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@3orabi (540)
Jordan
June 9, 2009 6:47am CST
Hello all ... here in Arab countries we have what is called traditional marriage ... the mother of the guy looks for a beautiful good girl for her son ... then go to her family and ask them to accept the marraiage of her son and their daughter ... the guy mostly doesn't know the girl before ... they just meet in her parents house ... what do you think which is better this type of marriage or marriage before long relationship between the guy and the girl???
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13 responses
• Pakistan
9 Jun 09
Surrendering before the wishes of parents is indeed a great sign of obedient children. Our parents deserve to be respected and honoured. Their decisions must be held supreme. But when it comes to marriage, our parents are also supposed to be sensible and should not overlook the choice of their sons and daughters. They can share their choices with them, but must never try to impose their will on them, especially concerning their marriages.
• Canada
9 Jun 09
I believe you should marry someone you know without a doubt makes you happy. I want to live life feeling good everyday and I believe when you find your soul mate this is what they do. They make you smile and feel good inside and just seeing their face makes you feel happy inside. Maybe this can develop over time...but in arranged marriages you never really know. That person can end up being everything you hate!
@subha12 (18453)
• India
10 Jun 09
we can't predict what will happen in future. But by any chance I think its better to know each other before marriage. It may be that in love marriages also, there are lot more differences after marriage. But in arranged marriages, its just not wise to be blindfolded and marry someone who do not have any idea about.
• Philippines
10 Jun 09
I'm not in favor in marrying man that I don't even know before. If I'm going to marry I want that guy to know more.
• China
10 Jun 09
I think the long relationship between boy and girl before their marriage is better and necessary. the basis of marriage is trust and understanding each other. hasty marriage or marriage forced by both parties are not long standing. ......
• United States
10 Jun 09
I thinke they should stop following the system of arranged marriage and adapt to love marriages.It's only your country that follows this system. My country and India and many others do as well. The people who are getting married should decide who they want to marry, not their parents. Although their parents should approve them marrying.
• China
10 Jun 09
Of course I choose the marriage before long relationship between the guy and the girl.I can't marry with a girl who I don't know.
@doggyhouz (548)
• United States
10 Jun 09
Really depends on preference. Love is never measured by time. You can know someone forever that may be in love with you and you will never love them. Or someone you just meet and feel in love instantly. Now for arrange marriage that usually comes when an individual is either forbidden to date or seems to not have anyone. Or have relationship problems, like getting a guy or at least look the part of it in front of your parents. I have no disagreements with arrange marriage, but good to have some freedom too.
@YazEid (1139)
• Philippines
9 Jun 09
Hello 3orabi I believe that parents should have a role in the marriage issue , but I prefer to choose my girl first then I will ask them to make their role .. I don't think that the old idea of marriage is still valid because it will result in a lot of divorces .. have a nice time
• United States
9 Jun 09
I don't know how that might have worked for me since we do not do that in our family. In our case geting maried is an option or we can live with our partner my mom always told me that what matters to her is our happines and not ho we marry or live with. But I know that there are some costumes that the parents decide to ho you have to marry. It hapend to my granda and my great grandma because back then they were also told ho to marry. I have meet people that are happy in their marriage even if they never meet each other before getting married and some are not happy. But the same thing happens to people that deside to hom they are going to marry. So I don't think that one way is better than the other.
@pillusch (1149)
• Mexico
9 Jun 09
I think the end result is the same, they either match and are happy, or they don’t match and are not happy. When we ‘choose’ our spouses here in the west, we don’t really know what we are getting into, anyways. So some of those marriages work, and the couple is happy, and some don’t work, and the couple is not happy. It’s all the same to me……
@manish92 (24)
• India
9 Jun 09
Well I prefer the marriage where in the bride and the bride-groom doesnt know about anyone !!! me too come from a traditional Indian Family !!! Well if they dont know about anyone the problem of quarrels and disputes will get over and thus they can have a happy life ahead !!!
• India
9 Jun 09
I'm from India. Here also the exact thing goes on. The guy's mother looks for a supposed exact match. Then contact her parents. If they agree, the guy, with his family, goes to the girl's house. They meet each other. If they like each other, the marriage gets fixed. Though this is traditional, I don't think this is right. I always hate arranged marriages. Because, in case of arranged marriages, both belong to the same caste or at least the same religion. But in the case of Love Marriage, they may be from different castes, religions, economic backgrounds and even from different countries some times. This will promote humanity, integrity, love and affection all over the world. So, I always support love marriages and not these traditional systems!