Throwing The Kids Out!

@cbantly (236)
United States
June 23, 2009 1:51pm CST
I have heard many interesting stories about people dealing with problematic teenagers. Under what conditions do you throw your "kids" out of the house? Do you consider yourself to be abandoning them? What types of things would lead up to this action? Are there any alternatives to eviction?
2 responses
@kerriannc (4280)
• Jamaica
23 Jun 09
Yes there are other alternatives then eviction. Parents need to understand that during the teenage stage a child goes through a lot of emotional stress. They are at the stage where they don't know who to trust and the changes in their bodies is unusual to them. Instead of parents remember when they were at that age and seek advice or even reach out to this child they turn a blind eyes and react negative to this child who sink further in depression. A problematic child is in depression and need help. Be a friend to this child and not a dragon. Being a friend with this child can be done in a respectful manner. Eviction should be the last resort with children and their parents. When I moved out of my parents house I did it in a vexation mood because my father and myself couldn't get along but if I had stay right now I wouldn't end up back here because the decisions that I made while on my own I wouldn't living here and I would be more financially stable. Help your kids in a respectful friendly way. Also seek help through bible scriptures remember what we are going through has happen before in the bible and so we can turn to it for guidance. All the best.
@cbantly (236)
• United States
24 Jun 09
I truly believe that even if parents could think back to when they were a teenager, they still wouldn't understand some of the things that our youth today are faced with. It is a completely different world, and things can be scarier and more brutal than ever. Even more reason to keep your kids close to home!
• United States
23 Jun 09
I am just beginning with dealing with a pre-teen, so I really haven't had to worry about this so far. If my teens were having problems, I would pray about the situation and pray for them, that God would change their hearts and would have His will in their lives. I already pray for them and their futures each and every day. It would take a lot to get me to throw my children out, because God gave them to me for a reason. I can't choose to stop parenting them. I have to do what is best for them, even if it hurts me. However, if they are causing so much turmoil in the home that nothing else can be done, then I believe I would be forced to put them out and make them stand on their own two feet to bring peace for the rest of the family. I cannot sacrifice the entire family for one child, who clearly has no desire to do what is right or change. All the while, I would still continue loving and praying for that child and be in contact as long as they would have me do so. You can love and care for someone without condoning or supporting destructive behavior.
@cbantly (236)
• United States
23 Jun 09
I agree...it baffles me to think of a situation which would result in the child being thrown out. The only scneario I could think of would be if a younger sibling was becoming extrememly negatively impacted or endangered by the behavior of the older teen.