Love in workplace. Is that Good or Bad

@Ammudoll (549)
India
June 23, 2009 6:07pm CST
These days in my office and in my department a lady is been going on date with one of the employees. I don't mind if they do romance and kiss outside the office premises. But it looks really unprofessional and will allow other employees to gossip about them. Though I have told her not to chat much with him and concentrate properly on the work, she didn't listen to me. Why am I worried about her because the management will take an action which will cause problems in her career. Do you prefer Love at work place ?
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15 responses
• Malaysia
24 Jun 09
If the relationship doesn't affect the performance of the couple, I think it is totally alright to have a realationship with colleagues. Love should be seperated from work. However, I think it's quite difficult to focus when our love one is working in the same place with us.
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@Ammudoll (549)
• India
24 Jun 09
Yes, unless the work is not disturbed then no one will question about their personal life and no one has the right to do it as well.
@kerriannc (4280)
• Jamaica
23 Jun 09
There is nothing wrong in having a relationship at the workplace as long as it does not affect the persons working attitude. I have seen persons getting married after meeting at the same work place. You spend all of your time there and persons will be inclined to see someone he/she thinks will be a good wife/husband. As long as they don't have disrespectful spat there and they continue to do their work on a professional level then the management will have nothing to do with it. As for co-workers you can never stop females from gossiping against their own female members. Gossiping either stems from jealousy or envy. Instead of trying to disencourage this just remind your friend that her work is as important and she should continue to do it the same way she was before this relationship.
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@Ammudoll (549)
• India
24 Jun 09
I spoke to her and told her not to allow others to point out at you, she said she will take care and will let her bf know not to chat with her during office hours as she is getting disturbed. Not sure if she is really mean it or just said like that to me. I am sure she is getting distracted and it is reflecting on her work.
@candy2306 (577)
• India
24 Jun 09
Hi Ammudoll, love at work place is really not good and indecent for professionals. One should know how to behave themself in public. Office / Workplace is not home it's a public place. These staffs who is blind by love should realize that they are disturbing other employees. I think you've done your duty of warning her to stop misbehaving like that. If she kept continuing, then they should face the management themself!
@whywiki (6070)
• Canada
24 Jun 09
I worked with my hubby for 5 years and we became good friends. Then we took it a step further and I have never looked back. We have things in commen and it worked for us. So to lose a job and gain a partner for life I think it is worth the trade off.
@Ammudoll (549)
• India
24 Jun 09
May be you are right, losing the job for getting a partner is fine if there are enough jobs available in market. Due to recession there are so many layoffs going in our company. So I would recommend to be in their own limits at workplace.
@coolcoder (2020)
• United States
24 Jun 09
It's not a good idea to have a romance in the workplace. Let me give you an example. One of the men who drives the city bus (basically, that is his workplace) has one, if not two, girls that he's romantically involved with. I've seen one of his lady loves on the bus that I take to go places, and she is constantly standing up--while the bus is in motion, no less--and talking to him, pretty much distracting him (I'm surprised we haven't had a wreck by now). There was another time that this same girl was kissing him every time the bus stopped, which made everyone on board late to wherever they were going. It's so unprofessional, not to mention very dangerous, especially if you're driving a bus full of people. I'd like to know if someone reported him.
@Ammudoll (549)
• India
24 Jun 09
I really feel indecent if some one kisses and does romance in public places or office premises thinking and causing disturbance to others. I wonder how could she kiss infront of all passengers in a bus.
@ztep_d (8)
• Thailand
24 Jun 09
Since I have graduated.I have worked for three workplaces.I saw both side of love affair in the same workplace.Take me as an example....In my first workplace,I found a girl that later we had an affair.But we were not sure whether we were a right couple.So we keep it as a secret.I found that was a right choice.Because we were not got along very well.And after I left the company,we broke up.But no one knew that we had a relationship.So it ended in a good way.Anyway in my latest workplace,my colleges are the perfect couple.They have met there and I have just went to their wedding....So in conclusion,I think it depends on people and many factors to judge whether it is good or not to have an affair with a coworker.
@Ammudoll (549)
• India
24 Jun 09
Yeah, when you in love someone it is better to keep the matter under wraps unless you have decided to get a life and go ahead. In some cases it will become a problem when there is a break up as the climate will be cold and tensed, more so if the break up is very unpleasant. You might find it difficult and sometimes nearly impossible to go to office after that and you may feel like quitting the job. But in your case you left the job 1st and then the relation broke up.
• Philippines
24 Jun 09
love in workplace is ok,as long as the management didn't insist on "no relationship" rule and you know how to seperate business from personal.people will gossip at the workplace if you put your PDAs in front of your officemates.if you treat each other professionally in the office,then people will just go on with their lives without gossiping about you and your partner.treat the time in office as it is and not as "quality time together".
@Ammudoll (549)
• India
24 Jun 09
As of now there is "no relationship rule" like that in my office, but may be beacuse of these guys they may implement it. Even I am not liking the way they are going around during business hours, taking advantage of the internal chat & chatting through the internal chat all the time. I do agree personal relationships in office is ok but it should not cross the limit. that is what I feel
@ryzach (1546)
• United States
24 Jun 09
I met my husband at work and that was 22 years ago. A lot of people meet at work and carry on relationships. I think you have to keep it professional at work just because it is work and not personal time. It is hard but can be done. What someone does on their own time like lunch is their business and no one else's.
@Jakywoo (102)
• China
24 Jun 09
Good or bad,it is difficult to say.In my mind,love is not determined by the surrounding thing.It comes from the heart.It is a beautiful thing.But if we want to judge the love in workplace is good or bad,we should care the ending.And I will give my best wishes to those who are true lover.
• India
24 Jun 09
its a attraction. if u r doing work in a office and male and female r there. so its natural things, but at on work it not gud its a punishable thing and shameful. firstly u should finish ur world and after ur office time u can romance and gossip also. if this lady is doing that bat things she will pay for it. when management is knows abt her definitley they will take action against her, so once time again u warn to her becasue she is working in ur office and dont worreid concentrate on ur work. in futue if anything will happen wrong so she will responsible for that. dont worry enjoy ur life with ur work dont take more tension about other person.
• Philippines
24 Jun 09
It's impossible not to get attracted to someone from your work place especially since you see and interact with them everyday. Many times, spark just go bazooka on some people. But the only downfall is when things don't work out. Work is the number one thing that gets affected. When work is poor due to bad aura, distraction etc, the company often suffers. That's why, some company does not allow their employess to date.
@roger30 (40)
• United States
24 Jun 09
This days many companies have rules unwelcoming between co-workers. Affairs mostly start at the office because people spend most of the time...
@subha12 (18453)
• India
24 Jun 09
I won't say bad. Until and unless it affects other, there is no problem. It should not also affect the work there.She should be careful to keep showing thos eemotions in office.
@lwy519 (159)
• China
24 Jun 09
I would never fall in love with my colleague.I think that is busy and tire in my work,I dont wanna see the same person after work.There are still some colleagues fall in love with their lover,and most of them have a joyful life.Congratulation to them!
@Kolla08 (48)
• United States
23 Jun 09
honestly i believe that love in the workplace is a bad idea. some people believe that they are able to deal with the responsibilities of the job and their loved one. But the truth iswhen you're at work you think of your loved one anyway. But when your loved one is right there in the same building with you or across from your cubical, its hard to focus on the things that you really nedd to be doing.