LIVING-IN Bliss

Philippines
June 11, 2009 8:53am CST
I have met some couples who really love their set up as live-in partners. They are not married but they do act like one. Some says, living-in like marriage, isn't for everyone. That's true, but some says, living-in is a test before marriage to find out if they really click together. I have read this article in a magazine that living together might actually make people less committed to the relationship. So, how about you? what can you say about this?
6 responses
• Philippines
12 Jun 09
a lot of people nowadays are leaning more on the practical side of life.others however are still bounded by traditions. those who want to be more practical jump into living-in right away outside the blessings of church because they think it's just a piece of paper that easily goes useless once they decide to split-up, saves them more of annulment/divorce-attorneys fees. yes it does makes sense. but for others, they simply dont believe in marriage.they just enjoy the company of each other, make the most out of the relationship believing that if they're meant for each other then no form of contract is needed.. and when the time comes that they no longer feel passionate towards each other it's easier to go on separte ways without any legalities. But for me, i still believe in the sanctity of marriage. it's a contract entered in by two people in love who promised to be there for each other no matter. as long as mutual love is there, i know for a fact that mariage will stand still even in the middle of trials.
• Philippines
12 Jun 09
Hi there! I really appreciate your opinion on this. Thank you! Happy mylotting!
• United States
12 Jun 09
I live with my boyfriend - have for the past two years and we are not married.Our parents dont care but alot of the agents i work with ( i work for an insurance broker ) are always asking when we are going to get married . It is kind of annoying . I know i love him and want to marry him but we have our whole life to get married and I want to save up so we can have the perfect wedding . I went to church for most of my life and was told you arent sopposed to do it till your married, but most marriages fall apart because of that reason . Why would i want to wait till marriage to find out if it will be good?
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• Philippines
12 Jun 09
Thank you for your comment. Happy mylotting to you! May you many more years to come with your partner.
@jesssp (2742)
• Canada
11 Jun 09
For me personally living together first was an absolute must. I really don't think you truly know someone until you've lived with them. We lived together for 3.5 years before we were married and I am glad that we did. You get to know someones habits and you see completely different sides of them than you would if you didn't live together or if you only occasionally slept over. You get to know them on a much more intimate level and I think it's important that you see that before you commit to marriage. I also think that sometimes (not always) getting into that extremely intimate situation too early, before you are ready to see that side of your partner, can be detrimental to a relationship. You have to have developed a strong bond to be able to accept some of the things you'll learn about each other once you live together! I know that for us getting married really didn't change anything between us; I thought it might but after 3.5 years it really was just business as usual after the wedding. The only difference is two new rings!
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• Philippines
12 Jun 09
Wow, thank you so much for sharing your thought on this. I'm sure you'll inspire a lot of readers. Happy mylotting!
11 Jun 09
well my partner moved in with me..and i realised that actually, i like my own space... marriage is the cultural fad, look it up.
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• Philippines
12 Jun 09
Thanks for your comment. So, what will you do now? You're kinda funny. Happy mylotting!
@snowy22315 (52594)
• United States
11 Jun 09
I think living together can be pretty eye opening, but it is not the same as being married. I think both people if they want to stay together or want to be married are exhibiting better behavior when they are living together. I think that it does give you a clue what the person would be like as a partner though.
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• Philippines
12 Jun 09
Hi there! Thank you very much for sharing your thought on this. Happy mylotting!
• United States
11 Jun 09
My husband and I started living together almost immediately after we started dating. It had nothing to do with a test before marriage. I had bought a house, he was living with his parents. He wanted to get out of his parents house and the extra help with the bills was nice. We lived together for 2 years before we got married. We have now been married for 2 years. I dont think living together hurt us at all!
• Philippines
11 Jun 09
Wow, that's great. I really think living-in depends on the persons involve. And good for you since it really worked. God has blessed you. More years for you, guys! Thanks for the comment and happy mylotting!