God I am so TIRED in this world of yours.

India
June 14, 2009 10:22pm CST
I have just managed to squeeze a couple of minutes' on a busy Monday morning schedule, to post this discussion. I didn't have a weekend. i was working even harder than I normally do during weekdays. I had to face some real serious issues about my clients which kept me immensely busy and I was missing my friends here in Mylot. Working the entire seven days has really tired me up to the core, and maybe I would catch some winks in the afternoon, if I can manage. Just wanted to know about you, do you ever work seven days a week keeping yourself alert in any ungodly hour of the day? Do you at times feel restless and irritated when you don't find time to be with your ownself? I would love to know your take on this so do respond.
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• United States
15 Jun 09
Oh....yes, been there, done that! The most irritating thing I find is seeing Monday roll around, and realize that I never had time to just do something for ME? We work all our lives, and it's getting later and later, looking at retirement at 70, now....when can we stop and enjoy the extra's that is available out there. I used to work 50-60 hours a week...and then I would bring a briefcase full of work home, and do more there, finally sitting down at 9:00. Then one day, I walked out of work at 7:00 pm on a Friday evening, and noticed that MY car was the only one in the parking lot, and I started to cry. That's when I realized what I was doing to myself, and that's the moment I stopped. I walked out at 5:00 p.m. from that moment on.
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• India
16 Jun 09
Yes life is meant to be cherished with what every moment has to offer to us. I need to find out a way that I really enjoy and persue that before it is too late. Thanks for sharing.
• United States
16 Jun 09
Yes you need to do that before it's too late, and then you wonder where your life went to. Life goes by too fast. Think of it this way...would your superiors work all those hours for you? What have they done for you that makes the self sacrificing worth while? Unless they acknowledge the work you do, in all ways, verbally and financially, I wouldn't sacrifice your life for it. Good luck!
• India
16 Jun 09
Thanks a lot, but just wanted to say this, I don't have superiors, I am the owner. So I have to slog even harder.
@Citychic (4078)
• United States
15 Jun 09
God I'm so tired, Hello my friend, it sounds as if you need to take some time out to go on a retreat or some kind of a vacation somewhere. I feel the same way at times. I realized that most of the pressure was coming from my own mind. So I just recently have been telling myself stop whenever I feel like something is creeping up on me. That voice in our heads that tell us we are not good enough, or that we don't work hard enough. Sometimes it tell us that we don't have enough. It's always something anyhow I"m making up my mind this year that I will start putting me first. Bodhistatya, this isn't exactly an easy thing for me to do because I have always put the needs of others first. Anyhow right now I'm going to go exercise the I"m going to take me a bubble back and for after cooking some dinner for the folks I might just chill out of the rest of the day. You need to find something that can help you to relax. Don't work so hard if you can help it. Take time out to play and enjoy life. Even if it's only to ride a bike or take a walk......both are good stress relievers. Take care of yourself my friend. I want you to stick around......... happy mylot1
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• India
16 Jun 09
Thank you dear friend for your kind words.I would go for a vacation, even if it is a distant dream. I sometime get the time to go for a long walk which I enjoy very much.You don't know how helpful and soothing your words are to me.Thanks a bunch.
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@Citychic (4078)
• United States
16 Jun 09
Tired Hello again my friend, I just came up with an idea that might be helpful for you. Why don't you go and have a massage done? It's what I would call a great little mini vacation. I could use one right now myself, if you lived near me I would give you a freebie. Take care and let me know what you decide and if you decide to go for it, be sure to let me know how it was and how much you enjoyed it. Happy mylot
• India
16 Jun 09
Thats a good idea, really. maybe I would, but I just hope that this doesn't just turn out to be another chore in my to-do list. Thank you friend.
@larish (2195)
• Philippines
17 Jun 09
I also experience working 24/7 six years ago. At the time, I still enjoy reporting for work. But after 2 years of having the same routine. I get tired of it and I realize that I miss so much about my personal life - I miss to help my ister in preparing for her wedding, I miss to attend my family's birthday celebration, I miss special holiday such as christmas, new year etc. But right now, I make sure that I only work 40-45 hours a week and make sure that I have two days to spend with my family and attend to other personal things. I cannot bring back the past.
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• India
17 Jun 09
Good for you that you are spending quality time for yourself and your loved ones. I believe the stress and fatigue takes its toll in due course of time and then we just cannot continue like that, for some this realization is a bit too late. I will endevour my best to have some time fpr "me" and my folks this coming weekend. Thanks.
@larish (2195)
• Philippines
17 Jun 09
enjoy your weekend. Happy myloting.
@Citychic (4078)
• United States
16 Jun 09
God I am so tired....... Thank you for you response my friend, they say that writing is lethargic. Sometimes a release can come about by writing or typing out your feelings. I am tired too my friend. I'm tired of my marriage being stale. I'm tired of us not doing very much together as a couple. I"m tired of always having to do things for everyone else but few things for myself. Every year I say it's going to change, it's going to change. I"m hoping this will be the year of change. Besides if we don't look out for ourselves, who will? So now you see my friend, you are not in the tired boat all by yourself. Anyhow continue to hang in there a change could be right around the corner. Take care.............. Happy mylot
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• India
16 Jun 09
Oh! I am sorry to know that you are facing a hard time. I really pray that things turn out fine and you get your much deserved love and affection. I know I am not just the only tired soul out there let us all get the happiness we all are peruing so hard. You too take good care of yourself, and I wish you all the very BEST. Thank you for being so kind.
@Citychic (4078)
• United States
16 Jun 09
There is no need to thank me my friend, it's a blessing just to have someone nice like yourself to be able to talk with. I'm going to go and take a rest break, I will try to catch back up with you later. My prayers will be going up for you my friend, so that you can have the happiness that you desire. God bless you.
• United States
15 Jun 09
Yes, I do my best to do what I need to do when it is difficult to do so.
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• India
16 Jun 09
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• United States
16 Jun 09
I mean I keep myself alert when it seem hard to do so.
@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
16 Jun 09
well i am also working the whole week...6 days at the office and a day at home fgor my family inclusive of chores!! it is tiring but when i think that i am doing it for the kids, its all worth it.
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• India
16 Jun 09
Yes it is the only positive thing to look forward to, but things can get sometimes too stressful. Thanks for the response.
• United States
15 Jun 09
I used to work 24/7, and would become very irritated and no one would have wanted to be around me when that happened. One day I realized it just wasn't worth it. There comes to a point where you just can't let it stress you out anymore. It probably depends one what you do as a career, however, something that I have found extremely helpful is doing the same things all together. Does that make sense? I will explain. I only check my email when I first get in and then again at noon and again an hour or so before the day ends. I do not check my work email from home anymore and not on the weekends. Putting common tasks together gives you more time during the day for you. It also let's you do these tasks quicker. Hope this helps!
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• India
16 Jun 09
Thanks friend for the suggestion but it is more complex than just checking mails. Maybe I will find a way out to get myself stress free. Thanks a lot dear friend.
@sid556 (31006)
• United States
15 Jun 09
Yes I have and it's not a good thing. In the past when I worked full time and babysat full time while raising 3 kids on my own, it took some pretty intense creativity to find even a moment of time just to do anything that i needed to do such as shower maybe etc let alone just something I wanted to do. Often I would stay up longer than I should just to fit in some "me" time just because I had to. Went from that to watching my mom full time while still holding a full time job and at this point only having one child at home but still...things were hectic. The past year and a half things have slowed down and while I still keep pretty busy, I am finding time for friends and also myself. I get very edgy when I don't have some time. As far as I'm concerned it is essential which is why I'd stay up and give up a little sleep just to fit it in.
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• India
16 Jun 09
I am really Happy that you can now find some time for yourself and friends. It is really stressful to immerse yourself in work, work and only work. I don't about others but I really get very annoyed to only think and ponder about my duties and responsibilities. Thanks for sharing dear friend.
@JamieRose (168)
• Philippines
15 Jun 09
I actually know how you feel. Well, almost. I didn't work 7 times a week, more of like 6 times. That's why I resigned from that agency. "cos as much as they say that you really have to love your job, it really gets tiring sometimes when you have no choice but to work even during weekends. We all need "me" time. We need to chill and relax, and sometimes not and to stop thinking about work. Now, I'm working for a field I love, which is lighter, but fun and fulfilling. I work 5 times a week, sometimes 6 when I have events. But its not as heavy as my job before. What I can tell you is that you really have to make time for yourself. You deserve it. Don't wait for the time that yu'll be that grumpy/boring/anti-social life person because of what has work life done to you. Work isn't everything. I know it fulfulls you in some way, but there are other things more important. Try your best to balance everything in your life. You deserve a break. We all do :)
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• India
15 Jun 09
You said it all and every bit is true. I think that i have cut my social life and the time to look at myself. Just hope that I don't turn out to be "grumpy". May I ask what are you into, if the question is an intrusion? BTW I have had the oppurtunity to catch some sleep in the late afternoon and I am better off now. Thanks for understanding and the kind words.
@cynthiann (18619)
• Jamaica
15 Jun 09
It is difficult sometimes to get times for yourself. You are just oging to schedule some time when you turn off the phones and try ot relax for 20 minutes. Even a small cat nap would help to revive you.It is a matter of balamnce that I too have not always been able to achieve. Just remember, that sleep deprivation can cause you to make bad judgements and this is counter productive to your work. I have always envied people who were able to cat nap for five minutes and then feel refreshed. As to your questio, yes, I stil work seven days per week in the tourist season. I normally work 10 hour days othewise. Be kind to yourself my friend and get some well earned rest. Blessings
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• India
15 Jun 09
I think it is bad for anyone to work seven days a week and you are expected to put in your best of efforts for 10 continious hours. I am sorry that you are going through this. It is an ordeal, really. Let's hope that sometime soon we can get our much needed holidays. Thanks dear friend.
• China
15 Jun 09
i have had a same situation as you,although i have not worked for whole week,the work is too much to have a little bit time to drink,i must keep my mobile telephone available all the time even though whole all-night,i couldn't get good sleep and good dinner,i was so sared to pick up the telephone at any moment and i dont know what unpredicable question will be happend at next second,i will unable to live my life all the time ,so i have quit and got a easy job.
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• India
15 Jun 09
The things that you mention is just so much like me. I guess I have to find a quick soloutiuon too. the pressure is taking its toll on me now. Thanks friend. i am not into drinking though lol.
@tigeraunt (6331)
• Philippines
15 Jun 09
hello bod, surely you will get irritated with working and no rest. i havent asked you though, what is the work you are in that you have to work 7 days a week? i work 5 days every week and i get rest during saturdays and sundays. sometimes there are holidays so i get additional free day to do whatever i want. you should take rest ones in a while. take care, ann
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• India
15 Jun 09
I have come home early today. I just needed to have a dya's break. Hope i would be reenergised to put my 100% effort tommorow again. I own a construction company, we are into industrial const. Thanks friend.
@ezekiel71 (132)
• United States
15 Jun 09
hi, i dont think i can work 7 days a week, i may need money but i dont need it that bad that i will trade in my rest day for myself and for family. You need a time for yourself to recharge because in the long run you will get drain, even machines have to stop and rest so the energy can be restored adn wont get used that fast. .Same thing with us human, you need an outlet and you cannot do that if you let your whole week be occupied with your job or let your job gets into you .I dont think that i can be productive as i can be if i dont get any rest. You have to love yourself, take care of yourself because at the end if you get sick all your efforts will just go to pay bills. Enjoy the money that you are earning, reward yourself- have a time out.
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• India
15 Jun 09
I definitly need a break, maybe an extended vacation is the answer. As I said in the earlier reply, it is not because of the money entirely it, my job comes with some serious responsibilities, which makes me even more tiresome. Thanks friend for understanding.
@amanda08 (647)
• United States
15 Jun 09
well, I do not work, but I am a stay at home mom and also a fulltime student. I realize that it is busy and frustrating sometimes.... but as long as you have goals it gives you somethin to look forward to!
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• India
15 Jun 09
That is true to have the goals met, gives a feeling of satisfaction but to work continuously that too under pressure takes its toll sooner or later. I liked the way you have put it and would cheer myself up to reach the goal. Thanks friend.
@tigeraunt (6331)
• Philippines
15 Jun 09
a really taxing kind of work!! am sure if you accept projects all at the same time, that is what is going to happen. hope you have some assistant who can take some of the load from you. when you go grumpy and irritated and stressed at work, usually the workers become stressed as well. it is contagious as well as when you smile and have a happy spirit while doing the job. its good you took some leave. go have some rest and i hope tomorrow becomes a much better day for working. your friend, ann
• India
15 Jun 09
Dear Ann, You don't know how helpful your kind words are. I really do hope that I see a beeter and cheerful tomorrow although it is a bit far from reality. But you know what when you asked about me and my work I should have asked too which I didn't. So you know how am I feeling now. Have a very cheerful week ahead. Thank you so much again.
@tigeraunt (6331)
• Philippines
15 Jun 09
always think positive.... and happy thoughts!
• India
16 Jun 09
• United States
15 Jun 09
My stupid cat woke me up really early and after only four or five hours sleep. So, I'm kind of in the same boat with you, tired wise. I'm a full time mom, so no napping for me, no matter how tired I get. You're the lucky one. Go take a nap for both of us.
• India
15 Jun 09
I am just up after a rather long nap, I needed it very much and am feeling a bit better now. I can put in my efforts again tommorow.You too get on with some forty winks, and ask the kitty to get some too. Thanks friend.
@selina0625 (1383)
• Philippines
15 Jun 09
No, thank God I don't have to work on sundays..because sundays has always been my restday eversince I started working. It's family day and I make sure that I spend it wisely with my family. Working without rest and relaxation can really stressed you out. Learn to balance life and work..... hope you can...i know it's hard.
• India
15 Jun 09
Well sometimes I ponder do I have a choice. Good to know that you can keep a sunday exclusively for yourself. Unfortunately I can't. Thanks for understanding and your kind words though.
• India
15 Jun 09
I think you need a break pretty soon. I have never worked 24x7 ever but last week, my husband came pretty close to it. he would be back late at night and out of the house early next morning…they had this sales closing and conference type of thing and everybody was on their toes…well, but his office spilled on to the house and for one week, my son and me kept out of his way. He was irritated, tired, snappy, foul-mouthed and so loathe to take food. We just managed to pass the week. I am sure you too are showing similar symptoms…none can work continuously and after this crisis is over, you have to force yourself to take a short holiday.
• India
15 Jun 09
Well i haven't foul mouthed anybody yet as far as my knowledge goes. Yes, my work and assignments are taking its toll on me. I shall try to get a break for sometime atleast. Thanks for responding.