Is a diamond engagement ring a must?

Singapore
June 11, 2009 10:07am CST
I just read an article about japanese men not spending on diamond engagement rings because they find it a waste of money. The Article: http://www.plushasia.com/article/3967 Well, it might seem like a waste of money, but as a girl, i would like to have a diamond engagement ring. It doesn't have to be big. But at least something. *shrugs* Well, i'm not married. So what do I know.. haha What about you? If you're married, do you have an engagement ring. And if you're single like me or not yet married, would you want to have an engagement ring? For the guys, will you buy an engagement ring for your bride?
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• Malaysia
11 Jun 09
I'm not married yet, but I think the engagement ring is not compulsory. It's just nice to have it. If you can afford it then why not. If you think it's a waste of money then find ring that inexpensive but very attractive and beautiful. What's matter the most is the sincerity of the person who gave it.
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• Singapore
11 Jun 09
yup.. i agree.
• Singapore
11 Jun 09
love is the greatest gift ain't it. *winks*
• Malaysia
11 Jun 09
Yes it is. Love makes our life meaningful and the strength to live.
@mye_drew (182)
• Israel
12 Jun 09
im a girl but i wanna give an comment here.....its depend to the status,.i mean if the man rich or if he can afford to buy engagement ring,.why not!!! but if it is not cant afford coz of the situation in life it doesnt matter,,,otherwise the important is when you love for each other...
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• Singapore
12 Jun 09
yup, you're right... if my man can afford it, i'd demand he buy one.. haha
@mye_drew (182)
• Israel
13 Jun 09
me too hahahaha i will ask a favor that i want the diamond as engaged ring...i love diamond u know...
@la_chique (1499)
12 Jun 09
I actually really DONT want a diamond engagement ring. I know exactly the sort of ring i want. A gold wishbone sapphire ring. I've seen one for £20 and its the perfect ring that I've wanted all my life. If he gets me that I will be a very happy girl! I dont want him to spend a lot on it. I'm not interested in his money, I dont need to be 'bought' and I'd far rather appreciate the gesture of a romantic proposal and the fact that he'd listened to me when I've been dropping hints about the ring lol.
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• Singapore
12 Jun 09
wao... your guy is really fortunate to have you..
• Philippines
12 Jun 09
Girls are known to dream of the best---best love story, best wedding, and of course best engagement ring. However, a diamond engagement ring is not a must. We should take into consideration the financial capability of our boyfriends. Love is still the most important receipt of a relationship.
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• Singapore
12 Jun 09
yup... agreed...
• United States
12 Jun 09
Diamonds are nice, and very pretty. However, i discovered many years ago, they are also costly, and not as economical as you might think. Buying a diamond and keeping it for a life time sounds good. But, back up, it's not always that simple. You have to clean them, protect them, and then you have to replace them, every time you loose one out of your ring.
• Singapore
12 Jun 09
haha so true...
@daliaj (5689)
• India
12 Jun 09
I neither had a diamond ring or a gold ring for engagement. There is no ring in engagement in our custom. We will go to church and the father will ask whether we agree to marry on the particular day. It is a public function and there will be a reception after the 5 minutes function in church.
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• Singapore
12 Jun 09
oh.. what about a wedding ring?
• United States
12 Jun 09
Some people decide to have a non traditional engagement ring, such as one hand-made by the groom out of telephone wire, or even a precious metal ring with gemstones instead of diamonds
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• Singapore
12 Jun 09
your first post!! CLAPS.. and i'm honored to be the first discussion that caught your attention. *winks*
• Philippines
12 Jun 09
I am also a woman and I have a bf, we are in a serious relationship now. Life is getting harder these days so we need to be practical in any way that we could. I am not expecting a diamond ring as an engagement ring but if the guy can afford and give me something like that, I would be grateful for it.
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• Singapore
12 Jun 09
as would I...
@Boofybutt (316)
• United States
11 Jun 09
I wouldn't say a diamond ring is a must, of course I don't really care for diamonds, but it's the thought that counts. When my husband bought me my engagement ring, I was hoping for a sapphire or emerald. But, the one he got me was actually very pretty. It was a small diamond right from Wal-Mart that cost him about $300.
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• Singapore
12 Jun 09
well, it's still sweet none-the-less. happy that you're happy...
11 Jun 09
I wouldnt say its a must to have a diamond ring but when I get engaged I would like a ring of some sort and not a sweetie ring either lol. I think its traditional to have a ring to show your commitment but the value or what its made up of wouldnt really matter to me if the sentement was behind it. Some people only like expensive jewelry and to them i would presume its a must. But to me a simple ring would suffice as long as it had the meaning behind it and was given out of love and respect. Regards Lucy xxx
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• Singapore
12 Jun 09
hi lucy, yup, i think so too. happy mylotting...
@vivasuzi (4125)
• United States
11 Jun 09
It's not a must for everyne but it's a nice touch and I wanted one :) It's the only expensive jewelry I have. My necklaces and bracelets are usually under 40$, with most being closer to 10-20$! So yes I wanted a nice ring :) But mine is still cheap compared to the average price I've heard from other people! I didn't need a $20,000 rock, or even a $10,000 rock! Just something a little more than $20 :-D You wear it every day for the rest of your life - so it's worth every penny! Now a diamond necklace? I'd say that's a waste.
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• Singapore
12 Jun 09
well... if you put it that way... *yeap*
@jesssp (2742)
• Canada
11 Jun 09
I don't think a diamond is a must at all. It is traditional but I don't think that you have to go with tradition if it doesn't really mean anything to you. My engagement ring has a total of one carat of diamonds and I truly do love it but I would love it just as much if it was less or even if they weren't diamonds at all. If the tradition is important but cost is also a factor then you can always get a classic band or solitaire setting with just a tiny diamond in it. And if it isn't important then something different like your birthstone could also be a possibility.
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• Singapore
12 Jun 09
i guess as as long as it was given to you by someone you love, you'd still treasure it ya.. *winks*
@sexyposh (576)
• Philippines
11 Jun 09
yes... to tell you, when my boyfriend propose a marriage to me, the first question that came out of my mouth is... "where is the ring?" haha! I know, I sound demanding that time but I just want it to be formal. nowadays when you announce that your engaged the first thing that the people will look at is your finger with the ring... oh! after a month my boyfriend finally gave me one.. hehe:) its quite simple but atleast I got something to show.. hehe :D
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• Singapore
12 Jun 09
yea... i'm glad for you...
@rainmark (4306)
22 Jun 09
Hiyah. When i and my hubby get engaged, we don't have an engagement ring. As in no ring even cheap and simple ring. But last xmas he bought me diamond ring and earings. That so wonderful, im so surprise, feels like your specially when you received diamond ring. Happy posting.
• Philippines
19 Jun 09
I'm not yet married but engaged. When I was younger I never thought of having an engagement ring. I used to just look on different wedding ring designs because I thought that that's more important than engagement rings. But since my boyfriend and I still could not afford having a nice promise ring which we could also use as a wedding ring in the future, we ended up having a silver band which costs at about 10 dollars/pair. We're both happy wearing our silver but I got us a gold band when I traveled to Singapore on our 1st anniversary. We kept our silver and planning to have it framed so we could always see our first rings. When my friend was engaged with his boyfriend that's the time that I dreamed of having one. I often thought of just saving something every month so even if my boyfriend can't give me one or opt not to give me one I could still have a diamond ring. But my friend and his fiance broke up a month after their engagement, that's when I realized that it doesn't matter if you have or do not have a diamond on your hand. What really counts the most is the love you have for each other and how much you are willing to fight for it. When my boyfriend asked me to marry him he gave me a diamond ring, before I aswered yes I asked him if he really loves me, and will he leave me. He answered yes I love you. I will never leave you even if you asked me to.