How Do You Express to your Lover that you Love Them

@saw2207 (1359)
United States
June 15, 2009 10:13am CST
Saying I Love You is one of the many ways to express love, but doesn't it loose its luster after saying it over and over again? For it is so true in that Actions always do speak louder than words so finding ways to leave an imprint in our lovers heart isn't always easy . (especially for all of you of the male persuasion ) So I thought it might be nice to share some ways to put that spice back into your relationship: First and foremost. .. .Be who you are and not who you think they want you to be . .nothing is worse than a faker .. and sooner or later the real you comes out. Honestly and loyalty are part of the deal here...... Be empathetic - place yourself in your lovers position . .assuming may be a great way to save time but you all know what happens when we assume . . so try placing yourself in his/her point of view . . you may just see that you get better results! Don't be obsessive or obtrusive .. keep your distance for he/she may not be in the mood to cuddle up . .its so important to find the right time for those moments. Doing this shows that you respect their private space .. it can be so smothering to have someone grab at you when you just aren't feeling it. . And when those special times like birthdays and anniversary's are on the horizon, don't FORGET the day .. and to show how much you care try giving a present from the heart . . . something that they may actually use . . . and I am not talking about a new toaster! Maybe they have a passion and you can get something they can use to create what they love to do . .for example, if they like the art of handwriting . maybe they want to or already know calligraphy . what a heart warming gift the pen and the thought behind the pen would generate . . And lastly don't cheat . . even that age old .. we just went for a coffee doesn't cut it when you want someone to feel that you love and cherish them &hearts so fellow lotters . .do you hav any other suggestions to show &hearts to your lover?
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• India
15 Jun 09
Guess you have said all the necessary things but there are some more things I'd like to add... First, little things make big differences. Once some time passes after your relationship has started, the "I love you" doesn't really work. From then, a woman starts appreciating the small things that we men do for them. I mean like opening doors, doing some house chores, holding hands, protecting her on the street the same way as we protected on the first date. There are many small things... Even asking her how her day was and discussing her problems and successes are things to express your love... Nice discussion saw... Happy mylotting..
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@lampar (7597)
• United States
16 Jun 09
Whatever you said sound easy but hard to practice, since lover tend to be selfish in thought between their love relationship, each party in most cases want to have more instead of considerate of the other position. Anyway, you very much have all i can think of written down already, except i want to add one more thing is "mutual respect n trust", for a love relationship to sustain; this element of love is quite important as far as i am concerned.
@saw2207 (1359)
• United States
17 Jun 09
lamp . . good morning to ya . . thanks for your response on this age old topic. . so true . mutual love and respect is imperative . . and so is the part where . .they lived happily ever after oh to be in love . . aint it grand
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@lampar (7597)
• United States
23 Jun 09
I discover the best response title today in my page, thank for your recognition . Happy mylotting ....
@saw2207 (1359)
• United States
23 Jun 09
what can I say lamp 'cept that you deserved it
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• United States
25 Jun 09
I don't try to force the 'love' thing on any of my partners because I figure eventually they'll come around and I will go a looong time not using it at all just so I know my partner is totally comfortable using the word and not feeling obligated and I will just out of the blue say 'I Love You' and hope that my man will follow but I understand if he doesn't and love for anyone is something that has to be developed, you have grown adults still not sure what it is. My last relationship (which turned in the end a very unloving one, hey you live and you learn ) it felt so good when he started telling me he loved me and then it went to I Love you on the phone and then its became totally commonplace in our relationship, it felt good.
@saw2207 (1359)
• United States
25 Jun 09
hey there revellanovanella .. . aint it amazing how 3 little words can make you feel so good. .. .and I think it can be contagious I knew you were a smart cookie . for it is never a good thing to force anyone . .to do anything! Happy Lotting to you
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@Philbo (579)
• Canada
20 Jun 09
Just holding hands is special for the two of us now. With the gang and everything else going on in our lives I guess there just aren't enough times when our hands are free long enough to do that.
@saw2207 (1359)
• United States
20 Jun 09
Phil . . Now arent you the romantic one &hearts . . .your wife is a lucky lady . .. and I agree just holding hands especially when you have one without a chore to do in it) is a really special and loving thing . .. it shows someone is there for you Hope you are having a great day! Lotting to you!