Would you accept this invitation?
By silvercoin
@silvercoin (2101)
Lithuania
June 19, 2009 1:29pm CST
I'm confused.Last year I worked with a group of Italians from Sicily as an interpreter.There was this man who was divorced and was looking for a new woman in his life.I didn't pay much attention to him as he wasn't my type of man at all.We just had a couple of drinks, talked a little and said goodbye.Now I get his letter where he's inviting me to Sicily this summer.To see Italy and Sicily again would be a nice thing, but this man..I know that he's expecting to have an affair with me.Why would he invite me there?I'm not that stupid.He knows I'm tired from this crisis, this constant lack of money.And here it comes - holiday in Sicily.
What would you do in my place?
What would you do in my place?2 people like this
16 responses
@vetiver12 (163)
• Spain
19 Jun 09
I think that this guy maybe wants more than behaving as friends in that journey. But you have obviously the last word and perhaps he wants just your company. Maybe it would be a good idea to talk to him about that, and see if he sees you as a friend or something more. And that you´re be very happy to join him in his journey, just as friends. (I mean if the guy doesn´t attract you that much)
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@Azaerus (820)
• Philippines
19 Jun 09
Hi there friend..If your not comfortable with the guy I think it's better if you talk straight with him to clear things out and to stop those things that bothers you..it's better for you to talk with him sooner..I'm sure you don't want to hurt him if he really has this thing for you..so I guess it's better for you to talk soon enough..if this takes any longer he might be hurt pretty bad...so the sooner the better..hope I've helped you in some way..:b
@yok999 (124)
• Portugal
19 Jun 09
well silvercoin, it´s all up to you, but if you know is intentions and you do not want a relation then you shouldn´t go it´s not ok to play with others fellings, but who knows if you migth get to knowing im better you started to like him. good luck.
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@chaynezjapanez (38)
• Philippines
20 Jun 09
Ola.. if you do not like to be seen together with this man then better not to go..but if you think only that this man is after you, maybe you should ask him first why he is inviting you, do not conclude before hand, unless he told you so, face to face, or in a letter..right?? he maybe wants to make friends..we really never know whats the reason behind that invitation. You could actually send him back a letter asking why.. then its up to you to decide whats next to be done when he replied. Goodluck..
@silvercoin (2101)
• Lithuania
21 Jun 09
I've sent him a response.That will make things clear.Forever.
@deepzholic (256)
• India
19 Jun 09
hi silvercoin....
if you ask me then i would say that it is your life and you have to take decisions for yourself.....but as you know the man you might also be knowing his nature whether he is a good man or bad.......i think you should go t Sicily as it will be a holiday for you also....as from here you can't read that man's mind.......he might have some other reasons of inviting you to hi place.....he might have soughed outed the difference with his wife and wants you to be there on this special occasion......but as i said the final decision is on you.......all the best..
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@underdogtoo (9579)
• Philippines
20 Jun 09
I guess you know what he wants and if you want the same thing it could be beneficial for you both. Cheers!!
@reckon21 (3479)
• Philippines
20 Jun 09
If I am on your shoes I will accept the generous invitation.
Just kidding. Anyways...can he be trusted? What are your feelings
toward him...if you don't like him then refuse his offer politely.
It would be not right if he will learn to hope for something that
wont happen.
@charlenmendoza (922)
• Philippines
20 Jun 09
wow, i just hope somebody will offer me a vacation in italy. anyways, going back to your situation, it will be nice to have a vacations after all the hardship that you been tru. all you need to do is to tell him that you will accept it but there will be no string attached to it. asked what is he expecting in return of the travel that he offer. who knows he is just trying to make you happy and at the same time he is trying to be close to you. it is his way of courting you.
@Ruby722 (796)
• China
20 Jun 09
Hi there
I saw everyone have different opinion,you should think about it carefully.if you don't like this guy,and don't want to happy thing with him,i think you should don't go Sicily.if you take him invitation,if will give him a wrong sign ,you accept and don't reject.he might think you are interted in him too.
@marites31 (267)
• Philippines
20 Jun 09
If he is inviting you nicely, why not take advantage of it. Anyways, you have an option for you to decide and tell him what can you feel if you are together. You may know if he can be your friend or being more than that. However, if you think he is a bad man who may take advantage of your weaknesses, better say no rather than getting pissed of in the end. Enjoy life by engaging yourself with safe people.
@ivana980 (156)
• Italy
19 Jun 09
I'm from Sicily and i know the sicilian men....be careful.
Maybe this man likes you and he want to know you more, but you told that he is not your type of man... do you like him? Because if you don't like him why do you are so in confusion?? You can tell him that you have a lot of work or simply that is not easy for you to come back in sicily for this year...
Or if you are interested and you would like to know him more, you could come with any friends, so you don't will be alone and he couldn't to approach with you, if you don't want.
Where are you from? :-) Bye bye and good luck!
@silvercoin (2101)
• Lithuania
21 Jun 09
Yes,Sicily looks good in photos.
But Hawaii looks even better!I think that only Hawaii is worth to trade one's life..Thank you.
But Hawaii looks even better!I think that only Hawaii is worth to trade one's life..Thank you.
@xoxcharityxox (567)
• United States
19 Jun 09
Hmm, this could get messy. However, it could be a very nice trip if you can grit your teeth when it comes to him. I'm not suggesting anything either way. That is your choice to make. Sometimes you can find love when you least expect it. Attractions grows with companionship. However, if you are repulsed by the idea of eing with politely decline. It is rather strange that he has waited that long to contact you.
