Does age matter when you love someone ?!

@YazEid (1139)
Philippines
June 12, 2009 7:42am CST
Hello mylotters I would like to share this with you , I'm a person who is always attracted to women who are elder than me , I don't know why , but I prefer to have a relation with an elder female than to have it with a girl in my age or younger than me .. sometimes it worked , I found few women who welcomed the idea , but teh most don't agree and they refuse even to stay as a friend ! does the age really matter ? I mean , people love for apperance , for character , for behaviour .. but do they love for age ?! would you accept to have a relation with younger guy ? would you accept to have a relation with elder woman ?!
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@PeacefulWmn9 (10420)
• United States
13 Jun 09
Since becoming single again, yes, I've had a relationship with a man quite a lot younger than I am. I do not believe age is a hindrance if two people have common interests, are mutually attracted to one another, and fall in love or even just want to be friends. The only time I would think it was wrong if one person was an adult and the other a minor. That, to me, is just plain immoral.
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@YazEid (1139)
• Philippines
13 Jun 09
hello peacfulwmn , thaks for responding yeah , we are not talking about minors here , but your case would be the best example , would you accept to date a guy who is 28 - 32 years old , if he really loves you for who you are , he is mature , stable financially and responsible ?
@YazEid (1139)
• Philippines
13 Jun 09
good for you , wish you all the best
@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
13 Jun 09
I certainly think that this is a very interesting topic discussion. I, personally believe that love can come in all forms, shapes and sizes. Love doesn't know age and status. To love someone wholly means that we are able to communicate, share problems and voice our opinions when the time arises. The thing with elderly women or men that a lot of both gender seeking, is probably due to the mature understanding as one ages. Some seek maturity, a certain kind of wisdom and someone very relax and not really hot-tempered. Not to say that the young ones are all immature and hot-blooded though. But most of the reasons besides wealth, for some, there are also that can connect and having chemistry with someone that is twice their age. And they can have this connection, really. Like in a neighboring country, this particular singer; she's very beautiful and young, married someone twice her age but she was ridiculed. I think that's not quite fair, because she is the only one whom knows what she wants. And love is very mysterious; it doesn't work with a basic understanding and it can be complex. The only love I dislike are those that only seek to love married women and men out of purpose. Like knowing someone is married but still pursuing their feelings, without trying to stop it.
@YazEid (1139)
• Philippines
13 Jun 09
hello zed thanks for responding , you are totally right, and I agree with you in all what you have said , and let me say that when it comes o married women or men we should stop thinking about them , because if we kept on thinking about them and declared our feelings to them it might lead to separation and divorce , family would collapse , children will be neglected .. and that's totally bad have a good time
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@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
14 Jun 09
Pleasure, my friend. I agree too; there shouldn't be a start to something dreadful as that you've mentioned. Take care, buddy...
• Philippines
13 Jun 09
I think because love is blind there are no rules when it comes to age. I can love a man much older than me and younger than me by 5 years. But I haven't been in a relationship that is why I don't have any idea to whom I will be in the future. Older men are matured while younger men are much sweeter and braver.
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• Philippines
13 Jun 09
yes hahahahaha!
@YazEid (1139)
• Philippines
13 Jun 09
ok .. send my ur email and let's talk :D
@YazEid (1139)
• Philippines
13 Jun 09
looooool I liked this "sweeter and braver " . are you single :P let's fond who is sweeter hahahahhaha kidding have a great time and thanks for responding
@soleya (1100)
• Latvia
12 Jun 09
I think that age difference doesn't matter at all. If you love someone then you should not care what other people will say and what will happen in the future. When you are in love the main thing is to enjoy the moment! And don't care about what will happen next.
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@YazEid (1139)
• Philippines
12 Jun 09
thanks soleya , I agree with you and you have a great attitude about love keep it up .. May I ask you , is there any age difference between you and your partner ? have a good time
• Indonesia
13 Jun 09
in my culture, age differences can make some problems especially when the woman is very old and the man is very young.but as long as the couple dont care what people say about them, well its oke.
@YazEid (1139)
• Philippines
13 Jun 09
yeah gangsar . I agree with you , if the couple are well with each other and dont care what others say then their relation will work well
@sunbeams (232)
• Philippines
13 Jun 09
Being an open-minded person, I don't think age matters in a relationship as long as the couples are emotionally, spiritually and economically connected with mutual interests. I had a relationship with a man, 20 years younger. Although he is emotionally mature, he is not as financially stable as I am. We had a great relationship but sadly it didn't work out because of the wide disparity in his and my interests.
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@YazEid (1139)
• Philippines
13 Jun 09
thanks sunbeams , and sorry for your relation that didn't work out .. how was your interests different ?
@YazEid (1139)
• Philippines
13 Jun 09
I see , I know that love can compromise differences , but would you love some one who is young and has the same interest
@sunbeams (232)
• Philippines
13 Jun 09
Ohh we have different social interests, his are parties, bar-hopping, etc. while I preferred long walks in the park or the beach, hanging out with friends. Our tastes in music are different too, so are our movie preferences and other small trivial things. I guess a 20 year gap is just too wide for a may-december relationship. Come to think of it, if it was true love, we could have compromised our differences. Maybe it wasn't. We remain friends till now though.
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@ivana980 (156)
• Italy
18 Jun 09
No, doesn't age matter for me when i'm in love. When i was 15 years old i falled in love with a man that was 28 years old (for me he was a man), then whe i was older i liked boys younger than me. I don't care about the age, the important thing is the caracter and the love.
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@YazEid (1139)
• Philippines
19 Jun 09
Hello Ivana I'm glade to hear that , maybe we should have more talk between us as long as I like elder females and you like younger guys :D :D ;) have a great time :D
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@YazEid (1139)
• Philippines
19 Jun 09
hahahahhaha send me your email plz , I'd like to add you to my messenger :D
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@ivana980 (156)
• Italy
19 Jun 09
Ahahahah, ok. :-)
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@pingi68 (304)
• Italy
12 Jun 09
i dont' think the age is so important in a relationship. i had relation sometimes ago with a younger guy and it was wonderful! unfortuntately it has been a short relation but very involving!
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@pingi68 (304)
• Italy
12 Jun 09
if i will get divorced, i will think about it!!! ciao
@YazEid (1139)
• Philippines
12 Jun 09
loool sorry pingi , forgot that you are not single :P :D have a great time
@YazEid (1139)
• Philippines
12 Jun 09
wow great the, maybe you should look for another relation with a younger guy ;) have a good time pingi
@whywiki (6066)
• Canada
19 Jun 09
I see no problem with age difference. My hubby is 17 years older than me but it makes no difference to me, I love him regardless of a number.
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@YazEid (1139)
• Philippines
19 Jun 09
That is the normal thing , the guy is older than the woman ... I wanna know your opinion about the way back , if you were older than him
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@liera0 (280)
• Philippines
15 Jun 09
Age doesn't matter I think provided both person are of legal age. What matters is if both of you love each other and happy with your relationship; then all will be well. In fact my boyfriend is younger than me and age difference hasn't been one of our problems. Our relationship had been going well for more than a year now. As for me its between the 2 person..so long as everything is well and you understand and love each other. I don't think its a problem.
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@YazEid (1139)
• Philippines
15 Jun 09
thanks liera I agree with you that if both are loving each other and happy about their relation they shouldn't care what others think ... but don't you think that most women are seeking elder men ?
• United States
19 Jun 09
I don't think that age should matter at all. Love is love no matter the age or anything. Thats so stupid that some women turn you down because they are older then you. I would go out with a boy that was younger then me if i liked him. Some women are just weird and that bothers them. Happy Mylotting!
@YazEid (1139)
• Philippines
19 Jun 09
Thanks a lot dear , this is really refreshing ... :D :D I like this answer .. lucky who you are dating or who you are with now :D take care and god bless you
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@kmaram (2533)
• Philippines
12 Jun 09
Ofcourse not, when your inlove age doesnt matter. In all my past relationships they all younger than me but it was not ended till the end. But finally i found my hubby he was 5 years younger than me, so far we dont have any problem, now we have 19 months old daughter and we are proud parents of her. Always remember that when you love someone there should be no boundaries, love him/her unconditionally. So age never been a problem you have to work with your relationship to someone to be successful. Again age doesnt matter =)
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@jeiay41 (674)
• United States
13 Jun 09
Wow, im impress of your story. MAybe i need to here that song again, no boundaries. Anyways, good luck and more years to come on your relationship.
@YazEid (1139)
• Philippines
13 Jun 09
it is nice to hear the kmaram , you give me the hope that it could happen to me .. thank you very much for sharing your story with us .. have a good time
• Philippines
17 Jun 09
as long as love is there is not important what age you have. Feeling that's is naturally posses by your heart not a love because of material things. Because there are also people love older people but because of material thing.
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@YazEid (1139)
• Philippines
19 Jun 09
thanks ... you are right , the most important thing is love !
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@jules67 (2788)
• Philippines
12 Jun 09
Love knows no boundaries. Yeah, right. But if I were to fall in love with someone younger than me, it is primarily because I can grow with him , I would learn from him, I would be able to bring out the best of myself when I am with him, and bring out the best of him as well. But honestly , am not sure if I can take it if he is 15 years junior or too young to be my son.
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@YazEid (1139)
• Philippines
12 Jun 09
so how love knows no boundaries , if you can't accept loving someone who is much younger than you , then you have a border which is 20years for example !
@YazEid (1139)
• Philippines
12 Jun 09
thank you , you are welcome :D have a nice day loool
@jules67 (2788)
• Philippines
12 Jun 09
Yeah you are right I should have pointed it out that love knows no boundaries only with men 10 years my junior. Kidding aside, yes it was my mistake , my apologies. Yes i set some boundaries. Have a nice day.
• China
12 Jun 09
I don't think age matters if you both really love each other.But as for me,I can't accept someone who is childish on mind.I mean it doesn't matter you want to be with someone who is older or younger than you,that's just appearance thing or some other things.Maybe to female,the most important attractive thing on men is their mature mind.
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@YazEid (1139)
• Philippines
12 Jun 09
what if he was so young but mature in mind ?
@YazEid (1139)
• Philippines
15 Jun 09
sure more than 18 I'm talking about someone in his 20's dating a woman in her 30's or something like that . have a great time
• China
14 Jun 09
How young?I guess normally older than 18 can be accepted.
• United States
12 Jun 09
I dont think that age matters as long as you love the person. I do however think that there should not be a big age difference though. A person who is 20 I dont think should be dating a person who is 50+. That is too far of a age difference.
@YazEid (1139)
• Philippines
13 Jun 09
I think you are right thanks a lot
@lala501 (1532)
• United States
12 Jun 09
Yes it does to me because the person might think your too old to love them. And the person might think you have too much wrinkles on your skin. But looks don't matter to me. What matters to me is the persons personality. It doesn't matter how they look.
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@YazEid (1139)
• Philippines
12 Jun 09
what if a younger guy loved you would you accept to be in a relation with him ?
@coolcoder (2018)
• United States
13 Jun 09
I've dated a man who was three years younger than I, and I've had crushes on guys who were six and eight years younger than I. The guy I dated, I could deal with him being just three years younger; I feel a bit weird about the others. The problem is, the guy who is six years my junior does not act like it--he's got his act together, he's responsible...he's a good friend to have, overall. I don't know. Anyone younger than three years or older than four years is a bit iffy.
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@YazEid (1139)
• Philippines
13 Jun 09
hello coolcoder some guys have the sense of maturity at younger ages , it is nice to have a responsible mature guy who still young in age , active , has a lot of hopes and dreams and still appreciate the sense of humor , and overall loves you for who you are not for anything else . have a good time coolcoder
@angelajoy (1825)
• Philippines
12 Jun 09
For me, age doesn't matter when it comes to love. I'm almost 2 years older than my boyfriend. At first it didn't work out very well, but since we really love each other we managed to get over our differences and make our relationship work. We've been together for almost 5 years now. I hope we really make it.
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@YazEid (1139)
• Philippines
12 Jun 09
I wish you all the best have a good time and thanks for responding
@wenjule (107)
• Jamaica
13 Jun 09
I have had a relationship with a younger guy before. What really attracted me to him was his sense of maturity. However it didnt last long because he was not ready to really commit seriously. In fact he allowed a younger woman to distract him. I never really had a problem with the age issue unless it was really obvious that I was much older than he was. I seem to have a great rapport with younger guys,maybe its my taste in music, I don't really know, so most of the guys I speak to are much younger. Well I should not use the error in relationship I had with that younger guy to avoid dating younger guys but I prefer guys my age or older of late.
@YazEid (1139)
• Philippines
13 Jun 09
hello wenjule it is god to know that you are open to all options , i wish that your relation continued with that young guy .. anyways wish you all the best
• United States
12 Jun 09
See when i think of a younger man i think that the man wants somone to take care of him. But i do know women who have youngver men and those men are ever succssesful. I think age dose not matter when eveyone is open about what they are seeking from the realationship. I mean often younger women do have a lot of games with them or they ust have no clue that they want. If the guy was reall focuse on me i give it a try why not.
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@YazEid (1139)
• Philippines
12 Jun 09
I'm talking about love , not about a child looking for a nany