What is the first thing that attracts you to someone?

@trinee (514)
Trinidad And Tobago
June 10, 2009 7:44am CST
Some people are attracted to eyes, smile,looks,personality, money and for others it is the caring ways and thoughtfulness someone shows. Some are attracted just because the other person is very much into them. For me, it is the personality and I am a sucker for the eyes and an award winning smile ! LOL What stirs in you and attracts when you first see someone?
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@saw2207 (1363)
• United States
10 Jun 09
I look at someone hands .. and then I try to tune in to their scent . . if someone had taken a shower in cologne It is a turnoff for me . . rather smell their natural scent
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@trinee (514)
• Trinidad And Tobago
10 Jun 09
Hands? Why the hands? You've sparked my interest in what you look for. I love the natural scent too. probably because of my sinus more than anything lol
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@saw2207 (1363)
• United States
10 Jun 09
few reasons that I look at a mans hands. . some though I cant share here some of my reasons here . . the one I will say is I like to see if he has a weddingband on ! "You cannot shake hands with a clenched fist" happy lotting to you ..
@trinee (514)
• Trinidad And Tobago
10 Jun 09
Haha. I understand dear.. that's so funny. And yes we have to check for that wedding band even though some of them are slick and don't wear it! Happy mylotting to you too.
@jdyrj777 (6558)
• United States
11 Jun 09
Yes, eyes can be nice but for me believe it or not its the nose too. The nose and nosteral shape. The lips are pretty cool too. But for me its mostly the nose. Personality comes later as you get to know them.
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@trinee (514)
• Trinidad And Tobago
12 Jun 09
The nose....I guess there are people who just have to see one feature on the body and it draws them in...for the second phase. Have you ever met someone who has the perfect nose but nothing else that attracted you? How did you handle that situation if you are willing to tell. Have a great day!
@jdyrj777 (6558)
• United States
12 Jun 09
No that has never happen to me. I have however dated at guy before that was not very attractive but portrayed himself as a Godly man. After getting to know him better he was quite the opposite. Every word i could think of to discribe him was all negitive. Very bad shituation.
@jambi462 (4598)
• United States
11 Jun 09
Beautiful personality, exterior and interior. I am attracted to originality and to uniqueness. When people be themselves I think that is much more attractive then trying to impress everybody. You can really find beauty in anyone because we are all beautiful people when we treat each other as equals and choose to be beautiful to everyone else.
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@trinee (514)
• Trinidad And Tobago
12 Jun 09
I believe that beauty radiates from inside and you see it on the outside. The eyes and smile of a person reflects a lot of the times who they are on the inside that is more stable than the pretty hair and the high cheek bone and great figure..
@jessi0887 (2794)
• United States
10 Jun 09
Usually I look at someones hair first. I do look at other details but for some reason hair is the first thing I look at in someone.
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@trinee (514)
• Trinidad And Tobago
10 Jun 09
Now that is interesting. Hmmm. why the hair though? I am curious to find out if you are willing to share.
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@bunnybon7 (33066)
• Holiday, Florida
11 Jun 09
personality. so im with you on that. he has to be kind and unselfish. i dont care the slightest how he looks as long as hes a good person. like my late hubby. everyone loved him and i never knew a kinder person. why im not with anyone since hes been gone because its hard to fill those shoes.
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@dismalgrin (2470)
• United States
11 Jun 09
I agree with you. My attractions to a person would be the same as yours. Though I also have my rather... ahem... 'earthy' side that makes me check things out that I'm not too proud of. Like sometimes I visually size up things like hands and feet, and sometimes my eyes wander towards other places and I find myself questions if I may be attracted to everything that is available to me in this person. Haha. Some guys find this flattering... some just get mad that I may even be interested in such things. But, if a guy can look at a woman's chest, or her hind quarters when sizing her up... why can't we look at similar dimensions on the men?
@balasri (26577)
• India
11 Jun 09
The welcome look in their eyes and the warm friendly and honest smile in their lips make me attracted towards any person at the first sight.
@trinee (514)
• Trinidad And Tobago
11 Jun 09
When was the last time you had someone affect you like that... are they still in your life? If you are willing to tell.
@balasri (26577)
• India
11 Jun 09
If course I would like to tell.I saw this person for the first time four years back in the school where my daughter studies.He has come to drop his two beautiful daughters.As a volunteer and a member of the Parent teacher association I was regulating the traffic at the school parking lot.I saw this guy with a very bright honest smiling face and wished him good morning to which he responded immediately so brightly.I got an instant liking for this decent gentle man.We became friends on just 'Hi' and 'Hello' terms.Right now he is my business partner in our Hr consultants.He is still the same.Honest humble and sweet.That makes me very proud of my assessment of people. Am I not smart?
@trinee (514)
• Trinidad And Tobago
12 Jun 09
Oh yes you are and it is nice that this person is still in your life bringing sunshine...I hope the friendship continues...
@jen_barre (104)
• United States
10 Jun 09
This is tough because generally its the whole package, BUT he MUST have a good body and the number one thing that drives me crazy??? His HANDS!!!!
@trinee (514)
• Trinidad And Tobago
10 Jun 09
Ohhh.. you are a "hands" person too? LOL I would have never thought about the hands before someone posted it here..
• United States
10 Jun 09
It's weird probably...but if a guy has soft, manicured hands - EWWW!!! I need his hands to be BIG and hairy and look like they've been used before..but not dirty or gross looking.....I've very specific LOL
@trinee (514)
• Trinidad And Tobago
10 Jun 09
The hands again LOL.
@sdas86 (6076)
• Malaysia
15 Jun 09
I think I am not a handsome man. I look 18 year old but my age is already 23. People always think that I am still a small boy because my face look like one. Some might call it baby face. I hope I can make myself look more mature. At least not baby face anymore. Maybe this way I will be able to attract someone special to my life. For me, I will choose a girl with good personality. Personality is important because not matter how pretty or handsome a person is, bad personality will make that person ugly.
@trinee (514)
• Trinidad And Tobago
15 Jun 09
Your personality can definately make you appear less or more attractive I believe. You may be physically attractive to one person and to another person you will not be; I hope you will always remember that sdas86. Be comfortable in your own skin and thank God for the blessings he has given you.
@sdas86 (6076)
• Malaysia
3 Jul 09
Thanks.
@x_Jo_x (1042)
12 Jun 09
So many things! lol For me, first i would like to say personality, i think that is the most important thing. Then i would say eyes and smile aswell. I LOVE brown or blue eyes for some reason, but any colour is also nice!
@x_Jo_x (1042)
12 Jun 09
Also, got to make me laugh! And have something that makes them stand out from everyone else! Got to be kind and careing aswell. Think thats about it =)
@trinee (514)
• Trinidad And Tobago
13 Jun 09
I have a liking for smiling eyes. I don't know if anyone has ever descibed eyes like that.. but they are the kind of eyes that just smile at you and make you smile too..:)
@cynthiann (18637)
• Jamaica
11 Jun 09
The voice. TYhe first thing that attracted me to anyone was the way that they spoke.
@trinee (514)
• Trinidad And Tobago
12 Jun 09
What about their voice are you attracted to? what tone of voice do you like to hear in them?
@cynthiann (18637)
• Jamaica
12 Jun 09
A well educated cultured voice. Not strident.
@nrn2003 (671)
• United States
11 Jun 09
I dont care what anyone says, the first initial attraction to someone is their looks. Then from there you find what their personality type is and if they mesh well with you or not. Finding somone in a bar scene makes that a little difficult because usually when someone is drinking they aren't acting themselves, but getting more of a one on one basis makes it more realistic of what you two would be like together.
@trinee (514)
• Trinidad And Tobago
12 Jun 09
Yes.. your first interaction with someone is seeing them and their appearance draws you in or turns you away. If you get past that initial phase then you speak and their personality will either draw you in or turn you away. However, there are some situations where you not thinking of any kind of attraction and start speaking with someone and their personality is the first thing that draws you in because your mind was not on attraction in the first place.
@nrn2003 (671)
• United States
12 Jun 09
I totally agree with what you are saying :) Thanks for the input.
@derek_a (10903)
11 Jun 09
I have always been attracted by the way a girl would look at me. There is something in the eyes that is beyond my ability to explain that seems attractive. Eyes talk.. - Derek
@trinee (514)
• Trinidad And Tobago
11 Jun 09
Do you like any particular colour eye? Some people are really attracted to blue eyes.. what gets you?
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@derek_a (10903)
11 Jun 09
No, there is not any particular eye color. It is just the look in the eyes, they could be dark or light blue like mine are. - Derek
@Elie6208 (58)
• United States
11 Jun 09
The first thing for me would be a good sense of humor, I love funny people! But also personality, manners etc. Looks are nothing if there aren't any good traits on a person.
@trinee (514)
• Trinidad And Tobago
11 Jun 09
Have you ever been attracted to someone because of only their looks and how did it turn out if you are willing to tell..
@flzmlady (419)
• China
11 Jun 09
kind heart. without that, i wont be attracted by any one who is good-looking or gracefully dressed or fine-talking.all my friends i choose are very kind-hearted.
@Ramsay (131)
• Canada
11 Jun 09
I have to agree with you. Looks dont love you back and treat you with kindness. The personality does that .
@trinee (514)
• Trinidad And Tobago
11 Jun 09
I feel you both.. as much as the good looks catch our eye... the kind heart is what makes us continue to look.. because the looks cannot love us back. To be able to sit and have a meaningful conversation with some and have them care about us, how we are and what is happening in our life is important. To have a friend versus someone who looks good on our arm is definately a plus in my book..
@jugsjugs (13046)
10 Jun 09
I like a person who is caring,thoughtful and has a good sense of humour any other qualities are a bonus.lol.
@trinee (514)
• Trinidad And Tobago
11 Jun 09
Are you a "hands" person too jugsjugs? LOL
@jugsjugs (13046)
11 Jun 09
oh yes lol.
@renlay (36)
• Philippines
10 Jun 09
Definitely the eyes and the personality of course. There's something about the eyes, the way it looks to your eyes. LOL
@trinee (514)
• Trinidad And Tobago
10 Jun 09
It is said that the eyes are the window to the soul... they can really draw you in can't they?
@renlay (36)
• Philippines
10 Jun 09
Yes. Definitely. The power of the eyes.
• Philippines
13 Jun 09
I first attract with the way he looks externally like, the way he carry his clothes, then I will look on the face. When his eyes are so warm I get attracted easily, plus the charming smile and his expression. The last part is his personality. Sometimes when I am attracted to men I used to follow his action in that way I learned about his personality but that is a little of his personality only because it is when I get to know him personally that I will learned his personallity thoroughly.
@trinee (514)
• Trinidad And Tobago
14 Jun 09
Warm eyes and charming smile has a way of affecting us. I think most people are attracted by these two features. It is is even nicer if while getting to know the person we become even more attracted to their personality. the combination of both can really bring a smile to our face and heart.
@whyaskq (7553)
• Singapore
12 Jun 09
I have never really thought about it. The person can have attractive eyes, looks, personality, money or even very caring, and is the darling of many, yet he may not attract me. Perhaps I am weird but I guess it is affinity I am looking for.
@trinee (514)
• Trinidad And Tobago
13 Jun 09
You sent me into my dictionary to find that word 'affinity" but it's always good to learn a new words. I think we are all looking for affinity at some stage when we are really attracted to someone providing that the person is good for us and we are good for them. You are right, not everyone who has attractive traits would attract us we will just have to look for that connection.
@tigeraunt (6331)
• Philippines
11 Jun 09
the smile and the sense of humour. a good conversationalist.
@trinee (514)
• Trinidad And Tobago
11 Jun 09
Do you like them talk or short? I have not heard much people speak on this topic of height? Which is it for you or does it not matter?