Why do women forgive their men who cheat on them?

India
June 20, 2009 3:26pm CST
Men cheat on their women much more than women cheat on their men.This is a universal phenomenon.But why do they forgive their cheating men? Any ideas, mylotters?
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26 responses
@ckyera (17332)
• Philippines
21 Jun 09
its love over matter! i have been cheated once and i forgive him and accept him again...i don't care if other people will say that i am stupid forgiving this man who cheats on me...who cares? i love him and that's all that matter...and now we are happy living together and i think that cheating incidence that happen makes our relationship even stronger...
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@saw2207 (1359)
• United States
20 Jun 09
because they are stupid and gluttons for punishment. Somewhere at sometime someone must have taught them that it was ok to be disrepected . .and these women (or men) who forgive cheating spouses are only setting themselves up for more of the same. Now I am not saying there are not exceptions .. very few and very far between . . is it possible and maybe someone can make a stupid mistake such as cheating. . but . .as I have always heard.. ONCE A CHEATER . .ALWAYS A CHEATER. . if it walks like a duck and it quacks like a duck . .. .IT IS A DUCK! Happy Lotting to you vijayanths
• India
20 Jun 09
You are right saw2207. You sound very meaningful to me.Yes, once a cheater always a cheater, I think this is also true, may be the intensity diminish when they age,lol.
@saw2207 (1359)
• United States
20 Jun 09
thanks vija . .. I try to be meaningful and honest!!! as for you virtual . . ha ha ha ....it is so true. . but how about if we give them (the stupid ones) the old saying Fool me once . .shame on you . .fool me twice . ..shame on me until we really call them stupid!
@sunil_008 (1269)
• India
20 Jun 09
hi i think i don't like men to chaet women.but if they had or have with some strong reasons to follow then i would say i won't regret it.
• India
20 Jun 09
Men will find strong reasons easily
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@hanah87 (1835)
• Malaysia
20 Jun 09
Maybe women always think by their emotional or their feeling and do not think with their brain.So,that is why they easily forgive the men who cheat on them.Sorry to say that,but it was a fact because woman is have too much emosional.They have a pure and sincere heart and easily to forgive anyone who make wrong to them.But not all woman are like that and many of them also think by logic and sometimes hard to forgive a man who cheat them than a man.All of it happen because they always influence by emotional.Thank you and have a nice day.
@bmc616 (23)
• United States
21 Jun 09
I have no clue why SOME women take them back, same goes for men who cheat and the woman takes them back...Guess its just love...I don't know but it sux, and maybe they are afraid they are going to lose the "love" of their lives. I hate that though I have people I know of who have taking their cheating lovers back lol....I'm new to this so add me lol....
@bmc616 (23)
• United States
21 Jun 09
crap, I meant it the other way around lol, I repeated myself, I meant when women cheat and the man takes the woman back also..well they have much more attitude towards I think.
@icesmile (7160)
• Romania
20 Jun 09
Woman have many reasons and different. Maybe woman are dependent of this man, maybe woman is stupid, maybe she afraid that will be alone. maybe feel that can t love other man. But if she will forgive him once, he will make many mistake after, because know that woman will forgive him. I belive in second chance, but not when a man or a woman are not faithfull
• Philippines
20 Jun 09
Personally, I dont think I can forgive my partner on cheating on me and just forget everything, maybe one or twice cheating is quite enough but if he still keeps on cheating I think you need to dump him... A lot of women just forgive and forget about it simply because they love their partners, they think and feel that they cannot live without them in their lives, most of them are also being dependent on their partners even if they always cheating on them.
• United States
20 Jun 09
many reasons avaialable. they are stupid they dont have self esteem they dont want to break up a family, if they are married they beleive a man can change they believe him when he says it will never happen again some pretend its not even happening they might not want to have to support themselves they love him?? So many reasons, the truth of the matter is that even the most powerful, intelligent woman will forgive a cheating man. It happens to all of us :O(
• India
20 Jun 09
You are absolutely right virtualmirage, worth to be marked best response if I don't get a better one. I think you are right that even the most powerful woman would forgive her cheating husband.well said virtualimage
• United States
21 Jun 09
LOL :O) It's sad that its all true, but it is huh??
• Philippines
22 Jun 09
Haven't been in this situation since I never had any relationship. But I guess the reason is the Love they are still feeling for the person. As long as they forgive that person it is easy for them to have a second chances. I hope those person or men that had given a second chances don't just waste the opportunity because it is not easy to forget the mistakes that they have done, they have to prove this time that they are worthy of that second chance.
@eshaan (6188)
• India
21 Jun 09
maybe you are talking about older dasy or eastern parts...nowadasy women are well educated and have good jobs as well....so they dont have to compromise, if their men cheat them...earlier due to much dependance of women on men, finacially they were insecure and so had to carry out the relations thoguh, they were not able to accept them from heart, now the things are changing slowly...so be careful vijayanths jus kidding...take care and have a happy life..
@punlonnjack (1308)
• United States
23 Jun 09
you should repost it and say why do most women cause i wouldnt forgive.there is no reason for my man to cheat.its selfish and wrong.
@SangsTurks (1444)
• India
23 Jun 09
I think its in the nature of the women to forgive the mistakes of their men. But its not that every woman might forgive her man. Some people might just be in love so badly that they have no option but to forgive and move forward while some can just breakup. It depends on the make of the relationship and the bonding.
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
22 Jun 09
I don't agree with some of our good fellow say that wife forgive their cheating husband because they are stupid. They forgive their men, because they want to protect the relationship that they built in how many years. Most of all they love their husband or men. To forgive is not stupidity. The stupid things is to cheat your wife, since you know that you responsibility for her. You promise in the eyes of men to love her and most of all in the eyes of God, that bind you to live together for better or worst.
@Ritchelle (3790)
• Philippines
23 Jun 09
sometimes women forgive cheating men because it is not only them who are involved. sometimes children are involved and some institutions even suggest tolerating this for a while until children come off age and can understand or even stand the hurt that a separation would bring. women need not lower themselves to cheating husbands. sometimes men think they're forgiven but the woman is just trying to make it harder for the man if he gets caught in the end for it is illegal in any marriage to do this cheating thing, right? in divorce settlements it is the gentler soul who gets the goodies. so forgiven isn't really forgiven sometimes. we just bide our time. and it surely wouldn't be forgotten.
@myx_03 (540)
• Philippines
27 Jun 09
Because they really love their man. But we also need to change once we get forgiven by them. Maybe if you cheated again, they're will be no more chance. That's ouch!
@threnos (216)
• Canada
27 Jun 09
I think that there are probably two reasons why they do this. The first is that they love that person. Even if the man they love is being unfaithful, they still don't want him out of their lives. They truly care for him. The second is that they are use to the routine and are afraid to break free from it. This is probably because of the security being in the relationship offers them.
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
21 Jun 09
i think it is because they are very soft-hearted, love their partner too much and don't want to lose their partner... may be they are dependent on their partner too much as well and can't live without him/her... that's why they just tolerate the cheating... also, they are afraid of the feeling of loneliness... all of these reasons can make a person forgive the partner who is cheating... take care and have a nice day...
@daryljane (3406)
• Philippines
21 Jun 09
Women and love have 2 things : 1. men get carried away by the devotion women gives them 2. and the willingness to forgive. and when the 2nd one stands out in a guys mind, cheating is always justifiable. And i agree with virtualmirage, all the things she said is true. And it takes a lot of hammering on a women to really understand that once men cheat, they are bound to do the same thing over and over again..and because of women's tendencies of giving then another chance, they just bought a first class ticket to heartache world!
@Archie0 (5636)
21 Jun 09
I think this is a nice topic to be discussed.I think much of this situation is found in india only, than anywere outside, why because i think women are still wounded in the old cultures and have not much progressed mentally though traditionally they have.Still women in india face this situation atleast 7- percent women even today stay with thier husbands inspite knowing that they cheating on her.This is nothing but a deep wrong though that a woman binds in herself somewhere about the family and its reputation, her life and the children and thei future.Women is always said to be a symbol of sacrifice even today in most part of india, and i dont think most of indians will deny this.
• Philippines
21 Jun 09
well for one, women are more loving and forgiving than man. and woman actually accepted that in every men's life there will come a time that they will cheat. and since women love their husband, they think that its ok and they need to forgave their husband who cheat on them. But for me, i can forgave you once but not twice. i will give you chance once and thats it.
@clutterbug (1051)
• United States
21 Jun 09
Hi vijayanths, I am so surprised that so many of the responses you have received are against forgiving their spouse for cheating on them. The Bible says we are to forgive not just once, but "seventy times seven" times. If we don't forgive others, our Heavenly Father won't forgive us our trespasses. I've been through a similar situation, I forgave my hubby for his indiscretions. God blessed our marriage,my husband has been saved by accepting Jesus as his Savior! The transformation is genuine, my husband is a differnt man. I am not a weak woman, I am strong and don't need a man but I forgive because I too am a sinner in this world. To God be the glory, now and forever. Thank you for listening.
@bingchen (1119)
• China
21 Jun 09
women forgive their men ,because they couldn't hope always remember this unhappy thing. people lived in the real world and faced something ,including living, work relations, friends,and so on. it is not availble for women crying to these cheater, this is a part of process,we met unluky thing that only one thing every day, so we have confidence to face something ,don't waste time for these cheater, warning