Why in my generation most of them fall in love many times?

@Archie0 (4669)
June 6, 2009 2:50am CST
I have seen, heard and studied about past people i.e. people before my generation.They were true to their only love and they were their soulmates.But now everytime i turn some pages or magazines or even mylot topics i find people saying 'i am in love with a girl apart from my wife', i am in love with my bro0ther', i am in love with an already married man'...I mean what is all this?have our love become so cheap and blind that we are ready to fake with it all the time? or love anyone doesnt care it is your brother or dad or sister or whatever. I really loose my tempre because i am from this generation and my thoughts say that even i get blamed for this when my mind is clear.
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@smacksman (6074)
6 Jun 09
I always say 'Why can't everyone be perfect, like me!!' haha Today we are all looking for perfection in a partner and surprise, surprise, after living with someone for a few months/years we find they are not perfect. Not having saddled themselves with marriage they just move on to the greener pastures in search of perfection. Hopeless. Answer? Pick someone who 'ticks most of the boxes', commit yourselves and get married and then work hard to give and take to make the marriage work.
@Archie0 (4669)
7 Jun 09
I too wish for perfection like you in me lolzz well i think we dont find perfections anymore now, what we find is our pride i.e. how much people look on to our partner and wish they too had the same one for them..
@smacksman (6074)
7 Jun 09
Aaahh! So you want to marry a trophy to show off to others? Take great care with that approach. You may find that your 'trophy' will look for another winner once you have tarnished a bit!
• Pakistan
6 Jun 09
Shah Abdul Latif Bhittai, the sufi poet and great saint of Sindh, once said in very inspiring couplet, "Our beloved is one, we must not hanker after many. we should give our heart to one, even if thousand craves for us. Ridiculous are those who roam door to door in search of their love". Love is true and noble feeling. Love is loyalty and faithfulness.
@Archie0 (4669)
7 Jun 09
I am so concerned with this.and the words are also so right..but there are really few now who are cared about it anymore.
• Pakistan
7 Jun 09
Goodness and loyalty should be held supreme. Their numbers or quantity is immaterial and insignificant. A loyal and honest must is far better than thousands of hypocrites and dishonest people. Love must remain unpolluted and pure.
@beamsey (427)
• Philippines
6 Jun 09
Maybe it's not that love has become something cheap and blind right now. I'm sure there were also such instances of loving someone other than your wife or loving your brother before. It's highly possible that they just weren't documented or known to the public. It could be that the world in general is more liberated than the world was before. So it's more likely that people nowadays will ask advice from other people about their love problems (i.e. loving an immediate family member, loving someone other than his wife/husband, etc). Before, people would have been "persecuted" if they voiced out such problems. Right now, people are more accepting, forgiving and understanding of other people's problems and situations.
@Archie0 (4669)
6 Jun 09
may be you are right but still i dont garee partly with you.people then never tried to speak about extra affair then, many i knew would find it horrible and said they dont need to hunt over when they have got one forever, but now i find most of them as compared last times, having problems with love life. what i think is we have taken everything for granted thats why. thanks for your post... :)
@beamsey (427)
• Philippines
6 Jun 09
I guess we have taken things for granted to an extent. I still think though that it's an effect of the more liberal times. People are after all, molded by the society one way or another. Interesting discussion, by the way.
@reckon21 (3487)
• Philippines
6 Jun 09
Generation of today are emerging a different personality. Things are getting more complicated now days. Feelings and emotions become haywire and mixed up in a bad way. The defination of love has taken a wrong turn. It is now upon us to rectify it.
@Archie0 (4669)
7 Jun 09
yes now the genration is so fast and they think whatever we are doing is we do right.
• India
6 Jun 09
the current concept of soulmate stuff has louder although it hasn't been xposed to general section of public.a person can have internal feelings for a another mate when he/she actually spends a wealthier time to know about him/her. & that is thoroughly not possible these days , so anxiety , curiousity creates a false trails implementing the feeling of attachment with any person in contact for a while .. BUT IN MY VIEW , MAJOR PART IS ACCOMPANIED BY THE DARK INTENTIONS OF LIFE. so STOP THINKIN ' about these stuff & let the life flow in it's own accord.
@Archie0 (4669)
7 Jun 09
If we would have stopped thinking we would have done it long time before and then nothing would have been improved i wish we would stop thinking long times back...by selling our brains at higher prices to aliens...cheers
@Ritchelle (3797)
• Philippines
6 Jun 09
maybe because it is the ease in communication now that almost everyone falls in love even before they can understand the true meaning of love. way back then people resort to phone pals and pen pals just to fall in love. of course people in the neighborhood and friends of friends and friends of relatives were in the array of choices on whom to fall in love with but now, coupled with the given choices, you have mobile phones capable of calling, texting or emailing anybody.
@bodhisatya (2384)
• India
6 Jun 09
Very truly said. People today aren't happy with ONE relationship, we have to continuously be in and walk out of relations, this is the "IN" thing, I suppose. Showing true emotions which are based on feelings are "stupid" things, you shall be considered as insane or childlike if you love someone without any selfish motives. I had this discussion posted that if we truly love somebody then how can we just fall out of love from that person? We fall out of love to an extent that we just don't seem to even hear the name of that person. Sad but true. Even if we are in love with a wild animal we could expect more loyality than falling in love with a false, vain world. Good post.
@Archie0 (4669)
7 Jun 09
Thanks for your comment i too feel this i guess i have also posted a reply to your post then with same thoughts.
@jheLaichie (4439)
• Philippines
9 Jun 09
when love hits its like we really don't know the right and decent thing to do. but the questions always surmounts, is it really love? we always think we love somebody but in the long run it wont end up like that. we thought its love but it wasn't, we just think it is. but the truth is we feel that way because there is something from that person that you couldn't find in your lifetime partner. its like you wanted that affection where in fact it wasn't really love at all. just a misunderstanding of ones feelings for the other person whom you have meet and a friend perhaps. thanks my friend jhelai
@Maryam27 (412)
• Pakistan
7 Jun 09
Well Archie that's something I think of often. And according to my onservation and thinking I came to realise that old people didn't expect anything from their partners and accept them as they were and at the same time they were not looking here and there all the time, that could raise their expectations and were contented with ALL they got. They had the patience to work out their relationship and be with each other no matter what. I have seen really odd couples staying together and happy for life time and now what we see that we don't like arrange marriages because we want understanding and to like/love someone before we committ but after doing all that what we get? A divorce in a year or two? separation? When we got all the wanted then why this is happening? As we are moving to the so called modern world, we are forgetting our values and we are just running after everything we like. This is not how life goes. That's why even after having so much..we are always lonely, always tensed. I guess the reason for this is the lack of patience and acceptance in us now. And we always keep looking for other partners that's why we find it so easy to leave someone as we know we can start over again with some other person and that is a mistake. May Allah guide us all towards the right path...aameen.
@pansy45 (156)
• Indonesia
7 Jun 09
i think it caused modern life right now so many bad influence that come fro tv,magazine,maybe internet also,we can' just blame it.all we can do is keep our self to avoid this bad influence by our religion.
@bearound (133)
• China
7 Jun 09
In my opinion,it not a problem that people fall in love many times.I am not gonna talk about moral problem.That can be very complicated. I concern more about choice.It's impossible that people make no mistake at all.Many young guys will not find their ture love in their first love. However,if you make the same mistake several time,you have to rethink about you love philosophy.Maybe,some guys is not so serious.
@macel19 (202)
• Philippines
6 Jun 09
Maybe because of the environmental factors. There are a lot of things to be considered why do people tempted to love someone which in the first place is wrong. There are the issue of incest which is not new with this generation. Even way back before it existed already. However, I am very much concerned about the disposable relationship part. Most teenagers nowadays love instant relationship,where they can be intimate with each other without any commitment.Some women are looking for one night stand eventhough they feel crappy in the morning.Which most of the time resulted to unwanted pregnancy. I am not here to judge, because I am not in the place to judge, however it is very alarming that every year the percentage of abortions and unwanted pregancies are increasing. Maybe this generation needs to understand the value of responsibility and commitment.Every woman is worth of value, which I believed. Every woman deserved to be respected and deserved to have the best things in life.