pet peeve from mylotters

@ANTIQUELADY (36491)
United States
June 9, 2009 4:43pm CST
Is it just me or do y'all get irrated when u answer all the discussions that are sent to you trying to help everybody out but when u start a discussion u never get a response from a bunch of people that u get discussions from. I have one girl that sends me 6-10 aday but she doesn't bother to ever respond to mine. I have decided if they don't respond to mine i'm going to quit responding to theirs. ANYONE else see this happening??
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@stephcjh (32385)
• United States
10 Jun 09
I have seen that happen alot at Mylot over the years too. I go on and respond to theirs though because I want to respond to alot of discussions daily if possible. I am not sure if helps them more or myself.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36491)
• United States
10 Jun 09
I hope it helps u. Just got to thinking about it yesterday after i got about 6 notifications on this one gal that must do nothing else but send them out. i just think it's tacky that people do that & never return the favor. i love mylot & the friends i have made , things i have learned etc. AS IN REAL LIFE THERE ARE ALOT OF SELFISH PEOPLE ON HERE. Have a great day, STEPH, THANKS FOR YOUR RESPONSE.
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• Philippines
10 Jun 09
No i don't get irritated. It depends upon the topic. When my friends did not reply to my discussion its fine and I still response to their discussion maybe my discussion don't have their interest. But when the scenario is this, when I have a discussion that I have a problem and I need someone to console me and no one replied to my discussion, it really broke my heart but still I response to their discussion if they need me. We should not expect that everyone is there for us when we are need. They should be thankful for us because we are always there for them. Godbless.
@ANTIQUELADY (36491)
• United States
10 Jun 09
GOOD MORNING, THANKS FOR YOUR RESPONSE. I don't expect everyone to repond to mine. what irritates me are the ones that are constantly sending u all the oneliners every day but never have time to respond to yours. I WILL ALWAYS ANSWER ANYTHING U SEND ME & I AM A VERY GOOD LISTENER. Have a happy day.
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@salonga (27961)
• Philippines
10 Jun 09
Not just you but me. I encountered some people like that as well. All they know is to post discussions but they don't know how to return the favor to friends who have been supporting them all the way. Well I stopped supporting them after sometime of giving them chance. I don't respond to their posts anymore. I've in fact turned off my notification to those kind of friends. I know those friends who are not coming regularly so I don't really mind if they don't respond to my post but those people who are very active here but not responding at all, I simply can't tolerate.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36491)
• United States
10 Jun 09
GOOD MORNING TO BOTH OF YOU. Thanks for responding. I THINK U BOTH HAVE THE RIGHT IDEA. I WAS JUST TRYING TO BE NICE TO SOME OF THESE PEOPLE BUT I FOUND OUT A LONG TIME AGO THERE IS JUST SOME PEOPLE U CAN'T BE NICE TO. I am not fond of selfish people. So far the ones i am talking about have not responded to my discussion . I'm not surprised. THANKS SALONGA & MUSCLES. Y'all have a great day.
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@makingpots (11928)
• United States
10 Jun 09
Oh dear, I hope I am not one who has peeved you lately. You so kindly respond to all my discussions. And I admit, my participation here lately has been erractic at best. It is likely to remain this way through the summer with my high energy, full of life little guy to keep busy. .....lovin' every minute of it!
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@ANTIQUELADY (36491)
• United States
10 Jun 09
GOOD MORNING POTS, No way are you guilty of that. i always enjoy hearing from you whenever i can. I REALIZE people are busier in the summer & that is great u have fun things to do. U & that little guy have a good time. i envy u that u get to keep him all the time. I would love to keep mine all the time. THANKS FOR YOUR RESPONSE.
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@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
10 Jun 09
It would be nice if they would return the favor. Some people are more on starting than responding I guess.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36491)
• United States
10 Jun 09
GOOD MORNING JEN, some people are just selfish & out for noone but themselves. They are not my kind of folks. Have a great day.THANKS FOR RESPONDING.
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10 Jun 09
well antuiqe lady, the most money on my mylot is made from posting yourself, so in the end you winning both ways. let them be selfish, it benefits them to to respond to your discussions so let them miss out
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@ANTIQUELADY (36491)
• United States
10 Jun 09
THANKS FOR YOUR RESPONSE. I am not trying to win anything just making a statement. U have a great night.
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• Canada
10 Jun 09
I see this happening also, almost makes me feel like what I have to say doesn't count :'(
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@ANTIQUELADY (36491)
• United States
10 Jun 09
I think it's real tacky for people to always just think of themselves. Thanks for your response. Have a great night.
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@guybrush (4662)
• Australia
10 Jun 09
YES! (I think I might have the same girl on my list!) Not to mention the fact all her discussions are re-hashed versions of the same thing, over and over again! Maybe this person is only interested in making money, and not in making friends or enjoying other people's discussions?
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@ANTIQUELADY (36491)
• United States
10 Jun 09
I think u hit the nail on the head. I think we may have the same one.. HOPE ALL IS WELL W/U. Thanks for your response.
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@wolveren (1525)
• Philippines
14 Jun 09
Actually I did have that same experience. When I started out here it was just for the heck of it. I responded to most interesting discussions I could find. then when I don't get much responses on my discussions. That totally blew me off. But who am I to blame anyone anyway. Maybe my discussions aren't so interesting or maybe it's just me. So nowadays, I really don't care if no one responds to my discussions. I just go and do what I like doing here the most. Browse around for interesting discussions and responding to those that I think I have something to say. Quite easy really. It's not even for the money. It's for the experience. And it sure gets rid of my boredom of doing nothing in my spare time. I do however really enjoy reading a lot of interesting opinions here. cheers!
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@ANTIQUELADY (36491)
• United States
14 Jun 09
HI, Thanks for your response. I TO pass alot of time on mylot, have made some great friends & love seeing everybody's opinions. Hope ur sunday has been a good one.
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@wolveren (1525)
• Philippines
16 Jun 09
You have a great day too! Cheers!
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@ANTIQUELADY (36491)
• United States
20 Jun 09
THANKS.Happy sat. to u.
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
10 Jun 09
I think it happens to a lot of us and some of us don't pay any mind to it. I try to answer as much as I can IF it's something that I have some knowledge on or have something to add to it but the one's that I don't, I'll skip over. Then again, being that it's summer again, we're all trying to catch up on outside things that need doing and I fit in that category. Sometimes I get so far behind that I'll keep the discussions for about 2 or 3 weeks and comment on it even though it's so late to let the person know that I haven't forgotten them OR I'll give up and delete it from my in box. But I'm with you on this, if you're commenting on one persons discussions and they never answer to yours, I don't think I'd like that too much either.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36491)
• United States
10 Jun 09
THANKS CATS FOR RESPONDING. I know people are busier right now but i figure if they have time to make 'ALL' those discussions they have time to respond to some. I answer all i get . Of course i'm home & don't have things going on that alot of people do. U HAVE SO MUCH TO DO I DON'T KNOW HOW U HAVE TIME TO ANSWER ANY. H ave a great day.
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
10 Jun 09
Well, to be honest, I make time for a couple of reasons, one to make as much as I can to give to my parents to help them as much as I can and second is because of friends like you that I enjoy conversing with so much! I've become so attached to a few of you that I just can't walk away so it makes this "job" soooo much sweeter!! lol
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@ANTIQUELADY (36491)
• United States
11 Jun 09
U are a good daughter. Hope u make a bunch to give to them. I love talking to u to. THANKS FOR THE KIND WORDS.
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• United States
9 Jun 09
Add me as a friend. I'll respond to some of your discussions...Yeah some mylotters are like that. I notice that there are some people who do nothing but create discussions on here and never once reply to any of their friends discussions.I've had friends on my list that never replied to any of my discussions but yet I have replied once-ten times on their discussion but yet they delete me as a friend for no reason.I have deleted some people off my friends list before but only if they do something really rude to me that pi$$es me off, I don't take people's crap offline so why should I take it online?.I do have to admit that I can't reply to every single person's discussion daily. There are some day's that I don't even log-in this site. I was gone for almost 2 months awhile back and when I came back a lot of friends deleted me and I thought it was pretty rude considering I was in the hospital for surgery and I couldn't sit on my computer chair for over a month because of the pain I had after surgery. So if I vanish from mylot for a long amount of time it means something serious is going on in my life .
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@ANTIQUELADY (36491)
• United States
9 Jun 09
HI, THANKS FOR YOUR RESPONSE. I just ask u for a fried's request. I KNOW PEOPLE ARE BUSIER THAN ME BUT THEY AREN'T TOO BUSY TO START DISCUSSIONS just too busy to respond to anybody's. U shouldn't take anybody's crap, i'm not too good at that either. That was very rude of them to delete u. Hope u are doing o.k. now. Have a good night.
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• United States
10 Jun 09
{{cassandralynn}} good to see you here; Sorry to butt in here on your topic Antiquelady (G)! anyway I was thinking about you just the other day and was wondering how are you?? I haven't checked but I didn't delete you off of my list...no way!! would love to hear from you if you have time sometime; if you don't hear from me right away my stupid computer is blowing chunks and so is my firefox program...ARGghhh!! but HELLO TO YA!!
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@ANTIQUELADY (36491)
• United States
11 Jun 09
Didn't think u were butting in at all, dream. Have a good one.
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@ElicBxn (60016)
• United States
9 Jun 09
I've seen some that only start, they don't respond to other people's discussions. I don't care that much, but I have flat out told them that if they want to make it here, they'd better start. Guess what? Most of them are gone now.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36491)
• United States
9 Jun 09
HI ELIC, hope u & your mom are doing o.k. i didn't write discussions for months but i answered alot. I just think it's tacky when the same ones keep sending discussion to u which i always respond to but u never see them send a response to yours. I THINK IT'S JUST COMMON CORTEOUSLY to do the same for people. I'm not on here to make money like i know alot of folks are. It's not that i don't need it but i do it mostly for enjoyment. SO far i have never gotten a cent for being on here. THANKS FOR YOUR RESPONSE. Have a great night.
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@ElicBxn (60016)
• United States
10 Jun 09
Mom was pretty alert today, but I got there late and didn't get to take her to coffee I don't respond to ALL discussions, but I do find that after a while, if people don't respond to me I don't respond to many of theirs either.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36491)
• United States
10 Jun 09
I'm glad she was. Know that when she is like that it makes a better day for u. G IVE HER A HUG FOR ME & lots' of hugs to u for being such a good daughter.
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@Nhey16 (2519)
• Philippines
11 Jun 09
hello Antiquelady, That is really disappointing. Before, I had experienced it but I just ignored if that person would respond to my discussions or not. I'm just hoping that no one feels the same to me, and I hope that person is not me... :)
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@ANTIQUELADY (36491)
• United States
11 Jun 09
GOOD MORNING NHEY, NO, my dear it is not you. U HAVE HAVE ALWAYS BEEN SOOOO KIND & SWEET. t he funny thing the ones i was talking about have not responded to this discussion either. GO FIGURE, they are just selfish. I DELETED ONE OF THEM FROM MY FRIEND'S LIST LAST NIGHT. She sent me about a dozen notifications a day. YOU HAVE A HAPPY DAY.
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@kiran8 (14556)
• Mangalore, India
10 Jun 09
Hi ANTIQUELADY , It happens all the time, so much so that i have stopped caring about it now. I try to answer all the discussions and very few people participate in a discussion started by me. But I make it a point to participate in all the discussions that interest me, and particularly the ones that heave no responses. barring a few newcomers the rest just don't bother to reciprocate...
@ANTIQUELADY (36491)
• United States
10 Jun 09
HI KIRAN, Thanks for your response. at least i'm hearing from you & others that i have never heard from before. I'm glad to make new contacts, also get rid of some old ones.. Hope u are having a good day.
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• India
10 Jun 09
I really hate those people. I always respond to many discussions everyday. But when i make a discussion I only get two or three response hardly. Is this how you show your your gratitude towards us? They don't even bother to write at least one line. I strongly agree with your point and even I have decided the same.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36491)
• United States
10 Jun 09
HI , THANKS FOR YOUR RESPONSE. There is selfish people on here just like there is in your real life. What goes around comes around, i believe. Hope u are having a happy day.
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@suzzy3 (8400)
10 Jun 09
I get regulars not mentioning any names ,who always answer me and I tend to make a point of looking for them.As long as you have your say don't worry about it,do what I do go on and look for new friends hang on to the best ones though ,please don't desert me.you are fun.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36491)
• United States
10 Jun 09
HI SUZZY, THANKS for your response. i sure wasn't talking about u. u are one of my favorites.. the ones i was talking about have not bothered to respond to this either, lol.I think they are too busy thinking about themselves as so many people do nowadays. HOPE U ARE FEELING GOOD. TAKE CARE.
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@zandi458 (27954)
• Malaysia
10 Jun 09
Just seen this discussion of yours as I have been out of town and just came back this evening. I am really guilty if I don't response to any of your discussions as you have been a regular responder to many of my discussions. I have noticed the same trend among my friends whom I have supported in the past but never come to give me their support. Of course it is a bit disappointing to note that they keep posting new discussions but never bothered to return favor. I don't expect them to come to my every discussions as I can understand that they might not be able to relate to certain topics. Giving a shot to at least one or two response to a friend's discussion means a lot and as a form of goodwill and show that the bond of friendship is working as it should be.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36491)
• United States
10 Jun 09
GOOD MORNING ZANDI, Thanks for your response. I think it works both ways altho some people don't seem to think so. Hope u had a nice trip. IT'S like an old saying i have heard all my life, U SCRATCH MY BACK & I'LL SCRATCH YOURS
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@cyrus123 (6383)
• United States
10 Jun 09
I haven't had this to happen yet. I have started a few discussions that I haven't gotten any responses to. I have also started some that I only got one or two responses to. It's hard to respond to all of the discussions, especially if it's a subject I don't know anythng about. In that case, I just don't respond to it. I thought I had to respond to all of the discussions that were sent to me when I first joined mylot. Kathy.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36491)
• United States
10 Jun 09
GOOD MORNING KATHY. U do fine. I do try to answer all i get but i am going to start weeding some of them out. U HAVE A HAPPY DAY & THANKS for responding.
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@pergammano (7756)
• Canada
10 Jun 09
Yes, my dear Jo....yes, yes! It is so annoying....and sometimes I am the culprit, but I truly try and let you know that I will be away from computer! I do have several that have asked for friendship, and then fill my inbox with discussions that are inconsequential one-liners or just fill my in-box! Like you, I make an effort to respond......but THANK GOODNESS....EVERY ONCE IN A WHILE....I END UP WITH A SPECIAL FRIEND.....LIKE YOU! You can't be replaced ... my angel! Cheers!
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@ANTIQUELADY (36491)
• United States
10 Jun 09
GOOD MORNING, THANKS FOR RESPONDING. SOOOOOOO glad to see u on here. Hope u are feeling better. THANKS FOR THE KIND WORDS. U know i feel the same way. Take good vare of yourself & feel better. U can't keep a good woman down.
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@anniefannie (1743)
• United States
9 Jun 09
that is one reason that i stopped starting a discussion i didn't get hardley any responses.some people are so rude and don't think of anyone but there selfs
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@ANTIQUELADY (36491)
• United States
9 Jun 09
U GOT THAT RIGHT, THAT'S EXACTLY WHAT'S GOING ON W/THEM. People are really bad about being that way. don't let it stop u. I'M JUST GOING TO DELETE THE E-MAILS OF SOME OF THEM THAT ACT THAT WAY.
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