Going To The Theater: By Yourself Or With A Friend?

@gtargirl (5385)
United States
June 20, 2009 5:20pm CST
I was married for fifteen years and now, sadly, divorced for the last seven. A few days ago I realized that I don't think I've ever gone to see a movie by myself. For that matter, I've never gone solo to a restaurant either. Is there something you haven't done by your lonesome . . . perhaps you enjoy going out with yourself?
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• United States
13 Jul 09
I have never gone to a movie by myself. I have gone to fast food resturants to eat but not a sit down resturant by my self. I think that it is because I go to movies and dinner to be with people so I dont do it by my self. Most of the movies I watch alone are at my home. Maybe it is something I shoud try, I might learn something new about me.
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@gtargirl (5385)
• United States
28 Aug 09
Hehehe . . . it's always good to learn something new about ourselves. In my case, I might actually find out that I'm braver than I think. You're right though, I enjoy going to the movies and dinner with friends. I don't think I'm good company for myself.
@violeta_va (4842)
• Australia
1 Jul 09
Something I haven't done by my self.... hmmmm I have not concived a child by my selfdoes that count :)))) Both were joint efford :0. Anyway I cant think of anything I have dobe in social contence by my self. I have been to mcdonalds and things like that by my self but not to a "proper" restaurant. And I would hate going to the movies by my self in fact I hate not been able to have my kids with me so we go drive in instead its much more fun with the baby crying and son making comments.
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@gtargirl (5385)
• United States
1 Jul 09
So true, Violeta. It would be very hard to have a baby by oneself. It's always better as a joint effort. Are there still drive-ins around? We don't have any here in Southern Cal. At least not that I know of.
• Australia
2 Jul 09
Ahhhh but I live in Australia there are I belive 3 drive-in in Melbourne and lucky for us we have one 2 min from our home so its great for us.
@suspenseful (40326)
• Canada
30 Jun 09
I never have been to the theater by myself either. I always went with someone even when I was single. I have gone to a restaurant by myself in my 20s when I was working downtown, and I did feel a little strange then. I have shopped by myself, gone in a bookstore by myself, gone to Church by myself, but eating and movies, I would rather go with someone.
@gtargirl (5385)
• United States
1 Jul 09
Oh I forgot about church. There's been a few times now that I've gone to church by myself. But I never quite feel alone once I get there. I get a ton of hugs and smiles over there. I'm with you though . . . eating and movies just seem like something we do with friends. I do want to see if I can do it simply for confidence, if anything.
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@suspenseful (40326)
• Canada
7 Jul 09
I have to have someone to share the movie with and I feel unloved if I am in a restaurant by myself. I do not mind going to a Food court alone because there are people there and I can pretend to be waiting for someone. As for Church, all my friends are there and I feel so much comfortable when I get there that I do not mind walking to it alone.
@Lakota12 (42794)
• United States
23 Jun 09
Not gone to a movie in yearssss. But I do like to go by myself out sometimes as like I did yesterday. Went gambling for 6 hours really enjoyed it and have ate out by myself but that really isnt all that fun.
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@gtargirl (5385)
• United States
27 Jun 09
Wow, six hours of gambling?? I hope you did well. Nothing in the theaters that interest you huh?
@Lakota12 (42794)
• United States
27 Jun 09
ratehr gamble and wait to see the film on tv lol
@carolbee (16243)
• United States
21 Jun 09
I haven't gone to see a movie alone. Mainly because I am not a movie goer. However, I will go eat alone anywhere. My husband travels in the summer since he's a softball coach. When he's gone I will go alone. Several of the restaurants around our area know me because we do eat out alot. So I can be greeted with a smile and conversation before they even seat me. Makes it more comfortable.
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@gtargirl (5385)
• United States
27 Jun 09
This might sound funny, but I've always thought of finding a nice restaurant to eat in and become a regular. You know, "Where everybody knows your name." I don't think I could afford it though.
@carolbee (16243)
• United States
27 Jun 09
It's fun to be noticed and appreciated. Two restaurants in particular they know my name and our kids. I like that recognition. Yes, it does get costly.
• Canada
24 Aug 09
if there is something playing at a movie theater, or at a live theater, and I want to go, I'll go on my own. If my husband and I want to see the same things, we'll go together. I know a lot of people who say they will never go unless they have someone to go with, but that was never me, If I want to go alone, I will.
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@gtargirl (5385)
• United States
28 Aug 09
I wanna grow up and be just like you! Seriously, DC, I wish I was that comfortable with myself. One day perhaps.
@arkaf61 (10891)
• Canada
21 Jun 09
I don't really go to the movies anymore. But when I did, there were times I went by myself. The same with a restaurant - actually I do that still, if I"m somewhere alone and it's time to eat and if there is a nice restaurant close by. I prefer it to going to harveys or macdonald's. I occasionally like doing things alone, be it going to a movie, or a restaurant or anything else. Actually I do like to go shopping for clothes alone even though I miss out on the opinions of a friend of a family member on how what I'm planning on buying looks on me, but mirrors work as well LOL
@GardenGerty (90113)
• Marion, Kansas
22 Jun 09
I absolutely prefer to shop alone. Food, clothes, second hand stores, all of them.
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@winterose (39931)
• Canada
21 Jun 09
I went to a movie once by myself and I didn't like it at all. I need people in a theater to make it fun for me, by people I mean my family or friends. Otherwise I can just stay home and watch something on tv.
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@gtargirl (5385)
• United States
23 Jun 09
Very true, Winterose. It does seem like it would be more fun to watch a movie with family and friends. Maybe if the movie was beyond excellent, I'll think about watching it by myself.
@SHAMRACK (8379)
• India
20 Jun 09
Dear friend, I too is divorced and I do go for movies by alone mostly as I do plan to go for movie at a sudden. But I do enjoy going with friends. ImMostly spend time my friend by chatting with each or just travelling.
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@gtargirl (5385)
• United States
23 Jun 09
I think I will definitely try to go see a movie by myself.
@mhethess (380)
• Philippines
20 Jun 09
Hi gtargirl, I can do both I can go to malls, restaurant and movies with companion or even without. But if I have to choose I will go with someone it can be my friends, so that when we have our free time to chitchat we can have topics to dicuss. If my friends don't want the film I wanted to view that's the time for me to watch alone but this is a rare occassion for I and my friends are not movie goers we usually enjoy eating in a restaurant and just sit in a corner and just relax and talk talk and talk. You can do simple things with your friends and enjoy life. Thanks.
@gtargirl (5385)
• United States
23 Jun 09
It's amazing how much there's to talk about when friends get together. I think going to a mall by myself would be extremely difficult. But then again, I never have so I might surprise myself.
@Sillychick (3282)
• United States
20 Jun 09
I have never gone to the movies alone, either. Of course, I haven't gone to the movies at all in at least 8 years, so that doesn't mean much. I have gone to eat alone at a casual dining place, like Chili's, but never at a formal restaurant. It seems such a waste, since the point of going out is to make it a social event, in my opinion. The only reason I've ever gone alone was on my lunch break at work.
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@gtargirl (5385)
• United States
23 Jun 09
Not a movie goer then? Interesting. I think even a place like Chili's would be hard for me to sit alone in. It's always so crowded with.
@venshida (4839)
• United States
20 Jun 09
Well, you should try going out by yourself. I have gone to movies by myself. I have gone out to eat by myself also. I figured why stay home waiting on someone to do the things I enjoy when I can be out doing it. I tell you once you do it once, it becomes like nothing.
@gtargirl (5385)
• United States
23 Jun 09
Good advice. I think going to the movies might be less intimidating than eating out alone in a restaurant.
@saki13 (95)
• Philippines
20 Jun 09
I would definitely go with a friend. Doing things are much better when done with friends.
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@gtargirl (5385)
• United States
23 Jun 09
It is good to have fun with friends. But mine are all married. Don't really want to tag along.
@clorissa123 (4930)
• United States
21 Jun 09
I never got married yet. So I am okay to go to restaurant by myself. I used to go this Vietnamese restaurant myself, just a big bowl of beef noodle soup. Other than that, I must go see movie with a friend. If there is no one available to go with me, I might just watch DVD at home.
@I_LUV_U (2503)
• India
21 Jun 09
Oh really!? Then you seriously don't know what you're missing out on!! Certain kinds of movies ought to be watched alone for the viewing pleasure, and I just don't ever get the same fun no matter who's keeping my company or what other variables be changed. There's only one genre of movies that I would hate to watch alone, and that's comedy! Actually there's another, but oh..I'm still single! As far as the restaurants go, the food is all what matters to me, and once it reaches the tongue (esp. when it's palatable) I invariably happen to lose conscious of my company and get entranced in the relish of the dish. On the contrary, when the food's unpalatable, I can't help but not ignore it and find it real hard to shift my focus on some other object or to converse.
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@MegDM123 (145)
• United States
2 Jul 09
It's so funny that you posted this comment, because I am debating to go see a movie by myself. I read the book "My Sister's Keeper" and I want to go see the movie. I love reading a book and then seeing the movie! But I have no one who wants to go with me. My sister and mother don't want to see it because they think it is too sad. My boyfriend refuses to go see it - wants to save the movie stash for GI Joes. I was thinking that I might save myself a couple of bucks and go by myself during the matinee sometime next week. I was thinking of dressing in some comfy clothes, sneaking in some sort of guily-as-sin-treat like almond M&M's, and just going to enjoy the show. But I don't know if I am brave enough because I never have. And I have never dined alone, if I know I have to eat alone, I usually will go through a fast food drive through instead of a sit down restaurant.
@djonghs (560)
• Indonesia
28 Jun 09
I always go to theater along with my family, I don't I could enjoy going out alone. Mostly I do an activities with my family. BR.b
• United States
27 Jun 09
I have never gone to a movie by myself...I just cant see myself ever doing that. I have gone to a restaraunt by myself and did not enjoy eating alone in public...just my experience I guess.
@surajben (262)
• India
27 Jun 09
I do not like to go out by myself. I enjoy going out or watching movies with a company.
@stephcjh (32385)
• United States
27 Jun 09
I think I would rather have someone go with me. I hate going to places by myself. I would more than likely take my husband with me as he is my best friend anyway. I would take others also if they lived closer to me.