i really believe i am destined to be sad for my entire life.....

First thing, maybe you should go find a job, instead of sitting around thinking of all the 'bad' things that are happening. You obviously have a good fiance, if he is welling to pay your bills as well as his, be thankful for that. You have a roof over your head, food to eat, and someone who obviously loves you no matter what. Maybe you should get outside more, even if it's just a walk around the block. No matter how bad things have gotten at times, I have always been thankful for what I have and always figured there was others out there far worse off than I have or ever will be. The worst thing you can do is keep looking at the negative side of it and feeling sorry for yourself.

awwww dloveli . . things always happen for a reason . .and if you are ever going to find out the reasons why you are where you are now . .you have to remember your dreams and to keep them alive .. for to understand anything requires faith and belief in yourself, in your vision, in your hard work, determination and dedication. Remember All things are possible for those who BELIEVE ! For things turn out the best for those that make the best of the way things turn out Happy Lotting to you .. and dont forget to smile

I also feel the same way sometimes. It is easy to forget all thegood thing when one feels down or soemthing bad happens. It feels liek more bad things than good things happen. I am also very poor and get help from family. I have no kidneys and sometimes life just feel so meaningless. But still, through all this I am usualy a very positive and happy person, but I get my days of selfpity, then it seems I am not supposed to be happy, I feel I have to be unhappy because that is my fate. I just go throu the motions, pray and let it blow over. I try not to get stuck in that feeling for too long. The bad things does not always go away, but I try to live above the curcumstances, I try very hard to stay positive because it has a great effect on others when they see me happy in these bad situations. I suppose we have to learn to just deal with it. Enjoy what there is to enjoy and live around the things we can't change. many blessings to you. May things work out for the best.

I know exactly how you feel, been there AM THERE. I have been out of work since June of last year. Everything has gone downhill. My husband also is out of work, it is so depressing. I apply for jobs, and never get a call back, there are sooooo many people looking for jobs now, which makes it hard to find one. Just like you, I do not even carry a wallet, if I do, it is only for identification purposes. This doesn't help, but you are not alone, there are so many people in this situation now. My mother has helped us out some with food, or a few dollars here and there. She is in the hospital now as well as my father. I worry so much about them, and with MY problems, it becauses overwhelming at times. My husband's family has not offered us anything, they do not even call. Yesterday was a day, I didn't want to get out of bed. My mother was admitted to the hospital on Sunday, the bank called saying that a check bounced and I incurred fees, the phone doesn't stop ringing with collectors, it was rainy and dull outside, and I had no food to eat. Gee, what a life. I hope things turn around for you real soon. God bless,

No, No don't say that.I gave up work and my husband took over everything bills and was quite happy to do so,so much indeed he does not want me to return to work.Even so for the first six months I was ill ,but then i recovered and realised there was more to work than work.You sound like if you wait a while you will feel like looking for a job and get back into it.Remember why you gave up that crummy job in the first place.You made the right decision then and you will make the right descision next.Brush your self down and make up your face up and get back out there ,take anything waitressing,shop work even if it is part time.Remember you won't get a job of anytype if you are working at something it is far better.This could be an opportunity to change completely have you a skill?Why don't you start up a cleaning business of your own in my experience people don't like doing thier own house work,gardening ,go to the good end of town and make enquiries there is always something for a busy person to do,Good luck.

life is all about choices, you decided to bring yourself into this position and you decided to be sad. if you don't want to be sad it will depend on your choice, you can make money even on internet without getting a job, try freelance websites for instance and you can write articles and get paid for them, i use scriptlance and getafreelancer for instance

Yes, and it seems like it went on until I decided not to be a victim. Those are words I used for myself. Now please don't think that is what I am saying you are doing. What I'm saying is, there is a length of time where nothing seems to work, and then one day, you are going to wake up and see possibilities. I know people give tips on how to be happy and all, but this depression isn't something one can just snap out of. It takes time. And I hope something happens to alter your life soon.

ok first of all stop having pitty on yourself. life is what you make of it. you need to get up and look around you and see there is someone who always got it worst then you do. i used to feel sorry for myself after getting hurt at work, and loosing my job and couldnt even aford to buy food or anything. then one night just a few days before christmas i seen someone house that burned down. and i sat looking at it thinking ok i thought i had it rough, but dang.. those poor people. and now i am 43 and i have a body of an 83 yr old man from what the doctor tells me. my whole body is bang up. looking at a bad back, neck, shoulder, and both knees. i get to look forward to be cripple one day, and my wife who's only 42 is losting her sight. she is legally blind. and let on the poeple that you helped and now they aren't around. if you sit there and worry about them and get work up because they arent there to help you, you will just go nut. i was told you do things for people and even if they dont return it, it will come back around sooner or later to you. i've been there myself giving someone 0ver 300 bucks, and never seen a dime of it. but it came back around to me for sure. i am not a music publisher and got to meet a guy who's producing my songs. so it will come back around to you. get up out of bed, and smile because you are still living. go out and make something of your life instead of having a pitty party. life is what you make of it, and when bad things happen you learn to deal with it and over come them. things always happen for a reason and there often leason to be learn

yeah. i had been such a difficult situation in life so many times. i could hardly count the days where i don't have that depressing mood. cause i was not successful in life and had no one to turn to during those difficult times of my life. how i was that there will be someone to lean on during those difficult and saddest times of our lives. but real friends that that can help us are a gem now that are too hard to find. so i just try to be content with my life situation and learn to adjust and be happy with what life presents me with. as of now i just keep busy myself looking for opportunities online. though they may not be that big help but it is better than having nothing at all.

I'm so sorry that you felt this way for yourself. You are not alone my friend. In fact there are so many people out there who share your feelings. I used to feel that way. But then I realized that we just have to find happiness in every little things we have. Cheer up.

So sad to see and read your words. But your not only one, I am here feeling the same way too. Difficulties, problems, and trials...oh what a life! Still tomorrow is another day, just pray and see things in a positive way. Just remember that God is in your way and he will never leave you nor forsake you so live life... Don't waste your time thinking all those problems cause one day the sky will open up for you and you will received many blessing just don't forget to thank and praise God.

we have in the same positions, i just broke up with my boyfriend, for a nonsense reason. i joined a social networking site. and then im working for a company that doesn't pay us a basic pay, we only paid when we have sales. my sister is the one paying for our house expenses. although i can still pay my bills but i dont know next month since the no basic pay started this month. i also dont know what to do, i want to transfer to another job but i can't work at graveyard shift. i am looking for a possible income, like maybe party needs or wedding invitations and souvenir gifts.

hi dloveli, i have come across similar situation. i couldnt hold any job more than 6 months. that is why i decided to get a work from home job. that would take forever because they are paying in cents. i dont have any money and i hate to ask my parents. im grown up and its shame to ask my parents. im way too guilty to ask anyone. if the job is stressing out, try to find a comfortable job even if they pay you less. you will never end up being sad always. trust me, the happiness is within you.. i really wish i could help you in anyway. if you like to share anything with me.. you can always count on me. don't feel so dejected. im younger than you.. but atleast sharing could lessen your pain. i can understand better cause i have gone through worst situations like this. good luck!

Hi dloveli I know exactly how you feel. Although I have a job at the moment, I hate it but refuse to leave it because I've been made homeless before because I didn't have a job. I'm still paying huge bills from years ago when I was careless and borrowed money to waste on nothing. I'm even living rent-free with my girlfriend at her dad's apartment and I still don't have two pennies to rub together. I worry constantly about how I'm going to cope from one month to the next and the consequencies of missing a bill payment. I've been through so much in my life but have always put other people first, although I've NEVER been offered help in return, not even from my partner! I feel like everything I've tried to do to improve my life has just crumbled through unforeseen circumstances and it's hard to pick myself up and carry on. BUT - I'm still alive, I can still eat no matter how cheap the food is and I have a roof over my head. Think of all the people who are worse off than you - homeless people, people who have absolutely nothing and no-one to turn to (not even a partner). Put yourself in their shoes and think of how much worse things could really be. Then think of those that love you and appreciate you for who you are, not how much money you don't have! And after this, if you still think your life is as bad as it's gonna get, think this - at least things can only get better from here! The rest is up to you, you need to get off your behind and do absolutely everything you can physically do to find another job, even if it's part-time. So what if no-one wants to help you... think how good it will feel when you achieve something immense all by yourself! Hope this helps in some way, it's what keeps me going...

I have been there. I quit my job to stay home and take care of my child, he has cp, and they wanted more an hour to watch him than I was making. I had worked in this grocery store for 18 years and was able to talk with many. Since my son is now pretty much homebound unless we have at least 2 people to help with him, it seems like I am so alone, and stuck in my house. The only adults that I get to see is my husband, health care workers, nurses and teacher. We very seldom get company and sometimes I just feel so overwhelmed. Hopefully you will be able to find a job soon and get you out of this rut.

very sorry to hear that. i am in similar boat.I am in very bad situation. i got released from the project. Not yet got any. I am frantically searching for one. Now my luck is so bad. I got confirmed for two, but nothing got materialize. One got delayed other was cancelled behind my back.I have not smiled for long.I have stopped enjoying life

I have always felt that way too but you are the only one who can change it for the better. You have to do whatever it takes to make yourself happy and do not let anything stand in the way of it.

I urge you to not give up hope, dloveli. Another day could bring some very positive changes. Have you thought of doing something to raise a little money? How about a yard sale? Most of us have all kinds of items lying around that we no longer have a need for. If you have any special skills you could take on some work on a freelance basis. For a few years now I've heard of people who cook and sell dinners to raise a bit of extra money. Think about what you are good at and formulate a plan of action. Also, if your depression continues you should see your doctor. I wish you all the best.

Pray to God , He will help you and will gives the best for you. I also had bad situation before and i felt like i fell and couldn't get up again but then i realized that i have God that will help me in all my trouble and believed that He will help. and that's true that He helped me and even now He still help me. so keep smiling, ask to God and believe that He will help you then it will happen. :-)

You are not destined to sad for your entire life! First thing you can do is to help yourself cheer-up. Stop, whatever it is that is keeping you from welcoming constructive thoughts. If this is how you program yourself in the future, this is exactly what's going to happen coz you abide by your rules. You have to make a new rule and that is to think of ways to get out of it. If you find yourself sinking in a deep mud, it won't help you if you'll just stop moving and wait to drown. Fight back, life is still there to give you a chance. If you let yourself to get too depressed you'll start draining your partners energy and believe me, you don't want to do that coz you're certainly striving to look for ways to gain strength. After my heart surgery, I was also in the same situation, I felt so sorry about myself but it never helped. I was unemployed upto know, the main difference is, the time I changed my outlook and start looking for hopes to change my situation I found one just inside me. Now I'm self-employed with my own business. If I can do it, you can.