Friendship
By lampar
@lampar (7584)
United States
June 21, 2009 7:49pm CST
Most of the people have friends instead of just one friend through out their life. So mylotters, what is that you are looking for in a person before you want him or her to be your friend in real life . Do you think that a person's characters and personality like selflessness, honesty, courageous, friendliness, sense of humor and generosity are important consideration before you want to accept the friendship; or it really doesn't matter much since you just want someone to talk and hang around whenever you are lonely? You can state whatever factors you emphasize other than those i mentioned. 
12 responses
@deepzholic (256)
• India
22 Jun 09
i won't agree with you lampar in this......being themselves is the most difficult thing now......as we come across so many people that we get influenced by some one or the other.....i am not saying completely but some qualities.....to impress our friends or to attract friends....i am saying this because i also faced the same problem.....
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@partanta (16)
• Indonesia
23 Jun 09
People says, friend in need is a friend indeed. For me, anyone could be my friend. Wherever I go and meet people, I love to make friendship. Yes, we don't exactly whether they will be a true friend or not. At least give a time to prove it. Thanks.
@saw2207 (1359)
• United States
22 Jun 09
hey there lamp . .
interesting topic here . . . for think about it . . . when we are kids and going through school we make alot of friends so easily . .maybe they are in the same classes as us. . . maybe we play with them in the park . .. and then one day we become adults .. . and how many of these "friends" are still with us"
My dad always told me if you can count on one hand how many friends you have, you are a very rich person.
So in getting back to your question . .. as a adult . .. if I were to want to be friends with someone .. . it would be because we have a common interest. . .and I always like to find a new friend that is smarter than me for I love to learn new things . ..
kinda like the game of tennis .. it is always better to play with someone better than you . .sets the bar higher and sets a goal for you to reach
and on a final note . .. I am glad we made friends here on this lot
for I love to learn new things . ..
kinda like the game of tennis .. it is always better to play with someone better than you . .sets the bar higher and sets a goal for you to reach
and on a final note . .. I am glad we made friends here on this lot@lampar (7584)
• United States
22 Jun 09
Yes, i miss mentioning "mutual interest" , thank for pointing that out. I assumed you must have learned quite a lot now from all your smarter than you friends ever since childhood. 
As far as tennis in concerned, i prefer to be able to beat my opponent instead of losing the game, it is always hard for me to see my friend got beaten down if making new friend is like a tennis game like you said, since all these while, i'm the one managed to set the bar and not my friends. 
Thank for your response, and friendship in mylot. Happy mylotting to you, my friend.
As far as tennis in concerned, i prefer to be able to beat my opponent instead of losing the game, it is always hard for me to see my friend got beaten down if making new friend is like a tennis game like you said, since all these while, i'm the one managed to set the bar and not my friends.
Thank for your response, and friendship in mylot. Happy mylotting to you, my friend.
@chatearn (33)
• Thailand
22 Jun 09
In life we have a lot of choices so if you select a friend you need
first to know they are good and loving all the time so that you are
in the right way don't make friend to an angry person or else you
will be trap.. go with the nice people and I'm sure you will be happy
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@besthope44 (12123)
• India
17 Jul 10
Well friendship is nice gift of life.Well excepting less and accepting friends for what they are..will make it a long lasting friendships.
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Nice to hear from you after such a long time. hahaha... @ShirleyBillingsley (1544)
• United States
22 Jun 09
That is a very tough question.
I think a person should be themselves first.
Get to know people.
Sometimes you can be a friend without knowing someone at all.
If you just want someone to talk to, and to hang around with, then more than likely, you are going to want someone that fits in your category somehow. Perhaps they will like the same things that you like; or going the same places that you go.
@lampar (7584)
• United States
22 Jun 09
I 'm sorry you feel it is a tough question, i don't mean to make it tough for you or anybody here. You managed to give a good response here , after all, it is not really that difficult like you think. Yes, i agree with your assessment of how to choose a new fiend for yourself.
Thank for your response, cheer!
Yes, i agree with your assessment of how to choose a new fiend for yourself.
Thank for your response, cheer!
@maikarumike (458)
• Malaysia
22 Jun 09
I usually don't judge to choose my friends and that doesn't mean that i choose my friends randomly and blindly and follow them to do everything without thinking.Everyone needs a friend and they can;'t be alive to be lonely most of the time as well.In college i made friends with many people all around the world no matter what color their skins may be. I made friends with everyone but I am not involved in their activities. We can actually learn more when we do so and it is not wrong at all..they are still my friends no matter what.
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@lampar (7584)
• United States
22 Jun 09
Exactly, we all need friends in our life, it is part of being a human. I 'm like that too, making friends with people from every corner of the world while i am in university, some did share same interest as me, others are not, majority of them are of different religion belief, race and nationality, i do not discriminate against anyone based on any of the above factors.
Thank for your response. Happymylotting !
Thank for your response. Happymylotting !
@friendship4lyfe (520)
• Saint Lucia
22 Jun 09
For me its all the above and more.I want friends who are both givers and takers.As we grow we meet people from every walks of life and we choose who are our friends and who remain simple acquaintances.Friendship is about love,understanding,accepting one with all their flaws and so much more.Although i would like to have someone to talk to when i am lonely i also would like to be there for them.Friendship is like building a foundation for family thats why we want to choose who we befriend.
@deepzholic (256)
• India
22 Jun 09
hi lampar....
from all the qualities that you have mentioned i would look only for two....that is selflessness and honesty....if these two qualities are not there in that person then he is not my best friend....but off course he would me friend as i believe in making friend......and many a times we won't get what we want at that moment but as time passes we will get what we want.........this is what i feel........
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@lampar (7584)
• United States
22 Jun 09
Yes, zholic! i understand that, in order to be my best/close friend, those are the qualities i look for in that person. I prefer a best friend that not thinking of saving himself all the time and one who doesn't seek every breathing moment of his time trying to cheat me . lol!!
Thank for your response, my friend. Happy mylotting!
@KOREILLY23 (279)
• United States
22 Jun 09
If I am going to be friends with someone I need to know that they are honest . I hate when people lie to me . I moved to Houston from Utah and I was pretty naive . I didn't realize that people could hurt you so bad. I trsuted a group of guy friends who hurt me . I put all my trsut in them and was disapointed because they all were liars . I am now in a realtionshop with the man I want to marry and I am so happy that I can trust him . He is always there for me
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So sorry to hear that a group of guys hurt you so much, at the same time, glad you have a man that is honest and you can trust him. I also prefer honest person to be my friend and hated liar too. 
Thank for your response, cheer!
@flyisky (196)
• China
22 Jun 09
I`m lucky that I have made several real friends when I was in the university. The most important thing to make a new friend to me is how his or her characters and personality are similar to mine. Once we share the same points and we can talk whatever we want and do the same thing at the same time. What`s more, "a friend in need is a friend indeed" is also the factor I wanna emphasize.
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