should i take my boyfriend's propose?

@elokps (138)
Indonesia
June 17, 2009 5:50am CST
I have a boyfriend and he wants me to marry him , i'm so glad to hear it but what make me confuse to take his propose is that he still not have a job. he used to work at cafe as a keyboard player with his band but now he got trouble with his hand to play keyboard again after got an accident few months ago. So now he still hunting for new job. so what should my answer to him? i'm so confuse now , anyone can help me to give some advices? thanks in advance...
2 responses
@modstar (9612)
• Philippines
18 Jun 09
Nobody can answer that except you. It's your feelings so you should know better than us. If you think it's not yet the right time, then don't hesitate to reject because it's just not right. Marriage is forever and it's sacred so you really should be sure of yourself and him. Well since he has no job yet, i guess it's just wise to postpone marriage. Give him time to look for a job and be patient.
@elokps (138)
• Indonesia
18 Jun 09
yes you are right , i will discuss again with him and hope this will be a motivation for him to look for a job harder.
• Philippines
17 Jun 09
the mere fact you're in doubt is already an answer. you're not ready yet. Nowadays, being in love is not the only basis for tying the knot. Wise couples already consider their future together, not just being emotionally and physically prepared but financially as well. and im sure you're smart enough to know that a lot of married couples go on separate ways because of financial problems, very few surpass this stage of trial. maybe you can also ask yourself, try to imagine being totally broke, without a single penny in your pocket... will your love for each other be enough to survive another day? or maybe ask yourself, do you trust your boyfriend that much and believe in his skills that he'd easily find another job? if you truly love him and could not imagine yourself being with someone els, then maybe all you need is time. let the dust settle first then talk about it again. im sure if he really loves you, he'll give you that space to think. let me know what happens k? ;-)
@elokps (138)
• Indonesia
18 Jun 09
thanks for your thought and you're right, I already asked him to find job but he said he still try . sometimes i got bored with his answer. hmm..let's see what happen then.. :)