Family Member Hospitalized.(Stroke)

@Chevee (5905)
United States
June 7, 2009 9:07am CST
A long time close friend and family member of mine has had a stroke. A very serious massive stroke that has left her paralyzed on the left side, she is still in the hospital as I write this. She is a very independent lady and loves living alone. Now the doctors say she will have to have 24 hours care and never to be left alone. It's a possibilty that she will have to be put in the nursing home, just until she has some improvement and for therapy. She has children that live in another state, they are here now and she has neices and nephews that was taking care of her and checking on her everyday before the stroke. Things aren't looking to good for her health wise. She is in her 80's. Have you had a family member that had a stroke?
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@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
7 Jun 09
HI CHEVEE, I am so sorry about your friend. IF U HAVE READ MY PREVIOUS DISCUSSIONS I HAVE A GOOD FRIEND THAT HAD A MASSIVE STROKE ABOUT 6 WEEKS AGO. y our description of your friend fit mine to a tee. Jan IS NOW IN A NURSING HOME AS OF LAST WED. Is so sad to see this happening to your friends & family. I hope she gets better.
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@Chevee (5905)
• United States
7 Jun 09
Thank you. How is Jan doing now?
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@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
8 Jun 09
She is making no progress at all as far as her paralyzed side goes. SHE LOOKS BETTER & SEEMS BETTER BUT SHE HAS YET TO SMILE ONE TIME SINCE SHE HAS BEEN BACK HERE. That bothers me. I JUST HOPE 7 pray she gets where she can use her left side. tHANKS FOR ASKINH.
@fwidman (11514)
• United States
7 Jun 09
Many years ago, my aunt had a stroke that left her partially paralyzed and she lost a lot of memory. Strokes are not a nice thing at all Fortunately for my aunt she had her hubby and one of her sons to take care of her after the stroke. Stroke victims do need 24/7 care.
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@fwidman (11514)
• United States
7 Jun 09
Hopefully things will continue to improve for her
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@Chevee (5905)
• United States
7 Jun 09
That is a blessing to have good help. My family member has great help also. We have to find out first how much damage has been done and what treatments and help she will need. This stroke just happen this week. Take care and thanks for responding.
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@AmbiePam (84651)
• United States
7 Jun 09
Yes, I have. Some of them were left in bad shape and they really never recovered. However, I know one woman who was 78 when she had a stroke. She too was used to be independent. But after a year of physical therapy, she was able to move into an assisted living center. Not a nursing home. She could be checked on, but she had her own little apartment, and was able to retain some independence. I hope the same can work out for your family member. Meanwhile, she and your family will be in my prayers.
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@Chevee (5905)
• United States
7 Jun 09
Thank you, it is very sad when a person has to leave their home and the surroundings that they are used to. But life goes on.
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7 Jun 09
Hi Chevee, I am so sorry to hear this bad news, i hope and pray that your friend will be ok and sending some healing for her and her family and ofcourse for you, my mother was 82 when she had the stroke and fre months later she passed away, so I know how worrying it is for all concern. Hugs. Tamara
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@Chevee (5905)
• United States
8 Jun 09
Thank you your kindness is appreciated.
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@camomom (7535)
• United States
12 Jun 09
My uncles mother had a stroke many years ago. She couldn't speak or walk after. She could do a lot on her own but at a childs pace. She could say words but they wouldn't make sense. She could however express her feelings very well. If she was happy she would smile or laugh. If she was sad, she would cry or pout. She could still show affection too. If she wanted to give you a hug, she would. I think she'll probably do fine if it only effected one side.
@Chevee (5905)
• United States
13 Jun 09
Thank you, that mean a lot to me.
@camomom (7535)
• United States
14 Jun 09
You're welcome. *HUGS*
@camomom (7535)
• United States
13 Jun 09
I'm so sorry Hon. I wish there was something I could do to help. *HUGS* Just know that my thoughts are with you.
@jimaata (91)
• Philippines
7 Jun 09
That would be the best thing to do, they should Prayers would be good for her safety and peace.I'll pray for your friend . god bless
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@Chevee (5905)
• United States
7 Jun 09
Prayers are very much needed. Thank you for your response and caring.
@GardenGerty (157047)
• United States
8 Jun 09
Yes, I have, both severe and mild types. It seems to injure the spirit as much as the body unfortunately. So sorry for your friend.
@mentalward (14691)
• United States
8 Jun 09
I'm so sorry to hear this, Chevee! It's a horrible thing when your independence is ripped away from you like this. Still, she's in her 80's which means that she's had a long life, hopefully a good one! Maybe one of her children will be able to take her in and care for her? I had a great-aunt who had 5 "mini-strokes". She was still semi-independent, though, because she could still get around. Her main problem was in her speech. Sadly, she had one, last, massive stroke that killed her. I believe she was in her 70's at the time. I also have a long-time friend who has always been like a sister to me. Her kids call me Aunt Marti and my kids call her Aunt Debby. She's had 3 strokes but, even against the odds, she learned to walk again. She was determined to not let those strokes get to her and she's done a mighty good job of almost getting back to normal. She does forget things and has a little trouble getting around but, for the most part, she's doing exceptionally well. She was just so darned determined to recover! She's also in her 50's and was always as strong as an ox so she had that on her side.
@ShellyB (5241)
• United States
8 Jun 09
I am very sorry about your friend, I hope things get better for you, I have known people that had a minor stroke, it is not fun. *hug* And your friend will be in my prayers.
• Malaysia
8 Jun 09
No, i dont have. I believe that take seriously on your daily meal since young can reduce risk of getting stroke. Hope your friend can recover soon.