Your suggestion on this situation plz!!

India
June 17, 2009 1:42pm CST
Hi Friends!! Its me who is facing this situation. Please find time to read it once. Actually, I have been dating a girl since 6 months. I am sure I don't love her. But she does and she is insisting on to have physical relations even if I don't marry her later. I am in a fix and don't know which way to choose. Please offer your opinions guys!!
10 responses
@glords (2614)
• United States
17 Jun 09
If you don't want to have physical relations with this woman than you should not have physical relations with her. If you don't love her, why are you with her. Break up with her!!! Its crazy to stick around. Its obviously hurting her especially if she has to beg you for physical relations. RUN AWAY... CUT HER OFF... GET OUT NOW!
• India
17 Jun 09
I am afraid she would take some wrong action if I go on to refuse her and break up with her.. Even, I want to stay away from her now.
@glords (2614)
• United States
17 Jun 09
do stay away from her.. Im sure the break up will hurt her, but more so if it happens later.
• India
17 Jun 09
Okay, thanks for it. I've to carefully decide how to say all this to her. Wish I succeed.
@momiecat (997)
• United States
17 Jun 09
When you are young, you experiment with relationships and later form opinions about the kind of partner you want for life. It is very noble of you not to want to have relations with this girl. I really feel it is a good idea not to. You have dated long enough and if you are sure you do not want to spend your future with this girl you must gently but firmly end the relationship. I think she thinks if you have relations that will change the way you feel about her. That is not a good way to make a relationship grow. At the very least you are being honest with yourself and your feelings and I think it is better to end it (hopefully as friends) than to prolong the inevitable and make yourself miserable.
@momiecat (997)
• United States
17 Jun 09
You are very welcome. I wish you the best in this situation. I hope it can end peacefully and in the best way possible. Take care. Keep us posted.
• India
17 Jun 09
That's so kind of you!! I'll definitely find some way out to end this relation. I'll try it doesn't hurt her much. Thanks for your invaluable response.
• Philippines
18 Jun 09
if you don't love her why not just tell her . Why you go with phisucal relationship with her if you don't love her.
• Romania
18 Jun 09
Are you kidding me , right? What kind of question is that? Shoulda ...woulda...coulda.... Well ,if you are two consenting adults then what is the matter? If you don't want the agravation then don't encourage her. But since you are dating her for...6 MONTHS!!!! Oh my...need I say how does this description of the situation makes you look like as a person??? You either like the girl since you are dating her and then this is not a problem,or you seem to be undecided whether to be man enough to either keep her or dump her. Whatever the case...Really.... It's kind of a movie situation not likely a real one (LOL)
@ivana980 (156)
• Italy
18 Jun 09
I am I girl.... Can I tell to you my opinion? I had a situation many years ago... I loved a man but he wasn't in love for me, he wanted only a phisical relation but I was so confused!! Because for me it is very important the respect of my body but i loved him so much and sometimes i thought to have only a philical relation, because i don't wanted to lose him. Maybe this girl is so in love for you that he don't wanted to lose you and for her it'ok a phisical relation and nothing else... maybe she hope that you will love her a day. If you don't want to heart her you must to end this relation, let that she see you with another girl... i know that it will be sad for her, but if she will live beautiful moments with you it will be more difficult for her to let you go...
@killer11 (23)
• United States
18 Jun 09
do u live with her?
• India
19 Jun 09
No man, we live in separate houses with our families..
@ds6413 (2070)
• United States
17 Jun 09
Hello whizkid08, you are not doing her any favors by not letting her find real love or staying with her for convience of having a girlfriend. Be true to yourself and let her go. I know it hurts but it hurts even more when the person you love says "I'm not in love with you". It is selfish to stay for convience of having a relationship. Good luck with what ever you decide to do.
@eLsMarie (4346)
• Philippines
18 Jun 09
you don't find it comfortable having physical relations with her? better stop seeing her... simple.
@Bloggership (1104)
• Indonesia
18 Jun 09
Man... You sure that you don't love her, but you are already dating her for 6 month. Well, what can i say about this situation you have here... If i where you whizkid08, i'm gonna tell her that i don't actually love her before some regretful things happen after the physical contact...
• United States
18 Jun 09
Hi, You need to decide for you, not her. If you do not want to have relations with her, she needs to back off and respect that. She needs to get over it. :o) You take care of yourself. :o)