How long do you nurse a broken heart?

@Niah1976 (733)
Philippines
June 11, 2009 7:27am CST
Based on my personal experience, the longest time I nursed a broken heart is seven years. During that time, I pray to heal my broken heart. There are some guys who courted me but I don't feel anything towards them. I don't want to be in another relationship just to get over my ex. And maybe I love my ex so much that I can't love anybody else but him. But after seven long years, I met the father of my kid. And I thank God for hearing my prayers.
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18 responses
@jands1 (835)
• United States
11 Jun 09
What a sweet, sad story Niah1976. *hugs* I myself nursed a broken heart for nearly ten years. Sometimes the world interferes with soulmates and their life together.
@Niah1976 (733)
• Philippines
11 Jun 09
I thought I was the only one who did that. Well, maybe it was meant to happen that way. Anyway, God has always a purpose. Good luck to both of us!!!
@jands1 (835)
• United States
12 Jun 09
No, you are not the only one my friend. I know that everyone I loved once, I will not forget. I just am not *in love* with them anymore. :)
@jules67 (2790)
• Philippines
12 Jun 09
It is in the nature of women that we nurse our broken hearts longer than men. For you, it took you 7 years and that was a long time, could be that you still had feelings for him. It took me one year to get over one person, I mean I am done with sleepless night, nights I spent crying. There are the stages that we have to go through and the last part is acceptance. That would be the time for us to move on and probably accept a new love.
@Niah1976 (733)
• Philippines
12 Jun 09
Yes, I agree with you. The other clue that you are ready is whenn you honestly believe that you stop on hoping that you will be together again one day.
@ShanaLR (17)
• United States
12 Jun 09
I personally would like to know other people's answers as well. I recently have had my heart broken and I am going to have to get a divorce which is truly traumatic. I have been in the seperation stage for about a year now because I have been seeking God for an answer. I finally feel comfortable in what he is telling me, but man oh man does it hurt so bad. Hopefully it doesn't take 7 years to get over this. I do want to love again
@Niah1976 (733)
• Philippines
12 Jun 09
The other reason why it took me 7 yrs is that I fear that I might choose someone that's not meant for me again. But in that 7 years, my life is normal. I can still laugh with friends and with my family. It's just that I really miss my ex and I wanna be with him but he doesn't want me anymore so all I have to do is to accept it. I thought I could never love someone as much as I loved him but right now I can say that I love the father of my kid more than I did before. ANd I can say that I totally moved on and I am happier now.
@elghrasya (502)
• Philippines
11 Jun 09
Oh my god seven years is such a very long time for you my friend. Move on and enjoy life. Life and love have more good things to offer so just open your heart and mind.
@Niah1976 (733)
• Philippines
11 Jun 09
oh yeah i did. actually, i already have a kid. her dad and i are on our ninth year already.
@eLsMarie (4148)
• Philippines
13 Jun 09
wow... seven years sounds very long... i'm glad that you've found the man of your life. right now, i'm still mending my broken heart. me and my ex broke up two years ago. i had a boyfriend after him but i ended up realizing that i don't love the second one. right now, i'm still in the process of healing my broken heart. i'm not opening my doors to anyone unless if it's only about friendship. i'm so pathetic
• Italy
13 Jun 09
My friend i think every one have its own sorrows and emotional damages and as you said here you was doing all this for your own broken heart. I really appreciate your courage but i feel if we look around us we have so many stories around us and i always try to heal others broken heart. Every one lives for himself, try to live for others this will heal your heart and give you ultimate happiness.
@mimiang (3777)
• Philippines
12 Jun 09
You can never never tell
@mye_drew (182)
• Israel
12 Jun 09
it depends..if i love my ex bf maybe i cure my broken heart till i forgot,.its about months maybe or more than that,.i have an experiences with two ex bf already,.the first one just i forgot him without breakup coz were not living in the same place,.im too far far away with him coz i came here in israel and he left at the philippines,,,..while my 2nd ex bf its not hard to cure because i felt one day that i dont luv him anymore but that time we're still on..
@artofreed (130)
• Indonesia
12 Jun 09
I'm 45 years old and had several experienced in broken heart. Now I just need a several months, maybe within 6 months to treat my broken heart. There are simple ways to treat the broken heart fast. 1. Don't remember the beautiful moment 2. Makes yourself happy 3. Don't blame yourself for all that happened 4. Don't even think a revenge 5. Make yourself happy 6. Always Pray ( this is very important) and I was treated my pain with religious tratment (LOL, it had happened 3 years ago)
• China
12 Jun 09
Congratulations! 7 years is a so long time! When it comes to me , I still feel very griefed when I thought the scene her said that. It's only 2 years , and I think I'll get though it.
@pansy45 (156)
• Indonesia
12 Jun 09
three years..that is my time to heal my broken hearth,she's my first girlfriend and my first time i realy love someone,when broke with her i'm so upset,depress,and my life become a mess.after three years i learn to forget er,with find somebody else,but i confuse cause i never feel something that i ever feel before when i was with my first girlfriend.i never realy love someone again.
@regal_aeros (2606)
• Singapore
11 Jun 09
well, perhaps i haven't really fallen in love love per say. All my "love" are one-sided and i'm quite realistic in a way. If the guy has a girlfriend i'd just give up immediately and not even think about any possibilities. I value fidelity. But anyway, the longest i've nursed a broken heart (i think mine is considered a chip or nick though) is 2 weeks max. It seems that whenever the one i like gets a girlfriend or shows totally no interest in me, i'd brood and sulk and have physical heart wrenches for 2 weeks. And after that i somehow pick myself up.
• Canada
11 Jun 09
It could be a month, or 2 or 6, who knows. Some people are broken hearted for years. It is individual. Everyone is different, and there can't be a hard and fast rule. You hope that it doesn't last long, because it is painful, terribly painful.
@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
11 Jun 09
HI NIAH, u can have a broken heart a long time. my heart was broken over 30 years ago. it's not something i dwell on but it's always there. I HOPE THINGS WORK OUT WELL FOR U.
@eliezl (766)
• Philippines
11 Jun 09
i think there's no definite time in nursing a broken heart. it depends on the person too. it varies on the person's activities and her ways of dealing with it as well. if he or she has become used to have his or her heart broken always, then i guess moving on isn't that hard. but in my case, ive always been in a serious relationship so nursing a broken heart without a doubt would take a long time before ill be able to move on. =) im glad that u finally found the right man for you. i guess the right person would come at the right time. if people rush their selves to relationship then its possible to commit lots of mistake. if people are just patient and take time to get to know a person first before going serious and steady, then maybe its also time that he or she find the right one. a lesson for the rest of us who are still in a relationship and single, we just have to trust the almighty on whats good for us. our future and destiny lies in his hands afterall.
@geniustiger (1699)
• Philippines
11 Jun 09
Its so long to heal for me I dont take it long to heal. Im the one who is affected then why not move on to other might be you can find someone to love you more than the first that long time to come back. Your love is so impressive to anyone you can keep it for long time to recover , I cannot take it that long journey I cant make it so hard for me. I think thats your awesome skills that can take broken heart so long. I cant do that. I will be sick for it If I take it too long. But so happy for that great sacrifice you met what you wish to the father of your kid.
• Malaysia
11 Jun 09
after i broke with my first lover, its take almost four years to heal. every morning i wake up my memories will appear just like i see the big screen front of me..always see her face ...till someone came and give me 'heart' treatment...i relief cause can forget her and my past..
@reckon21 (3487)
• Philippines
11 Jun 09
Give me two weeks and I will be good as new. Honestly, broken heart is not easy to cure. Maybe it will take months, depending If I love that person so much. The deeper you love the person it will be much harder to forget the person.