Can anyone explain??????

I went through the same situation with my husband and for the longest time, the only way that I could do it, was to sit him down and just blurt it out as fast as I could before I got all flustered and nervous. Sometimes it would get a little confusing and he would have to ask me some questions to make sure he understood what I was saying but as time when on, I got more and more comfortable just sitting down and talking to him. I don't know if that's something that you think you could do, but it helped me. Usually I wrote out what I wanted to say before hand, so I didn't forget anything in my nervousness. I hope this helps.

Hi there! I think that you should go ahead and give him your letters or e-mails. Writing a letter works best for me because I can plan things that I want to say to him and present in a manner that he will understand what I really mean and how I really feel. I can tell him everything without the fear of being judged, without freaking out when I misread his facial expression and would also give him time to think things over before he respond.

Hey, Communication is very important in any type of relationship and u got to do it the best way u feel like. Be it an e-mail or a small note or anything else. Spending qulaity time with the loved ones are very important and thus this differances gets resolved. As i have not been to any relationship yet so cant share any perosal experiance here. Good luck! Cheers, Tutul

Doing nice things for someone can show that you care, even if words are not used. A few ways to become comfortable saying how you feel is to leave small notes that just contain a sentence or two. Or just begin...say the words you feel, even if it feels strange and new at first. And yes, he may follow your lead. Good luck :) Karen

I used to keep all my feelings to myself and restrain my anger. But after my heart surgery four years ago I decided to change it. Coz during that night I really prayed hard for another chance coz there are so many things I left unsaid to my loved ones. I don't want to see myself in the same situation anymore. I don't want to regret not telling them what I'm supposed to say and resolving any known issues between us. Now as often as I can, I let him know how much I love him and how much I appreciate everything that he does. If you start to make a change, everything around you will change and you'll feel much better coz you're more open... and you try hard to resolve any issue that come before you. Its a pity loving someone not knowing how aware they are about your feelings. You're relationship with other people will totally improve and get better responses from them. It takes time to grow so why delay...

I could say that Ive been through with this before, expressing how I really felt for my husband was very hard for me... why dont try to express your feelings by joking, that's what I did, and it worked for both us...right now I can say whatever I want to him and vice versa...

There are different ways to express our feelings. It could be by words or by actions. Actions comes in many ways. I think you are very much familiar of the old saying that "action speaks louder than words". So the important thing for you to do, is find out what better way you can express your feelings to someone. This way, you will surely find it easy and you can surely express yourself better. Whatever you decide, I wish you best of luck!

I use to do a lot of what you are doing. i use to write the letters and give them to him. Until I had to make myself talk to him openly. There has to be trust and you both have to be open with each other. He should open up better is you open up to him as well.

Although i am not yet married, but i have the same commucation problem once in a while with my boyfriend. When i am mad at him, he will ask"are you mad at me?".Then i will deny "No!" Then i felt regert after i said that, i should have told him the turth, but my pround of myself make me deny my feeling on him. I think that is not good. We are getting better and better now. For you, my advice is that, asked youself" are you more afraid to talk to him straight, or are you more afraid to lost him and lost the marriage and family?" When you have your answer, you will have more courage to talk to him and to let him know your feeling, that is very important! Good luck!