unfaithful friend??

I sort-of agree with 4paws. I mean, first off, you need to find out what these messages say. Of course you can assume that they are good friends depending on what they say. However, is your boyfriend doing anything else suspicious? If your boyfriend is being faithful and your friend is being unfaithful- your boyfriend might not be telling you because he doesn't want to ruin you and your friends- friendship. But seriously, if both are being unfaithful. They're just not worth it, and you're better off ditching both. But don't make any judgments if you don't have any evidence, as you may lose not only a good friend, but your boyfriend. You should definitely try asking though.

she doesn't respect you at all, if that's the case. Why don't you just talk to her and ask her why she is doing it. Or maybe, she and your boyfriend is also good friends. If the messages and her intention to communicate to your boyfriend is good and plain friendship, then you need not to worry, but if there's still something more to it then that's the time that you will get worry.

What's the context of those messages & the relationship between your boyfriend & your friend? You know, your boyfriend does have the right to have other friends besides you... I'm not trying to be mean here... And your friend does have to right to be friends with anyone she chooses... Of course I'm saying these without knowing the full context of what that "messages" are & the nature of the conversation between your boyfriend & your friend... I would find out for sure what they are before jumping in to any conclusions... If you feel as though she's coming between your relationship with your boyfriend, you should tell her straight out & if she basically blows you off, then you need to talk to your boyfriend... If he does the same, then you don't mean that much to either one of them, weather they're cheating on you or not... As your boyfriend, he should decide which relationship is more important for him, you or her, even if he's only friends with her... And vise versa, she needs to respect you & your relationship with him as a friend enough to back off if it makes you uncomfortable... Then you 3 should all sit & talk things through, or straighten things out... If it is the case that those 2 are cheating on you, then move on... Once the trust is broken in a relationship, weather they were cheating on you or not, it would be very hard for the relationship to survive... You got a lot of work, & talking if they're willing, to do...

I don't think your boyfriend or your friend will appreciate you haveing doubts and suspicions, especially when that's all they seem to be at the moment. They might be just talking, or maybe even planning a surprise for you. Don't judge them while there's nothing to judge.

Does your friend and your boyfriend have relationship with each other? If there is nothing happening between your friend and your boyfriend make some action right away. Tell your boyfriend not to have communication with your friend and also tell your friend to stop giving some messages with your boyfriend. Try to Talk to her without any anger to keep your friendship last and give her a chance, show her that you are still a good friend. But when your friend still exchanging messages with your boyfriend, do not show any good manner with that girl. And also watch your boyfriend's moves.

If u really love as ur own sis, y not ask her directly and clear ur mind. Or just ask ur boy friend, how he knows her??? If u find out that she is cheating you, then decide what u want to do. First of all get to know what's exactly between them....

I would find out for sure what is going on. What do the messages she is sending have in them. Are they innocent or what? Then I would confront her and get to the bottom of it. Him too. If she is getting frisky with him and he letting it happen then I would re-evaluate your relationship and who he is. Is she really your friend. I would find out for sure before I confront them though. It could prove an embarrasing thing for all of you if it proves to be a misunderstanding. This has happened before. Be careful.

You found out that your friend is sending message and talking to your boyfriend, have you also found out what they are talking about? Maybe their are just friends and your giving malice with that. Maybe your just thinking the wrong way, it is better to observe and know the truth before you judge them.

That would definitely be weird. Why would she be sending messages to my boyfriend behind my back? I would definitely want to know the messages and the reason why she is sending them. If I find out that she wants him , then definitely, I will cut off the friendship with her. Because she wants to do it secretly means that she doesn't honor the friendship and has no respect for me.

first of all, check if your boyfriend is responding with her if so then leave them both with no regret, and continue with your life ( they do not deserve your friendship and love).

give her a big kick on her back. it sould be fair enough.