Who would you like to end up marrying?

Philippines
June 16, 2009 10:16am CST
Love can be such a broad word and its magnitude is even more than what can be possibly explained in words. When we find love...eventually (most of us) we end up in a serious relationship for sometime for others for just a while and then jumping to the next step...getting married. My question is: Who would you like to end up with? A. To a woman/man who you love more B. To a woman/man who loves you more
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• United States
16 Jun 09
Love is such a complicated wonderful thing. I think it's always important to keep being hopeful and keeping your spirits up. Even for people who have been divorced I think it is important to stay hopeful. I also feel in life you come across many lovers, but when you find someone who you really love you realize it feels very different from the love you have felt with anyone else. This is the person you should marry, this is the person I will definitely marry :)
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• Philippines
16 Jun 09
Thank you for your opinion. Are you a man or a woman? As a woman I have different perspective although i do agree on you at some perspective. I would rather end up marrying a guy who loves me more than a guy i love more because I feel more secure in some way. As a woman, when we receive attention, affection and love by a guy for sometime...most of the time we do tend to develop some positive emotions towards such person. If we love the guy now ... chances are we will eventually fall harder -- after sometime. In my opinion (only), guys are designed differently. When they love a woman -- they Love that woman...but if they love that woman less than her love for him....there is that huge possibility that her love wont be returned as much as hers.
@phyrre (2324)
• United States
16 Jun 09
You know, my fiance and I always have this argument. I always tell him that I love him more, but he argues that he loves me more. I guess that's just the way it should be, or something like that. I think it needs to be an equal exchange of life. I wouldn't be able to stand it if I loved him more or if he loved me more because then it would seem like the relationship was on shaky ground to me. If we love each other equally, then I'm sure that we're both going to work hard to make the relationship last and to work through all the hard times.
• Philippines
16 Jun 09
Yeah, you're so very right. I think to make it last, there should be an equal love. But if you really have got to choose between the choices given...which would you choose?
@phyrre (2324)
• United States
16 Jun 09
If I absolutely had to choose, I would want to love him more than he loves me. I wouldn't be able to live with myself knowing that he adored me and I didn't love him as much as he did. I would feel so guilty and be totally miserable. On the other hand, I can accept if he doesn't love me as much as I love him. I like to think that I'm a pretty giving person and I try to do as much as possible for my family, so it wouldn't deter me in the least to know that I had more love for him.
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• Philippines
22 Jun 09
That's a darn good answer Phyrre! I like how you think. It's pretty unselfish and has a good point.
• China
21 Jun 09
hi..good questions. i think i 'd like to choose B to a man who loves me more because as a girl. i believe that more care and love i should be have the man should endure and bear more in one family. i want to find a man who loves me with true heart and place me as a important role in his life.of course.i' ll do my best to love him.
• Philippines
22 Jun 09
I would say that was my initial thought upon asking myself this question. But when I read Phyrre's opinion, I said to myself, am I being selfish to want to be loved more by a man I would end up marrying??? Maybe so, maybe not to others...what do you think?
@jpso138 (7844)
• Philippines
21 Jun 09
Well that is something that is worth pondering upon. I am already married so if you ask me if I would like to get married has out of the question. With respect to who loves more? I really do not know. I love my wife and she loves me too. It is really hard to measure or compare as to who loves who more. But what I can say is that we both love each other and we both respect each other. This is perhaps the reason why we have been going on well for the last 9 years.
• Philippines
22 Jun 09
I would just want to say congratulation! Married life can be so much beautiful when you married the one you love, according to my dad. I guess you've married someone very special and that makes both of you very very lucky. Continue the love and all the best!
@reckon21 (3487)
• Philippines
16 Jun 09
I would like to end up marrying with is the woman that loves me more. In that way she would not to find another because she really loves me. I can be rest assured that she will be forever faithful to me. Because I will do the same to her.
• Philippines
16 Jun 09
Heheh...that's funny because I feel the same way too although not for the reason of him leaving me...uhm, well maybe that's it too. I mean, following that line of thought, it boils down to one thing. SECURITY. when you're married, i think, security should be there..referring to emotional, financial ,etc. But would you be happy?
@marty3888 (2359)
• United States
16 Jun 09
That's a good question. I need someone that I respect and love enough for me to want to stay with forever, but at the same time, if she loves me more, then there is lessm worry7 that she'll leave me or want to. that's not to say I can treat her however I want and she won't leave me. It's just that right now, I'm in the opposite situation. I love my girlfriend more than she loves me. We have a house together and we both know we are not going to leave each other, but she doesn't want to get married. So right now, I'm never getting married.
• Philippines
16 Jun 09
That's a tough situation you're in. I guess marriage can have like a psychological effect on people. When I was in my early 20's, I found myself in a serious relationship with this guy after a heartbreaking breakup with my ex. This new guy was so into me...he's kinda really crazy bout me and i knew it. At first, I thought omg, having someone who loves me sooo much is like suffocating me!!! I wanted to get out of the relationship..and i dated other guys. Then I realized, as a girl...a woman...having someone who loves me more that i love him is so much better that the other way around. I guess its kinda selfish of me to think and feel that way...but as women, when we feel sooo loved we tend to develop our feelings that easy and that fast unlike men--in my opinion, if they are not so much into the girl, chances are, they will never will. I think your gf needs time, you know. Living with some1 for her, maybe is great for her--- so why mess things up with marriage ---or she might be thinking that marriage is so final and legal that if things happen, getting out of it is so much difficult than whre you guys are at in your relationship.
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• India
23 Jun 09
I am better feel this is really so nice Question... If one person who i love more but that person not consider me this will be not a better think. If anyone who's loves me i am loves more and more because this will be make the love as life long ever.. So i am going with second answer.. I am loves who loves me more this love only can come with me in our life.
@aerous (13474)
• Philippines
22 Jun 09
In my opinion on this discussion. On both of the question I cannot sure if I agree with this two. I don't even on why we end up marrying and jump to other while we know that you love that woman/man or we know that woman/man loves you? In other words you can end up marrying without any reason? I don't know why there are people that no other means to settle differences but think about ending the relationship that no other reason to find someone that they like not they love. As far as my opinion is concern I stand not to leave my partners unless she secretly leaving away.