will you leave your birth place to settle abroad??

Mauritius
June 12, 2009 1:45am CST
there are some people who always want the chance to leave their countries and settle abroad but they don't even think about their parents who gave them birth and gave them good values and as well as education,and thus they leave them alone in their native countries or in a home and forget them...do you think its good to abandon parents??what would you do in your place??choose "abroad" or "parents"??
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13 responses
• United States
12 Jun 09
Hi, Kamisha! I probably shouldn't respond to this, because I refuse to have anything to do with my mother or anyone else related to me, and I have for decades! Living in Miami, though, this is a common issue. Refugees from Cuba have come here and left their families behind, as well as their culture, to escape Castro's dictatorship. They've done what they had to do, and they've become the majority of the population here, bringing Miami from a sleepy little southern town as it was when I was growing up to a thriving metropolis. Still, ties to Cuba are strong, and they applaud President Obama's initiatives which have allowed them to visit Cuba much more often, and to send money and other support to their families on the island. I'd love the adventure of living elsewhere, and my husband and I often discuss this for our retirement years, but many emigrate because they have to!
• United States
14 Jun 09
Interesting. What are the names of these fantasy islands? Vicki & I have talked, too.
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• United States
14 Jun 09
We've discussed Costa Rica, for the most part. There are hundreds in the Caribbean, and they'e all scrumptious!
@med889 (5958)
12 Jun 09
I live in Britain and every year I find many and many people who is getting here for job and they try to get married here to stay forever. I cannot think to leave my motherland to settle elsewhere because I love being here, I have been here since I was born so no way to settle elsewhere.When those people come here, they do as if they were born here and there is one in the office who said that he will not go to his old parents and marry a british here. We were all shocked and he was very formal when he said that. They forget so easily their motherland.
• Mauritius
12 Jun 09
but if you would get the chance to settle abroad...would you accept the proposal???
• United States
14 Jun 09
Yes. I a USA American and actually had applied for Immigration once to Canada. Lately, my wife and I do talk of other places. I have yet to seriously research options, however.
@cannibal (650)
• India
13 Jun 09
Certainly, I feel it ain't ethical to abandon your parents and settle elsewhere. Imagine, betraying the very parents who got you to this world and who sacrificed a large chunk of their lives for you. However, I know that there do arise situations when you need to do it unwillingly. An important one is when you can't overlook the fat pay involved. But whatever the case, one should at least stay in touch with one's parents and make sure that one returns back to the motherland after some years or so. May be I'm playing safe because I might land in such a soup in a few years or so. I just hope I take the right decision! But as for now, I suppose that if at all I'm compelled to settle abraod, I'd try my best to get back to my nation, simply because I love it! And if things still don't work out, I'd take my parents along since I have the experience of being terribly homesick without them!
• Philippines
13 Jun 09
I have thought of leaving my birth place but not to settle abroad or somewhere else. I just want to go out to work and find a better fortune. But still I'll go back to my hometown and be with my parents and family. There's no place like home. It's nice to grow old in a place where you were born. Unless that place is no longer existing (HOPE NOT, of course). I just have to gather enough money which I think I can acquire faster if I work abroad. But will go back to my hometown. That is what I promised myself. Although I am still open to any changes of plans. But for the meantime this is what I'm planning to do--go abroad, work there, earn a fortune and go back.
• Philippines
13 Jun 09
If it is for greener pasture why not, but have to support my parents and/or petition them to live with me abroad. I can't bare to leave my parents behind but if it is need for us to uplift our standard of living will temporarily leave them. Will do it for our own good.
• Norway
13 Jun 09
It will depend on The reason. I will probably not leave my birthplace for some minor reasons!
@hughchen (32)
• China
12 Jun 09
people leave their countries may have many reason,may be they can earn much money there, and then several years past,they might go back to their hometown.anyway,i think i will not go abroad,it may be difficult for to communicate with other in other languages,i will stay,and take care of my parents.
@skydancer (1987)
• United States
12 Jun 09
Well, I did not even grow up in my birthplace (though my family has a history there spanning over five generations, me being the sixth), however, I am still in the same country. I love my country (in fact, it is safe to say my country was my very first love), and have no intention of leaving - at least not permanently. I would love to travel abroad and visit other places, particularly those countries I have ancestral ties to, but never would I even entertain the thought of abandoning my country. I have every intention of living in America for the rest of my life. As for my parents, generally speaking, I would not say it is a good idea to abandon them either. There are certain parts of my life as well as people that I would erase from my history in a heartbeat if I could, but I don't believe running away from it as described is the answer, as it does not deal with the issue at hand and ignores the fact that new problems with new people can just as easily from in that new place. I am not sure I understood your question correctly, but I gave it my best shot.
@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
12 Jun 09
My mother is gone, but as long as my father is alive, I wouldn't be going anywhere. Still, if things got really bad in this country and I was afraid for my children, I might leave with them.
• Philippines
12 Jun 09
well, most of those who leave their country doesn't have a choice, well maybe they have, but i believe they did it because they're just wanting the best for them and for their family. Those who forget their parents are just a bunch of jerks who think they're good enough to make it on their own and greedy enough that they don't even want to give something for their parents. Abandoning your parents, well, it depends on the situation.. In cases such as you're with your parents but you don't have a job, i think it would be better if you have a job even out of the country.
@turones (206)
• Philippines
12 Jun 09
i have plans to migrate to another country with my family but that doesn't mean that i don't care about my home country and my parents and family who will be left here. there are lots of reason why people decide to leave and just like what the other respondent said, most of these people are just seeking a greener pasture to give their family a better future. i live in a developing country and i could say that life is really difficult here. i love my country and i definitely love my family especially my parents. i want to give them a better life which i can not do while i'm still here.
• Philippines
12 Jun 09
Would "parents" be the only factor on why you shouldn't leave your homeland? What about countrymen and history? I wouldn't leave my homeland. I'd like to travel, but I think I'll always come back. Home is just home.