What do you think is the best way to bring out happiness in others?

@Pose123 (21635)
Canada
June 6, 2009 3:46pm CST
Just think of what our lives would be like if everyone around us were happy. What a pleasure it would be to go to work and see all those smiling faces! Coming home too would be a pleasure with everyone gladly chipping in to help with all the household chores. Granted, this may seem as impossible as reaching utopia tomorrow, but seriously, what are your thoughts on the best way to bring out happiness in others?
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@williamjisir (22819)
• China
7 Jun 09
Hello dear Pose. It is a nice topic. It would be a real Utopia if everyone brings happiness in others. But first of all, I think that it is very important to be a happy person first before one can bring happiness in others. If one is not happy himself, it is hard to expect him to fulfill that happiness in others. A happy person can always have his way out to make others happy. Ways may vary though I cannot find a specific one for the time being.
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• China
17 Jun 09
Hello Pose. I appreciate the BR and thank you so much for it. Take care, friend.
@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
7 Jun 09
Hi williamjisir, Thank you for being such a friend,commenting on my discussions as you do, I really appreciate it. I'm pleased to see that you realize the truth here, that a person must first be happy themselves. Others can help us see the light but to be happy a person must accept the fact that we must be happy now,no matter what our circumstances. There will of course be times of sorrow in our life, but we will not let it destroy our overall happiness. Blessings.
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@gongchhua (272)
• China
7 Jun 09
I think I should keep happiness first. I can share my happiness to others. The best way is using a positive attitude toward the world and when somebody feels unhappy,you can encourage him to face and cipe with the difficulties and look forward a new day,give them hopes.
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@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
7 Jun 09
Hi gongchhua, Good point, thanks for commenting. Blessings.
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@AmbiePam (85180)
• United States
6 Jun 09
Well, I think my answer is very simplicistic, but I would say the best way to bring out happiness in others is to be kind. It's amazing how being nice to someone can change their countenance. It may not be a cure all, but I think kindness would be a nice start.
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@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
8 Jun 09
Hi AmbiePam, Thank you for commenting and I like your answer,to be kind - really is there anything better?Blessings.
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@reckon21 (3479)
• Philippines
7 Jun 09
By showing them love. The love you had for a friend and neighbors. That shouldn't be hard at all. If you had a good heart that will show in your face. By doing good and extending a helping to others during times of hardship and trouble, you made another heart happy.
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@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
7 Jun 09
Hi recken, An excellent thought, thank you for commenting. Blessings.
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@Hurray (64)
• Canada
6 Jun 09
Hello Pose; That is a godly good purpose or goal! If one feels or is happy, it would radiate and sometimes with some folks, that's enough to lighten up their day. But, most of the time, it takes more work based on some knowledge of how the mind works so to understand what's what with people and ourselves. Just in a nutshell. Best, Hurray
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@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
8 Jun 09
Hi Hurray, Thank you for commenting and you make a good point. Happiness can be contagious, at least while we're in the presence of someone who is happy.Blessings.
@raakhee (53)
• Qatar
7 Jun 09
i guess a smiling face,an occasional 'how-do-you-do?' and small surprise gifts(even a candy would do) are bound to make ppl happy.it works for me.... :-)
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@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
8 Jun 09
Hi raakhee, Thanks for that response and good suggestions. Blessings.
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@LittleMel (8742)
• Canada
11 Jun 09
I find that sending cute jokes or cute song to others is a simple way to make them smile and laugh. Not all jokes and songs are cute, the cute ones are easier to talk about with more people so more people will smile or laugh. Real happiness though, in my opinion, depends on how we perceive life. Can we accept things as it is and appreciate what we already have? or are we going to spend our days and nights working for something that we won't take with us when we die? It's the thoughts that count, they say. Very true.
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@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
11 Jun 09
Hi LittleMel, Thank you for commenting. It's true that real happiness has to come from within. Unless others understand that we can only help them for the moment. Blessings.
@jillhill (37354)
• United States
6 Jun 09
Sometimes doing just one little thing to cheer them up. It doesn't have to be a big thing...maybe just picking a flower and handing it to someone....or opening a door...just a random act of kindness can go a long way to make someone's day.
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@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
8 Jun 09
Hi jillhill, Thanks for commending and your right about the little things making a difference. Blessings.
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@bing28 (3795)
• Philippines
10 Jun 09
Remembering them on their special days, such as birthday, anniversary or any other day important to them. Greetings or little gifts would mean a lot to them. You would see how their eyes sparkles and the sweet smiles in their faces when unexpectedly you come to greet them. I have two closest friends now, before we're four but the other one passed away early this year, that made the three of us more closer. It's our happiness to be dining together once in a while or during each other's birthday. There are so many other ways to bring out happiness, like the kissing at the hands or at the cheeks of our parents and grandparents before leaving the house and also once we arrived at home. Contributing to the solution of other's problems, also bring out happiness.
@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
10 Jun 09
Hi bing, I like your response very much, thank you. Blessings my friend.
@France7 (385)
• Philippines
9 Jun 09
Hello there pose. Yes, if i were to imagine this, it would be of great joy having all people around you who are ready to lend a hand. But since we are still living in this sinful world, it is definitely not a perfect world to live in. We will soon experience the real utopia in heaven. Regarding bringing happiness to others, i think we can share this positive feeling by just merely smiling with a sincere smile. As they say, smile and the world will smile at you.:)
@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
9 Jun 09
Thank you France, some very good thoughts here. Blessings.
@TLChimes (4822)
• United States
6 Jun 09
Small things make all the difference... like an extra real smile for the clerk who has been on the job during the holiday rush, a thinking of you card for no reason but just because from a far off friend, an encourage word from a friend that pushes a friend to write a bit more on that hidden work of art. Not everyone can find happiness because they simple don't know how or simply won't but if we all worked on those small things a lot more people would learn to see the bigger and little smiles in life. But in MY life those small moments mean so very much... they get me through some really hard times. If we see those bits of sun through any storm then we know we can make it through to the other side. (my little smile of the moment... I typed that all and spell check didn't yell at me!)
@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
8 Jun 09
Hi TLChimes, Thanks for that comment and you are certainly right about small things making all the difference. I smiled at your comment about spell check- so you see it's already working. Blessings.
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• United States
9 Jun 09
Pose- I stop and speak to people. Just the other day my husband and I were on our way into the bank and a gentleman getting out of car hollared over to my husband "Hey Chief, how's it going". My husband and I stopped to talk to him and spent time talking to us outside the bank, on the way in, and inside the bank until he went to do his business. He said "Thanks for listening". I think that's all some people want sometimes. They don't want our handouts, etc they just want us to hear their story. Namaste-Anora
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@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
9 Jun 09
Thanks Anora, That is a very good though, and I think in many cases, you are right. Blessings.
@Tiamjr (435)
6 Jun 09
To try and bring happiness to others I think being helpful and kind helps. Sometimes people need to feel sad or angry. Experiencing different emotions is an important part of being human. Always being happy would be nice, but would we truly know what happiness felt like if we had not experienced other opposite emotions?
@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
8 Jun 09
Hi Tiamjr, You make a very good point, thank you. We do have to experience one emotion in order know another. Blessings.
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@zackn87 (345)
• United States
6 Jun 09
buying them something usually works. Or you could try singing for them, or dancing for them. but that usually never works.
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@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
8 Jun 09
Hi zackn, I know if I sang for them it wouldn't work. Blessings.
@pillusch (1147)
• Mexico
7 Jun 09
I believe that my first task should be to be happy myself – and that’s a monumental task to begin with, seldom achieved. And since I have both hands full with myself, there isn’t really any time left to care for the happiness of others. When I’m grumpy and irritated it’s very difficult for me to make other people happy. But when I’m on top of the world, everybody seems to be smiling, too. Might sound all a bit selfish, but I believe that by looking after No. 1 (me) I’m at the same time helping others to be more content.
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@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
7 Jun 09
Hi pillusch, Thank you for commenting and I fully agree. We must be happy ourselves before we can help another find happiness. Blessings.
@Mirita (2668)
• United States
7 Jun 09
It could be as simple as smiling at everyone that you see on a daily basis. Sharing your lunch with a coworker, sending a thank you card to a friend who sent you a present. Helping a stranger in distress whose car just broke next to your house. Going to the Soup Kicken and serving food for the hungry. Sending money to charities even if is a small amount because lots of small amounts can add to a huge amount.
@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
8 Jun 09
Thank you Mirita, Some great thoughts here. Blessings.
@mariechin (426)
• Philippines
7 Jun 09
hmmm... be the infectious happy people with true and sincere feelings of love and care. PLUS smile!
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@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
7 Jun 09
Hi mariechin, Thanks for such a great thought. Blessings.
@savypat (20216)
• United States
7 Jun 09
Like all human moods happiness is contagious. if you are happy you will attract happy people. Each person is in charge of their own response to the world so whether they are happy or not isn't within your power to change, you can only attract like types of people.
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@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
8 Jun 09
Hi savypat, A great answer, thank you. Blessings.
@derry123 (610)
8 Jun 09
Maybe to encourage people to be a lot more contented with what they have instead of always longing for more of everything . Look around the world and see how some families and elders have to live . We are truly the lucky ones *
@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
8 Jun 09
Hi derry, Thank you for commenting and it's good to get different ideas. You make a very valid point. Blessings.
@geniustiger (1694)
• Philippines
7 Jun 09
Stay happy, flexible, understanding to everyone. Goes with what they likes and hobbies. Learn to be a good listener to anyone and help it. Be good to all of them so that they will be happy for you too.
@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
7 Jun 09
Hi geniustiger, Thanks for your thoughts on this, I'm getting good responses here. Blessings.