where is my life going?

United States
June 20, 2009 2:34pm CST
Dear lotters, it's my first time to start a discussion on mylot. I am a man pushing 30 and still stay in college struggling for my PHD degree. I am majoring EE and since last year i found that i didn't like it any more. But i can't quit because i have already spent two years on it. Recently i feel really painful when i am doing the so called research.There is always a sound in my mind that is quit,quit. I have no idea about it. Should I quit?
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3 responses
@goldeneagle (6775)
• United States
20 Jun 09
Well I didn't get far enough in college to pursue a PHD, but I think I may know a little about how you feel. I earned an associate's degree a few years ago. I started classes in 2004, and finished my classes in 2006. I majored in business administration with an emphasis in banking. I chose this field because I was looking for a job that wouldn't require me to be on my feet all the time because I have a physical handicap, and a test I took told me that banking was a career that I would be good at. It wasn't what I wanted to do, but the course I wanted to take was not on the list provided by the test, and in order for the department of rehab to help pay for the courses, I had to pick a course from the list. Needless to say, the banking career didn't work out, and now I have been looking for something else for almost a year. I wanted to take the computer electronics course to learn how to build and work on computers. I have wanted to do this since high school, but I have never taken the time to do it. I have made up my mind to go and take the classes, and I am going to try to start when the fall semester starts at the tech school close to my house. I was going to take the class when it started last week, but I had some unexpected expenses to come up, and I had to spend my tuition money on other things. I told you all that to tell you this...If you have lost the passion for what you are studying, I think it would be better to take another path now than to wish you had done it later on in life. I have spent most of my time in the last few years, and especially in the past year, wishing I had changed my major when I thought about it. I would hate to know that someone else is doing the same. Let me know what you decide to do...Good luck in whatever you choose.
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• United States
22 Jun 09
Hi goldeneagle,thank you for you long response. Well i decided to keep on pursuing the phd degree even i still feel painful. It sounds like an endless road for me to walk down, but since i chose it, i need to finish it. Somewhat like you, i also have a dream in my mind to study some financial knowledge,because i think i have some kind of ability in business field. But i don't know when i have time to fulfill my dream.Sometimes I read some of the financial books,but always be interrupted by current phd works.After thinking about this for a while, i decided to concentrate on getting the degree first, then i can do anything i like without any burden.
@zearah (5289)
• Philippines
20 Jun 09
Hi! I'm also new here in mylot. Friend i would suggest don't quit. "Quitter never wins", "Winner never quit". Let's be pessimistic. Go for it!
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• Janesville, Wisconsin
21 Jun 09
It all depends on you what do you want to really do? Do you want to complete it or quit? If you want to complete it ignore that little voice they call the inner critic.. which is suppose to be there to warn us of things that are not right. What I would do if I were you I'd push to my best to complete it... Then if you did not like the job later on when the economy improves or after you earned more money you can always go back to school to major something else.. OR.. You can go to your college counselor and see if you can change your major to something else that uses the same requirments you have already completed? OR change the major or minor entirely if that is an option for you. Then its not really quitting it is changing your mind. :) ... No one can tell you what to do in this sitatution. We can all hope that if you do quit or go on that you are happy with the descision... But I recommend trying to finish it out.. As it may open up some new opportunities for you. - DNatureofDTrain
@zearah (5289)
• Philippines
21 Jun 09
i agree, whatever makes you comfortable do it! don't be too dependent on what other say. be your self. you can make it through your own prejudices and decision. learn from others but never let them to manipulate you. even parents need only to guide but should not force you nor manipulate you.