love him.In my opinion,spending more time with your father maight be the best gift to him. Wish you good luck.
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@khayshenz (1387)
• United States
6 Jun 09
Ahhh yess. Though I feel like I spend a lot of time with him already - short of moving back to their house. I'm not sure he'll appreciate me being around again. =P Thanks! I'll keep on doing that - but I'd still want to give him something that he can enjoy in the present. =)
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@zyc888 (43)
• China
6 Jun 09
Am happy that your father's cancer through chemotherapy have improced. However, traditional Chinese medicine for cancer have a good effect, worth a try.
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@zackn87 (345)
• United States
6 Jun 09
Wow. Congratulations on your dad surviving cancer. I had cancer when i was 5. a kidney tumour. I had to have chemo therapy done and everything. I'm all well now though! But i think Netflix would be an incredible gift. He can watch any movie he wants, whenever he wants! God bless you and your father. :)
• Canada
12 Jun 09
My heart goes out to you in so many ways. My mom had a rare form of cancer and chemo was not the route for her. In her case, it was multiple, radical surgeries and radiation treatments. I was her primary caregiver through all those years so I do know what you and your family are going through. I read through your comments and see that your dad was hesitant about seeking treatment for himself but clearly you are happy he made that choice. I'm sure it was very difficult for him. You also mention that he has missed special events in your family. As to a Father's Day gift, I'm wondering if you could create a photo album or scrapbook for him? Do you have pictures or mementos from those events? Could you help him to now share in the memories of those times? Perhaps you have some photos of you and your dad together, as you've grown up, that can create a really nice statement about how much you love and value him. If he has a book to hold in his hands that is filled with happy times, I'm thinking it will do his mindset a lot of good by keeping him focused on those who love him very much and want him around and healthy. I wish him well and I hope he has a very special and Happy Father's Day
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• Canada
12 Jun 09
Well let's see... *putting the thinking cap back on* LOL OK we could approach this from a different angle. He's certainly been through a rough time... what about really pampering him for Father's Day? If you're the creative type, what about doing a really awesome gift box or basket? How does he relax? Does he wear a robe or pjs or soemthing like that? I was thinking maybe a new robe, slippers, or tshirts and boxers (whatever makes him the most comfortable) and then some real treats. Is he allowed to have that or does he have any dietary restrictions? If he's allowed, I'd make it decadent... like if he likes nuts, get him chocolate covered cashews or macadamias or something he might not buy for himself. Maybe some specialty cookies or coffees or chocolates. I remember my dad had a favorite candy -- they are called humbugs. He found out about them from my grandfather. In any case, they were handmade in only one candy store that I ever knew of... so, one year, I drove there before Father's Day and got him a big tin of them. He said he was never so excited about a gift before LOL but then my dad did love to eat. Sometimes, the items don't have to be "special"... it could just be things he hasn't been able to have for a really long time. That in itself could make the basket fun. I'll keep at it... maybe I'll eventually hit on a useful idea
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@khayshenz (1387)
• United States
13 Jun 09
I LOVE LOVE LOVE your ideas - and I might use them for the future-father-in-law ( I already call him dad even though the bf and I aren't technically married, yet). That other dad is diabetic though - but he loves food. Though my bf is thinking of getting him a new pair of shoes - we haven't decided on his dad yet. My dad - it was colon cancer, so there's definitely dietary issues. He just had an outpatient surgery this past thursday to repair some grout in his colon (from the past surgery) so he's in liquid diet for two weeks. My dad LOVES to eat - unfortunately, he can't eat too much stuff as of late. He's going back for more chemo at the end of his liquid diet. I feel so bad for him. He lost so much weight - he used to be buff (not too muscular - just fit) - now you can tell, he's just lost a lot. I feel so bad for him - I wish there's a way for me to give him a lil bit of my weight or something! I don't know. It's tough. =/
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@Riptide (2762)
• United States
19 Jul 09
I am so glad that your father made it through this ordeal. I know it's a little late for a fathers day gift input lol. But I think what would be nice, is a collage of all his children from the day they were born until the current time. Then add something that say how much you all love him and appreciate him and that you thank him for being there for you all his life and that you look forward to having him for many more years to come.
@khayshenz (1387)
• United States
20 Jul 09
It's never too late for father's day gift ideas - because there's always father's birthday, father's christmas present, etc. AND of course, there is always next year!! Hehehehehe... Thanks for the input!
@salam1 (1476)
• Malaysia
19 Jul 09
first of all congratulation, you do a good did to look for present for you cancer survivor father. a glass of orange juice will do good for a start I think. other than that a good t-shirt with motivation quote on it is cheap and meaningful.
• Philippines
19 Jul 09
hey there! Congratulations to your dad.Ü He must be a really great person. I think a small compilation of pictures in a slide show would be great or you can also write a simple poem how thankful you are for having him around. Then throw a nice small party for him, what do you think?Ü