have you ever used your friend as an instrument for your own benefit?

India
June 19, 2009 12:40am CST
its a question which most of you will hesitate to answer.but the sad part is,it is true that we sometimes do use them for our benefit.sometimes we make friends just for the sake of have one or two friends.at that time we select people who are a bit popular or who are very good in one field or the other.it is not true for all of us but it does happen.sometimes we dont even recognise that we have so many friend yet we are in search for one.it did happen in my case.i always felt i had very few friends.but a time came when i realised that i had so many friends,the only problem was i didn't recognise the.so do you make friends for your own benefits or you dont even think about any benefits?hope you reply!
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10 responses
19 Jun 09
omg i have a good friend who has a lot of money and belongs to a country club in town. i always call him up and say lets go swimming (at his country club) and then when we get there i usually get food that i dont have to pay for because he just puts it on his tab
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• India
19 Jun 09
i'm sure he is indeed a good friend of yours.anyways,thanks alot for your response!have a great day!
• China
19 Jun 09
I think true friends should help each other when some of us are in trouble. Friend is not a instrument for your own benefit,but you should considerate for your friend's benefit much more!At least I never use my friend as in instrument.
• India
19 Jun 09
hmmm...thats true.yhanks alot for your response.have a great day!
• China
20 Jun 09
Well i must say that i never use my friends as a tool to gain benefits intentionally.But i must admit that when i was in high school, i do turn to my friends for help when i have some problems in my study. However i don't think it is a kind of use. As an old saying goes: a friend indeed is a friend in need. In my opinon, true friendship is something beyond personal interests.
@lingli_78 (12841)
• Australia
20 Jun 09
i won't be a hypocrite and say no because i think everybody does it... but the question is, to what extent and do you overdo it to your friend??? i don't... i won't make use of my friend just for my benefits all the time... this world is about giving and taking... so we can't always take from other people without giving something back in return... that will be very selfish... take care and have a nice day...
@vetiver12 (164)
• Spain
19 Jun 09
well, maybe to come to me to some interview, job etc.... but they are doing the same with me. I mean, they and us are here to help each other, and that would be to use it for your own benefit. But I don´t think that´s bad, because one day for you, another day for me.
@kun2349 (23473)
• Singapore
19 Jun 09
ONe can have alot of frenz among them, but how many of them are actually good or best frenz?? haha =D If there are not many many, which is kinda common, it means that majority of us are just making use of each other to get what we want.. This is how things work in life, and it includes us.. Even if we dun use our fren to achieve whatever goals we have, they will still be using us, just that we dunno about it.. haha =D
@ANTIQUELADY (36471)
• United States
19 Jun 09
I make friends because i like the person right off the bat or i don't. U don't know what benefits u would get from somone if u have just met them. I do think after u know a person u do get benefits from them if u became friends & i think that works both ways,
@moondancer (7434)
• United States
19 Jun 09
I have never thought of having any benefits to having a friend or many friends. I have a friend because I like the person and maybe we have things in common and maybe we do not. But we can talk and do things together when time and circumstances allow.
@Wismay (2038)
• India
19 Jun 09
First thing is that I watch in a friend is his backbiting about a friend in front of others? Does he/she keep things to himself if a friend says something? I never thought of using a friend as an instrument. And I always believe that "what you give that you get" Ok, sometimes you receive a favor or help from friends but it is always better to payback it! Otherwise why call it a friendship in the first place?
@suruchi86 (1873)
• India
19 Jun 09
Yes it is true and I think, nobody can deny this. Everybody, at some point of time, might have considered his or her benefits while choosing friend. I must admit that inspite of myself not trying to be partial, this kind of thought, sometimes comes to my mind while selecting a friend.