One way friendships

June 22, 2009 3:56pm CST
I thought I would tell you all about my kind of problem I have at the moment. I say kind of because well although I don't like it, I don't want to change it. I have social anxiety disorder which means I don't tend to speak to many people or have many friends. The times I do speak to people it is because I really care about getting to know them as it is very out of the normal for me. Anyway so there's this person I like talking to but I feel like it's a very one way relationship. Like I will be all nice and stuff and they just talk about themselves and not really care about me. I know they are friendly with other people so it really upsets me that they don't want to be like that with me either. I don't know what to do about it really, I care so much about speaking to this person, it means everything to me but I know I like them alot more than they like me. Anyone else ever been in a situation like this? If so, what did you do about it? Do you think I should cut this person out of my life? I don't really have that many friends so I don't really want to get rid of the ones I do but I can't keep feeling let down Maybe do I just expect too much? Arghhhhh so confusing!!
4 responses
• United States
22 Jun 09
I have felt for a person more then what they felt for me and it ended in me getting hurt because i tried to be understanding about it for over a year. cut your losses. while you may not have many friends. if the friend you have don't care for you the way you do for them you will always be let down.
26 Jun 09
I might end up having to do this eventually. The thought hurts me right now (not speaking to them) but then I think of all the times I am sad wanting to be friends with them and it not happening
@voldrox (7205)
• India
23 Jun 09
i have many friends, but only a handful with whom i am very close
@voldrox (7205)
• India
23 Jun 09
hmm ok... they have a max of 500 characters and so they removed some of mine.... ok what i would like to say to you is that, if you have some special qualities in you in music or sports, let the ppl know about it and soon you will have many friends, that's how i made some friends:) ... i know it is hard to approach someone new and try to be nice to him/her, i have had a strange experience and so don't do that, i just be myself... the main point is that let others know how you actually are(shy) and they will understand ! i have always it very difficult to strike a conversation with a girl, but then somehow i just did it, I was quiet nervous... k then go and show what talents you have, but in a cute way, not like boasting/showoff!! and then you will make many friends... hope it helps!! all the best! :)
@voldrox (7205)
• India
23 Jun 09
oh no!! many things are missing from the previous post!! :x