Every marriage goes through a bad patch...

hi kiran... i think it really comes in every couples life...having issues with each other, with their families, works everything but of course they are two different people deciding to live as one. well i think, adjustment to the situation is important, commitment and devotion counts...that is why we need to be really ready before we enter married life coz its not as simple as other think...its a lifetime commitment! give and take in a relationship is also important and i think we should value our marriage and put God in the center of our relationship so that no matter what problems, issues, circumstances that may occur, we can always win the situation and hope to make our marriage stronger...

You are right, kiran. This is inevitable in a married life. And I'm sure that there are people scared to take the leap partly because of this; lots of people don't like conflicts in a relationship, especially marriage. If you ask me, I'm not scared of it someday, but I do wonder at times how couples will try to resolve the matter. When 2 individuals get married, both of them have different dreams, aspirations, expectations and temperamental. Sometimes the husband is quite, the wife is hyper and social. And vice versa. There has to be a peaceful alliance, or else there will always be different opinions, thoughts, views and feelings. When I went through failed relationships, I just couldn't help to imagine what it would be like for married couples. Sometimes thinking about it, can make one feel very scared, but at the end of the day, when I see happy couples in marriage out there, it gives me a certain kind of wonder. Perhaps it's all part and parcel of a marriage life and marriage is worth it...? It works for some and not for others. I suppose to each his/her own. But I will not be scared to embrace marriage, even with a bad patch. It can make married couples grow up with all the experiences going on. Sorry to ramble so much, kiran. I suppose must be lack of sleep.

I had to admit that my marriage with hubby isn't a perfect one either. Two days ago, I've over heard talking to a Psychologist and he secretly admits that he somewhat disgusted with my actions regarding the orgie and some fornication's that i had done in the past. there were other issues but i quietly cried in the closet where i was hiding. afraid to open up the topic because he might let himself loose again like an angry animal... when i talk to him he has this grim smile in his face like pretending that he's happy. i try to make up to him still even though he doesn't ask me too. i know am not supposed to feel this way but when i heard it, i feel pierced to my heart knowing that husband didn't want it at all.

U have the best topic as yet,,really we all go through this,, time for family is important,to understand each other,, and also to adjust ,on issues,,Its not easy but verrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrry important, and also when we see some outside thing we fall for it,, is like when we get fed up with what have,not knowing how much more trouble it could be for HOME,, and the TV and certain movies,add salt to the wound,,Once we sit and talk through the problems,,( not easy as u mentioned ,,relatives advise),everything good can be on the way,,Wish all friends GOOD LUCK in life ,

that is true ,even those who have a stable marriage must have passed through a lot of fights and quarels before they can be able to sustain their marriages. A marriage will be successful if one of the couples can shift position during an argument, couples need to humble each other and respect each others feelings