So long, to the so called- friend that left me hanging....
By cream97
@cream97 (29087)
United States
June 17, 2009 10:29pm CST
Remember the supposed to be friend that stood me up? Well, she told me to call her that Monday night. And I did. Well, she did not answer her phone. I left her a voice message, and I gave her the number to call me back at. I am very sure that she has Caller-ID. She never called me back. This was a month ago. Since then, I have not called her or went by her house. I am not going to chase her down. I don't roll like that. It is very sad what she has done to me. She could at least be nice enough to call me back and tell me that she was unable to do that favor for me. But instead she chose to lead me on like I was a puppet. But no more, will I be underneath her whim. She is not a friend, no friend of mines.
I don't appreciate what she has done to me either. The favor that I needed was not to be taken lightly or for granted. It was a desire that I have in my heart to be fulfilled. I have prayed numerous times about this desire to God. It was precious to me. It is a dream that I have always yearned to have. And she took advantage of my dream. If she did not want me to use her car, all she had to do was tell me no. I was not expecting her to tell me why. Once, she had to be upfront with me, then I would not ask her for anything else. I saw her at church last week and she stayed in her car for about 10 minutes, then she got out and walked up to hug one of the elders that preaches at this church. Our car was not parked far from her car. My husband was standing near him. And she did not bother to come to the car where I was at. She did not apologize for why she stood me up like she did. It was like she did not care at all about what I had to do and myself at that. How can someone just stand a person up and never apologize? They just go on with their lives, like as if nothing every happened. How can she live with herself? If I had to do that to someone else, I would feel pretty bad in the end.
I never knew that a woman could be so deceiving towards another woman.
I don't appreciate what she has done to me either. The favor that I needed was not to be taken lightly or for granted. It was a desire that I have in my heart to be fulfilled. I have prayed numerous times about this desire to God. It was precious to me. It is a dream that I have always yearned to have. And she took advantage of my dream. If she did not want me to use her car, all she had to do was tell me no. I was not expecting her to tell me why. Once, she had to be upfront with me, then I would not ask her for anything else. I saw her at church last week and she stayed in her car for about 10 minutes, then she got out and walked up to hug one of the elders that preaches at this church. Our car was not parked far from her car. My husband was standing near him. And she did not bother to come to the car where I was at. She did not apologize for why she stood me up like she did. It was like she did not care at all about what I had to do and myself at that. How can someone just stand a person up and never apologize? They just go on with their lives, like as if nothing every happened. How can she live with herself? If I had to do that to someone else, I would feel pretty bad in the end. I never knew that a woman could be so deceiving towards another woman.5 people like this
14 responses
@Citychic (4067)
• United States
18 Jun 09
So long , so called friend.........
Hello Cream, sorry to hear that this has happened to you but believe me it happens all the time in the real world. I'm really not too surprised to hear about it because i had a girl in the church to do something similar to me. Well I wasn't asking if I could borrow her car because I know better than to ask anybody that question. Most people won't loan out there cars because there are a lot of insurance issues involved. Anyways I would have to wonder how long have you know her? I've had a few friends asking if they could drive my car and i say no because you aren't on our insurance. So that was that......... anyhow, you shouldn't allow this one bad incident to turn you sour against all women. Perhaps the one that you ran into just didn't know how to communicate very well. My advice is if it bother you really bad, why don't you approach her in a calm and relaxed manner after church sometime and just say, hey sister, I would like to speak with you. Then she maybe the two of you could talk it out. She might have had something important to come up the reason why she couldn't answer her phone. You just never know........Anyhoo, try to pick yourself back up and remember that life goes on. Also remember that God doesn't give us everything that we want. Just because it's a desire of yours doesn't mean that he is obligated to do it all. Sometimes he want us to do our part. I have many desires in my heart and I know the word tell us that God will give us the desires of our hearts. But if we don't ever do anything to work towards making the desire to become a part of our reality, the dream may just continue to lie there dormant. Hope you can understand where I'm coming from. Remember that God's ways aren't ours......go and dry your tears and remember that God is your helper......be blessed........
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@cream97 (29087)
• United States
18 Jun 09
Very true words.. I have known this girl ever since 1999.... I can understand that using someones car is very skeptical like. But, it would have been proper for her to at least tell me that she was unable to let me use it. I had to call her many times, and she would never bother to call me back, even when I have left a message on her voicemail. On the day that I had my road test, I waited for her for almost 45 to 50 minutes... She never showed up... So later that day when I finally got a hold of her, she told me that she had to take her mom around on shopping... On the day that she told me that she would meet me at the DMV????
I asked her this favor while she was at home with her mom... And maybe her mom heard me... And she came up with the excuse about that she needed to go out and about... It was no excuse of how this went on.... Even if she had to help her mom at the last minute, then she could at least follow up with me... She just left me hanging..
I asked her this favor while she was at home with her mom... And maybe her mom heard me... And she came up with the excuse about that she needed to go out and about... It was no excuse of how this went on.... Even if she had to help her mom at the last minute, then she could at least follow up with me... She just left me hanging..
@Citychic (4067)
• United States
18 Jun 09
So long, so called friend.....
Yes indeed that was very wrong the way she treated you. But it sounds like she might just be very immature. Perhaps she can't make up her own mind about how to deal with her friends. Anyhow friends like that you can do without. Continue to pray and trust God, he will send you more friends that are true. Whenever you get in a bind pray to God about it, he will work things out for you. I know it's not easy when you've been hurt or let down by a friend. But that is when God steps in a lot of time and he show us that the person who we thought was a friend wasn't really a true friend at all. Always remember that there is no friend like the Lord! Always keep him first and keep him as your very best friend...People will come and go from our lives but God will never leave us or forsake us
....... God bless you, have a wonderful night!
....... God bless you, have a wonderful night!1 person likes this
@Corimore (249)
• United States
18 Jun 09
It is truly sad when people are like that. But it is not for us to judge them. In time she will need something or someone and those she turned her back upon will be the few that could help and what will she do then. Just know that you are a good person and would probably still be there for her even after that. Maybe you should just walk up to her at church and say_ you know it really hurt me when you said you would do this for me then proceeded to avoid me. But because I am a God Fearing Women I forgive you and just wanted you to know that i hope that someday you will find it in your heart to try to heal our friendship because it is that important to me./ By saying that you show that your feelings are important and that you are willing to forgive. It may also give her that one chance to see how her actions have affected you and urge her to change even just a bit.
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@cream97 (29087)
• United States
18 Jun 09
Hi, Corimore. Yes, that sounds really nice to do. But, when a person is in pain. It feels like this is the last thing they would want to do. If, I tell her all of this, it will make her think that I am stressing her. So, I would rather not expose my real feelings. I would just let God deal with her the best way that he sees fit to. It is bad enough, that I had to run her down for an entire month over a lie that she told me just to get me off of her back. She never had no intention of helping me. Never again will I be subjected to being ran around like a merry-go-round.
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
25 Jun 09
Personally it is Sad when there are people like this, and to think she has offered No explanations at all is worse even yet. Personally I would write it off as Water under the Bridge and just move on. It is on her shoulders now, and God says forgive others and treat them as they want to be treated, so sooner or later she will realize what she did, and hopefully by then it will continue to stay too late as well. But sounds like this is a Better lesson now more than later.
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@cream97 (29087)
• United States
1 Aug 09
Yes, that is what has hurted me the most is when she didn't have the the audacity to even come clean and honest with me. She just kept on lying and telling me that she would do the favor for me. But she never showed up at all. As of now, I have not contacted her in two months.. And I am glad to not have. I don't want to bother with her if she thinks that I will be running behind her... She wasted my time and I wasted hers even thinking that she would do a favor for me.. Never again will I be subjected to her lies...
She wasted my time and I wasted hers even thinking that she would do a favor for me.. Never again will I be subjected to her lies...1 person likes this
@sunny69316 (638)
• China
1 Aug 09
Hi,cream,
I'm sad to hear that!You need't feel glum,as this is a real world!I hate the people that was so deceiving towards others!
Have a nice day!
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@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
21 Jun 09
That's terrible! Sometimes it's our friends that have the power to hurt us most. I had a friend that left me hanging once and it was every bit of 5 years before I had anything to do with her again. I work with her so I had to see her everyday and of course act professionally. We did in the end make up but I will never trust her or feel the same about her again. Terrible but I just don't want to be put in that position again.
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@FinanciallySMART (41)
• Jamaica
18 Jun 09
Give her time to forgive herself cream and then she will come around. Remember that the bible says that we fight not against flesh and blood but principalities. Whenever you see her in church go and talk with her. Let her know that you have forgiven her and so you want to move away from this. Sometimes we pray for something and we thought that the person who is closes to us will be the one to help you fulfil this dream but remember that God has other plans and so even though you pray and you see that it is materialized always seek God's face to know who he want you to do the plan with. Remember God knows our heart and so he will send the right person to share in one goals and aspirations.
Forgive Cream and move on. Remember as a christian you should show the fruits of the spirits and in displaying this then others will see God's love shining through you.
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@moondancer (7433)
• United States
18 Jun 09
That's sad hun. She should not have done you that way. If she did not want you to use the car then she should have been open about it and told you. It hurts more to be told you can and then to be ignored and left to hang.
Some people are not what I call a good or even a true friend as they are only around when they want to be and when it is good for them or they will get something out of it. If they want something from you.
The best thing to do with people like that is to just tell them if you can't let me just say so, I will understand but don't leave me hanging. Or have nothing to do with them. It's really bad hen they confess to being a christian and are nothing but back stabbers or tell many lies.
This is why I don't get close to people anymore, most everyone is out for just themselves.
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@angel_of_charm (4134)
• Philippines
18 Jun 09
I had been on track of your discussions about this friend of yours and like I said on your past disussions she could have never meant to do what she said she will to you since she's trying to reason out each time.
Sometimes words are hard to tell specially when it can hurt someones feelings. But its better to tell and hurt even a friend rather than making them look like a fool just because their depending on something that will never happen.
I'm sorry you lost a friend because of this. She could have had told you than made this things happen. This is such a sad thing to happen.
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@dawnald (85130)
• Shingle Springs, California
18 Jun 09
All I can say is, this person is not a friend.
@tamarafireheart (15384)
•
18 Jun 09
Hi coffee97,
Some women can be so evil, they treat you like dirt, but wait till you have money and well off, then she will come running then you can slam the door in her face, I don't like people like that, if they don't want to know you, then don't bother with them.
Tamara
@mahanjili (105)
• India
18 Jun 09
I hear frequently this kind of things between women. Now this is the time to doscover what you have done for her..if not avoid her as she want you..you will discover better friends.....
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@charlenmendoza (922)
• Philippines
18 Jun 09
it is sad when you learned that the person you thought is your friend didnt considered you as his/her friends. I dont want to associate myself to people like that. i am lucky that my true friends are really a true friends in true meaning of the word. forget her and forgive her. She lose a friend like you and if she is like that to her other friends, well by now she is alone by herslef.
@hi2rashid (153)
• India
18 Jun 09
frienship is the true feeling that comes next to the parenting feeling.
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