How many guests is too many for a wedding?

@leyisa (487)
Canada
June 9, 2009 9:00pm CST
Ok - So in the past couple of months, I've attended 3 weddings....Now, in the old days, if you had approx. 100 ppl at your wedding, then it was considered a "big wedding"....OFcourse, I thought that this was still the case. But these weddings that I went too very crazy in terms of the nubmer of guests..One of the weddings had 350, the other had 500 and the other had 750 guests!! Can you belive it! 750! I don't even know 750 ppl let alone invite them to my wedding.....Most of the guests were friends of the parents of the bride and groom or they were ppl who had invited the bride and grooms parents to their kids weddings and hence the bride and grooms parents had to return the favor..It was rediculous! So tell me, How many guests is too many for a wedding??
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@calyxus (827)
• Philippines
10 Jun 09
Weeeh! You won't believe this... In our place, a huge wedding is quite common. And I mean very huge a wedding. Here's why it's huge: First, there are the bride's immediate family. Then, the groom's immediate family. Next is the bride's extended family. And the groom's extended family. Then, there's the bride's friends. There's also the groom's friends. And the neighbors, the Local Officials, the Priest, the Wedding Planner, friends of friends, neighbors of neighbors, distant relative from other towns... and many more including the passersby. Haha! That's how it is here! Talkin' about hundreds of guests...
• United States
10 Jun 09
wow so how many people are in an average wedding and where are you from? I would not mind seeing a huge wedding just to be there and see it LOL
@calyxus (827)
• Philippines
11 Jun 09
I'm from the beautiful archipelago of the Philippines... About 1K people are there! But you don't have to worry about accommodating them all, everyone is a friend, everybody helps in the preparation, and nobody is out of place. Are you married? You can have your wedding here, it'll be great! Haha!
• Philippines
10 Jun 09
As long as you know the names of every person you see at the wedding and reception venue, I guess that's not too many but if you only see that person in the pictures and not remebering that you bumped into each other at the reception then you've invited a lot, right? On my 18th birthday celebration my parents gave me a huge party, 300 people were present I think. Mostly I saw the first time that night. =)
@leyisa (487)
• Canada
10 Jun 09
300 ppl for your birthday - wow...that's crazy! hahah...I'm pretty sure that the bride and groom did not know the names of half the ppl at the wedding..haah
• Philippines
10 Jun 09
It is! And that's why my fiance and I are planning to have a maximum of 60 guests for our wedding. But the good thing about having lots of guest is that I also got lots of gifts which took me a week to open. And even though my birthday is 2 months over, gifts were still coming.
@cassaleo (32)
• United States
10 Jun 09
I think that over 300 is way too many. I mean when you get to friends of the parents that is just way too much. You can have more friends of your parents than your own guests. Most people cannot afford to feed that many people. I cannot imagine having 750 people at any wedding of mine. Where would I get that many people is beyond me. I bet if I put all of my family and my dude's family together than I guess I would be close to that number! Brides nowadays should be concerned with entertaining and mingling with your guests. If you have 750 guests or even 300 you are not going to possibly be able to talk and mingle with everyone. How often do you see these people? So for you to have them all there that is the perfect time to catch up and spend some quality time with them. I like when you can blend your family at weddings and allow them to intermingle. How often will that group of people all be in the same room again? Probably not unless either of you die or at your children's weddings! I think it is better to be able to spend the time you have with them than running around with your head cut off! I personally would not go over 150 at max. We were thinking of more around 80-100 at the max. I would love to invite others but it is not possible! We have to keep it small! I would love to invite all of my friends and family but that is just not possible!
@leyisa (487)
• Canada
10 Jun 09
These are my thoughts exactly!! The wedding that had 750 ppl at it, I was speaking to the groom who is a friend of my husbands and he was telling us that he had never met half the ppl that were at the wedding that were from HIS SIDE. How crazy is that..He said how his parents invited a bunch of ppl. Most likely, he will never see most of those ppl again. i agree that 150 ppl should be the max at a wedding - that way you can still say hello to everyone without it getting crazy.
• United States
10 Jun 09
I know! It's crazy though because I cannot imagine a big wedding like that. I want to know that the people that are there are the people that I know personally. The people who contribute to our lives and wish us well. I have heard so many stories about how they have people who have came to the wedding to hate or to just be rude. These type people you should weed through. I know in my family I have a lot of users. People who will use whatever you have and take and take. They never offer you anything or accommodate you. They never invite you to anything they have but are the first one at everything you have. I hate people like that. They are stingy and plain rude. I feel like if you share with me I will always share with you!
@med889 (5958)
10 Jun 09
There were 300 people invited for the wedding of my two sisters and I find it of exageration I even said that to my fathher and later one he agreed than from now on we will invite only close relatives and close friends. It was too much for 3oo people and now I wonder how will that be for 750 people around the bride or groom. I prefer my weding to be very simple with only some 100 close people.
@leyisa (487)
• Canada
10 Jun 09
Hi Med - did your sisters know all 300 ppl that were at the wedding? I agree that weding should be with close relatives and friends - I lersonally think that 100 ppl is the right amount..
@biggerb (2028)
• India
10 Jun 09
If you ask me honestly I would say 200 people.100 from the boys side and 100 from the girls side.This is a manageable number.I just attended a wedding where there were 1500 guests invited.I think the number who attended would be even more.It was a mad rush.The same couple had a reception and again they had that many itseems.Though I never attended that.The whole sanctity of a wedding is lost.The crowd becomes unmanageable.Soon after the wedding is over everyone wants to rush to the stage give their present and go have food and push off.There should be no rush.We must be able to entertain the people who have come and get each one to bless the newly weds.I hope people change their attitudes and have a smaller wedding.
@leyisa (487)
• Canada
10 Jun 09
1500 guests???? Holy camoli....now that's insane....you are right - that amount b/c totally unmanageable...I think that iots almost a contest between ppl these days as to who can have the most guests at their wedding...seriously....gosh
@chriswolf (360)
• China
10 Jun 09
Hah~ For this question, I will laugh at first. Maybe you should ask yourself, how many relatives and friends do you have? In my opinion, there is never too many for a wedding, if only you want them to share the happiness of your wedding. So this is up to you to make a decision. Anyway, to have fun is the most important thing for your wedding. Right?
@leyisa (487)
• Canada
10 Jun 09
HEy Chris...Well, I defintly don't have that many relatives and friends..hahah...The problem with have too many ppl at a wedding is that you dont' even get a chance to go up to them and talk to them...and besides, when there are soo many ppl, it takes the bride and groom about 3 hours to get through the receiving (greeting) line..hahah . You are right though my friend - to have fun is the most important :)
@tinam13 (840)
• United States
10 Jun 09
I think as many as you feel necessary. It's your wedding and it's only supposed to happen once, so invite the whole world if you have to.
@LittleMel (14055)
• Canada
10 Jun 09
no number is too many, really as long as they can afford it I guess they will invite as many as they want I've heard about 1000 guests before surely can't be just family and friends but then again weddings are not personal event anymore, it's also social means people can invite as many people as they want not only those close and dear to them
@eztuner (451)
• United States
10 Jun 09
In my opinion, one should have the wedding appropiate to the budget first, and then in accordance with your prefferences. If you have thousands of friends and you can pay for such a wedding, HAVE a BLAST!
@guixiu81 (31)
• China
10 Jun 09
Two month ago, I attended my friend's wedding, the total people should be 200, at that time,I thought where are too many people, it means both bride and grooms have many relatives. I think 100 people is usual for general wedding, but if you are famous person or you from big family, you may have more than 500 guests. In my opinion, over 150 guests is too many for a wedding.
• China
10 Jun 09
100 is enough! It is very important for girls like us to have a wonderful wedding. But to have a memorable one is much more important. For me I will only invite some close relatives and friends because only them really care who you married and whether you are happy or not. It is rediculous to have a wedding just for wedding. You know for the parents' favor or some other reasons. That's my points.
• Philippines
10 Jun 09
hmmm. I think too many is when your friend's friend or your parent's friend's friend is already invited. LOL. I have a big family, so it is expected that all of them will be there.. so I guess, it really depends on how big is your family, and how nice you are to them. LOL.
• Philippines
10 Jun 09
I think 50 guest is average and 100 or more than are too many to have. Depends on the status of your living. If you are rich, then 100 guest is too little.
@kissie34 (2296)
• Philippines
10 Jun 09
Wow! That was too many.. I wonder they know all the people who attended their wedding.. Well, for me if ever I'll get married I'll make sure that it is with closest friends and family only.. I don't want to have so many invited guest in my wedding. I just want to make it simple and memorable. I'll appreciate very well if all of our closest friends and family were there to celebrate with us. Maybe about a hundreds and not going more than that. I'll set a maximum of 100 guest and minimum of 50 to make it safe. To consider everything, budget really need to priorities. So, I guess it's up in how much we are willing to spend for the wedding.
• Philippines
10 Jun 09
The answer to your question depends on individual circumstances. What is many to others may not be to you or vice versa. There are a lot of factors to consider. How big is your family, how many friends do you have, what kind of wedding do you want to have either private and simple or public and extravagant...so there is really no exact answer to that. What really matters is your choice or preference and whether you will be happy with that choice that you have made.
@zzyw87 (1260)
• Philippines
10 Jun 09
For me, I would like to have just a hundred or so for my wedding. I don't like to have more than 200 guests, especially if these are people I barely know. Usually, when there are more than 200 guests, these usually include friends of the bride and groom's parents. I would like to have a small and intimate wedding and only with people I am really close to.