Adults Do You Have A Security Blanket?

@wolfie34 (26793)
United Kingdom
June 6, 2009 5:10pm CST
When life gets you down, or when you want to just shut yourself away and have a big cry is there a comforter you have? Like a security blanket, a favourite teddy bear, or a material object that you have with you? When you've had a bad day at work, or when you've had a big argument or you just feel that life has let you down again what is the first thing you reach for? Do you think security blankets, teddy bears and other comforters are just for children or do you think they are good for adults too? Who or what do you lean on when life gets you down if you don't have a partner. Or if you do have a partner but prefer to console yourself with something that makes you feel safe, protected I have a bear called Toby who sits on my bed, he's quite old now, I have had him for longer than I can remember and I find he's a comforter when I get down and at least he doesn't judge, answer me back or gives me any grief! I would be lost without him So who or what is your security blanket in life?
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• United States
6 Jun 09
I think everyone has a security blanket, even people can be security blankets. My ex used to be this for me, and it's crazy because over the last year, he just changed, and that hurt. Everytime I had a problem, I would turn to him and he would care to even try to make it better, and now whenever life challenges me, I find him not there at all. Suppose that's why we're apart. But for him, when life goes wrong, it's funny how I'm the first person he comes running to. And as long as it's bad I'm always there, but when things get good, it's adios to me. But anyhoo! For me, my security blanket is awkwardly enough writing. I love to write, and I have a journal, I've had many over the years. Wrote for as long as I can remember, and I just use that as my release. It's kinda nice how you can make everything perfect on paper, make it not seem so messy for that brief minute. And the cool thing about writing, might make me sound crazy, but I can talk to myself, keep the things I don't want to share with myself, but at the same time get it all out by just writing it down. And if I choose to share it later, I can just pull out what I wrote, and not worry about the trouble of finding out how to put it into words. Crazy I know!
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@wolfie34 (26793)
• United Kingdom
6 Jun 09
Writing is a wonderful way of expressing how you feel! Ironically I used to keep a diary every day, it was very therapeutic for me, I could write down all my thoughts and feelings, sadly my ex found my diary and read them! I couldn't write any more because my privacy had been invaded, I burnt the diaries. It's taken me a couple of years to start writing again, I don't do a daily diary, just a journal when I feel like it.
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• United States
6 Jun 09
Yeah I don't really have a daily diary more a journal like what you're talking about. And crazy enough I'm very open with my writings, if people happen to come across them and read them, I really won't care, I love to share my writing, and so be it they see something about themselves they don't like, it was more than likely, quite obviously a thought I had, and I felt it at the time. Doesn't mean it still holds true, but perhaps it might. And if they want to confront me about it, I'll tell them the truth, I could care less. Way I see it, they went roaming in my personal stuff, don't go searching for something you're not ready to find. But I'm a very blunt, and honest person, I've never had a problem telling people how I feel. Sometimes I just think it's probably smarter to keep certain things to myself, that whole thinking before I speak thing, ya dig?
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@williamjisir (22903)
• China
7 Jun 09
Hello dear wolfie. I don't have such a security blanket. When I feel so let down, one of my favorite places to go is the nice and tranquil and beautiful pool outside the town. I will ride all the way there to make me feel better at such a good place. Maybe this can be seen as my security blanket as I don't have others. Or I would like to sleep in my blanket without thinking anything about it. The better I fall asleep, the better because the trouble won't bother me when I am asleep...
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@wolfie34 (26793)
• United Kingdom
7 Jun 09
I love peaceful places too, away from people! Just what mother nature has provided us, I love the quiet and it's my sanctuary too.
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@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
7 Jun 09
Hi wolfie! I am so happy to hear that you have Toby to console you! I think that everyone needs someone or something that they can count on to be there for them no matter what! Right now I have my beautiful baby Star! He is my sweetest black kitty who is now 5 years old and loves me so much! He is always there for me no matter what! He loves to be near me every minute he can be! He is such a loverboy cat! He has to be touching me all the time! My boyfriend doesn't understand our relationship and I don't give a crap! Star is the love of my life no matter what! He is the most sweetest cat I have ever had and I have had quite a few! He just loves me unconditionally! And I love him more than anyone or anything!
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@wolfie34 (26793)
• United Kingdom
7 Jun 09
Don't need to convince me my dear friend, I think animals are far better than people any day! Unconditional love, exactly! The only thing I missed about my ex was my beloved cat Zeus who I worshipped! Whenever I was feeling down he would know and wouldn't leave me alone! Pets know when you are troubled and I'd rather have a pet than a lover any day!
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@Debs_place (10525)
• United States
6 Jun 09
My husband is my security blanket. When he is not in bed with me at night (most nights) I have a hard time falling asleep. Someday I hope we will work the same schedule.
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@wolfie34 (26793)
• United Kingdom
6 Jun 09
Here's wishing you manage to get the same schedule my friend ;0)
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@GardenGerty (99319)
• United States
8 Jun 09
I would be happy with those wishes as well.
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@jtr115 (724)
• United States
6 Jun 09
Last year, I bought a large white tiger doll to help me relax. I named him Luigi. When I'm stressed, I just pet him or give him a hug. I took a picture of Luigi with some of my other
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@jtr115 (724)
• United States
6 Jun 09
My photo didn't show up for some reason. I'll try again.
@wolfie34 (26793)
• United Kingdom
6 Jun 09
Thank you for sharing, they help a great deal for when you are stressed.
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@nannacroc (4049)
7 Jun 09
I'm lucky enough to have a partner and three daughters who are there when I need them. There's still 'Growler', my teddy and 'Topsy' my black doll who I've had all my life and they still listen when the world is too much and I don't want an answer. We all need someone or something to tell our troubles to.
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@wolfie34 (26793)
• United Kingdom
7 Jun 09
I guess that is why Toby is so battered because he's been so much and I've told him so much and I am sure Mr Croc comes in handy too my dear friend ;0)
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@BlueGoblin (1833)
• United States
7 Jun 09
No. I never had one as a child nor was I attached to any stuffed animal. I was a cold and callous kid and didn't like fuzzy things. I was around real animals a lot so that probably played into it. I had all kinds of things from toads to turtles. My parents backyard is like a pet cemetery. Whenever I was angry or sad I played with my animals.
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@wolfie34 (26793)
• United Kingdom
7 Jun 09
Animals are a great comfort too, and they seem to know when you are ill or feeling blue, I had a lovely ginger cat that belonged to my ex, the cat was called Zeus and I worshipped him he always made me smile and calmed me down. They have a sixth sense I guess and I can understand them being a great comforter.
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@hiddenwing (3721)
• China
7 Jun 09
I report only the good but not the bad. So, whenever I get upset, I don't want to talk about it with people who will worry more than myself. Sure, if I don't let the bad mood out, it will not be good to my health! Most of the time, all I have to do is eating some Mcdonald's. Then, all my worries will go. If things really ever get bad,I will climb higher and higher. In modern cities there are high-rise buildings everywhere as you know. Don't worry, I won't jump out of the building anyway. It is just that looking out through the window, I will feel I am so high and excited. Also, I like to walk on the overpass, the city is just so small in my sight at the time. What's more, the cats like me so much. A cat guy just licked me. I will wash my legs clean later. I like cats but the cat might had eat some mouse and then licked me. All are past and gone! For truly great mind,look at yourself.
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@wolfie34 (26793)
• United Kingdom
7 Jun 09
I don't like high rise buildings to be honest my friend, all that way up! I prefer quiet peaceful open spaces away from people to enjoy peace and tranquility and all what Mother Nature has provided us with.
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@polachicago (19075)
• United States
6 Jun 09
I never had security blanket in my life. Right now I have 3 security fur creatures as my security and they all sleep with me... It is hard to fall asleep without my cat on my chest and dogs at my legs.... HUGS
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@wolfie34 (26793)
• United Kingdom
6 Jun 09
I had used to have a security fur creature too, remember my beloved cat Zeus? I miss him deeply :0***( But at least I have Toby.
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@sweetie1026 (1723)
• Philippines
7 Jun 09
Hi Wolfie,i do not have a teddy bear or anything. I think, i can say that my security blanket is my pillow which i also embrace when i go to sleep, i don't feel comfortable when i do not have it beside me. I just hold it tight and cry myself to sleep.Being a single parent for 16 yrs.,i have learned to deal with everything that come my way all by myself.
@wolfie34 (26793)
• United Kingdom
7 Jun 09
You sound like a very strong person! I admire you for that, thank you my friend.
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• Philippines
7 Jun 09
I am not, but i have to with all the challenges life has been giving my way, i have to be strong for my girls and for myself as well. But this i tell you, there are times that i am at my weakest and i have God to lean on then. Thanks and have a good day,my friend.
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@balasri (26554)
• India
7 Jun 09
My security blanket is my wife for sure.She is so understanding that she never said a wrong word at a wrong time.She was a great support to me in my successes and failures.I wouldn't be leading a peaceful successful life without the security blanket I find in her.She has given me the boldness that I can confide anything to her.God has been kind to me in many ways and this is something special. And please say hi to Toby.I am beginning to like him.
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@wolfie34 (26793)
• United Kingdom
7 Jun 09
She is a lovely lady to have someone like you my friend! And Toby appreciates being thought about! So thank you
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@balasri (26554)
• India
8 Jun 09
Thanks for you nice words Wolfie.
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@kellyjeanne (1576)
• United States
3 Jul 09
I would have to admit that my security blanket are my sunglasses. I wear my sunglasses more than 90% of the time. It's true that my eyes are extremely sensitive to light. I even wear my sunglasses inside if it's during the day. My eyes are extremely sensitive to light. BUT, I do take them off around 4pm when I'm inside, but, if I'm outside I have to wait until 6pm because it's still too bright for me. I just love my sunglasses. If my sunglasses ever broke I would literally be in Hell because my eyes are EXTREMELY sensitive to light. Gee, do you understand by now that my eyes are EXTREMELY sensitive to light? LOL! I hope I've made my point clear! LOL! Purrs, Catwoman=^..^= & Mija
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@wolfie34 (26793)
• United Kingdom
3 Jul 09
Crystal clear dear friend, totally crystal x
@cbeee3 (2064)
• India
7 Jun 09
Its cute really that you have a bear named Toby. Nice to know. You just put a smile on my face :) I don't have an object as such, but I do 2 things that make me feel better. I close my eyes and listen to soothing music. Apart from that I write short poems. Somehow , the creative juices flow easily when I am in pain or am upset/distressed. So writing helps me a whole lot. God bless you! :)
@wolfie34 (26793)
• United Kingdom
7 Jun 09
Glad I made you smile, yes music is a wonderful medium for helping you to relax and feel good and make things better, I tend to put on music dependent on my music. When I really got into a 'dark place' in life I would often write poetry, I have still kept it, although I used to write a daily journal to get out my thoughts and feelings, writing is indeed very therapeutic and expressive.
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@clutterbug (1051)
• United States
7 Jun 09
Hi wolfie34, When I'm having rough patches I get the tea kettle or the coffee pot going, depending on my mood, and have a couple of cups. Jesus is always with me too, so it's Him, my tea or coffee, and sometimes a nice stroll, then I'm good to go.
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@wolfie34 (26793)
• United Kingdom
7 Jun 09
Sounds like a great combination too!
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@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
7 Jun 09
I have Valentine Bear for my security blanket, wolfie! He is red and cuddly, and you can always find him perched on my opposite pillow in my bed.I've had him for several years now. He replaced my longtime companion, Tag Bear, who I gave to a neighbor's grandchild. I have owned up to ten teddy bears at a time. I like to give them to children, and I like to receive them as gifts. VB is a great listener who always agrees with me and doesn't mind if I sometimes squeeze him a bit too hard.
@wolfie34 (26793)
• United Kingdom
7 Jun 09
Bears also keep the bed warm especially in Winter! What a lovely gesture giving them to children, I get too attached to mine and can't bear to part with them, if Toby could talk he could tell you a tale or too especially as he's seen through all my ex's and I have to say he didn't like any of them, shame I didn't listen to him LOL!
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@mariechin (428)
• Philippines
7 Jun 09
I think so... God is my numbr one security blanket and if i will be ask for some tangible things, maybe I could tell my diary. I use to write on my diary every time something happen to me happy moments or bad moments thru it, i can share my emotions without someone to disagree with you. and after that it makes me feel good about it..
@wolfie34 (26793)
• United Kingdom
7 Jun 09
Writing is extremely therapeutic and a way of handling situations and getting your words out in times of anguish.
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@guybrush (4661)
• Australia
8 Jun 09
I still have my childhood teddy bear (Goldie). She's 46 years old, and has the battle scars to prove it! All her stuffing has compacted down so her limbs are pretty flat - and most of her fur has rubbed off. These days, my comforting thing is to get into my lovely, warm bed at the end of the day and curl up with a book. That's the ultimate comfort and protection.
@wolfie34 (26793)
• United Kingdom
14 Jun 09
Wow 46! That is a grand old age! I go through phases of reading, I haven't read a book for ages now. I seem to spend most of my time either on the computer or at the gym LOL!
@sacmom (14315)
• United States
8 Jun 09
I'd have to say that the Internet (particularly mylot) is my security blanket when life gets me down. It helps take my mind off what is ailing me and I can put my troubles aside for a little while.
@wolfie34 (26793)
• United Kingdom
14 Jun 09
I find Mylot therapy too, remember when I went through that awful patch with my ex, I was so fortunate to have Mylot to turn to and in particular very good friends to rally around and support me, so yes definitely Mylot is a great security provider.
@KrauseHome (35034)
• United States
8 Jun 09
Back when I was single I was given a stuffed gorilla at a time when things in my life were not going well at all. To me, I think this was one of the most down times in my life, but also the start of what my life has become today for sure. I used to cling to this for hope and security, and there are times when I feel scared or just need to hug something, I still will hug it. But since I also have a Strong Faith in God thru Prayer I also know that he is like a Security blanket for me, and anytime I feel I really need to talk, he is there wrapping his arms around me protecting me as well.
@wolfie34 (26793)
• United Kingdom
14 Jun 09
Faith can be a very strong security blanket to some people.
@dawnald (84147)
• Shingle Springs, California
8 Jun 09
Cats or getting out in nature maybe. I'm not sure I really have a security blanket...