Whats your purpose? Have you ever wondered?

United States
June 24, 2009 11:34am CST
I wonder all the time, what is my purpose. Why am I here? I try so hard to be the right kind of person. I take care of my husband. I work full time. I have 2 beautifull children that are grown now. But, being alone seem to be the order for me. My husband goes to bed before the birds My children don't have time to talk or visit and promply informed me to stay out of there business. I didn't realize that just asking what are you doing today was considered getting into there business. But I guess they do..and friends (if you can call them that) only come around or call when they want something from me. I set alone every night. and I have to wonder, is this the way it is suppose to be for me. I'm 47 years old and have to ask myself. Why and what is my purpose. Do you ever feel that way?
13 responses
@bigott (619)
• India
24 Jun 09
I think about this so many times in my life .But to understand god you have to be as complex as he is.All I understand is - the purpose is nothing but how you affect other's life while you are here.I mean just imagine what would life be like if you were never born.Everything would be different - no children no husband( the butterfly effect). So the real purpose is - never think about the purpose itself and just enjoy life.
• United States
25 Jun 09
You make a good point. Thanks for your responce
@bigott (619)
• India
25 Jun 09
cheers
@jayrene (2713)
• Philippines
25 Jun 09
i am sorry to hear that... im wondering about mine too, i really tried to be a good person, doing the right thing, not trying to hurt anybody. become a good mother to my kids. then i became hearing impaired that made me question God why? my kids are still young. i dont really have that much friend now, and those i considered friends before were not who they really are when i had no money anymore. most of my free time i spend online, at least here people, friends make me feel important. have i touched somebody else's life with what i am right now? that i dont really know... i guess we both feel the same thing...
• United States
25 Jun 09
Hi jayrene So you know the feeling of lost and alone. Things always seem to be good for people that take advantage of others. Why is that. I just don't get it....I think, I'm not a bad person. I will give my last dime to someone if they needed it. Why am I always used by others and left alone. Maybe, I just need to become a crappy person. But, it's just not in my nature
@reckon21 (3487)
• Philippines
24 Jun 09
My ultimate question is are you happy with your present life? Do you feel emptiness starting to creep up in your entire consciousness. The feeling of being sad for no particular reason at all. If you are feeling this...then you are not alone. Many people are suffering this. Even those who are wealthy,successful and famous person suffer this kind of symptom. Then come the ultimate question, what is our purpose here on this world we are living. Sometimes I think that we are just actors and actress playing the roles we are given. But when the shooting stop there's the question hanging in our heads. What's next? Is there another role to play or are you stuck up with that kind of role for the rest of your life. There's an empty feeling...and I wish I could find the cure.
• United States
25 Jun 09
To answer your question, No I am not happy with my present life. I do feel a strong enptiness down deep in my soul. But, Something keeps me here. I just don't know what yet. And I have to wounder how long must this feeling of being lost last. If there is a reason for my current life, why can I not see it. What is the role I must play
@clutterbug (1051)
• United States
24 Jun 09
Hi tonniek02, This is so sad that he said he would like an older woman. That is so insensitive and unloving for him to say that. My husband used to be insensitive to me, not as bad as your situation, but it was uncomfortable for the both of us. Then in 2003, he accepted Jesus as his Savior, and now he is a totally different man. We have been married for 20 years now. God can do miracles. If you have a Bible in your home, maybe you can read a few chapters every night when he goes to bed so early. God's Word is true and can change lives for the better. The Psalms is a great place to start. Have a great day.
• United States
25 Jun 09
Thanks for your responce. Your words give hope thanks
@momiecat (997)
• United States
24 Jun 09
I am sorry things are not going too well for you right now. I think that other people have experienced what you are experiencing and it is called the "empty nest syndrome". That is when your kids are grown up and you feel as a mom that your purpose has been taken away from you. Actually the next step for you would be a role of grandma, if your kids marry and have families of their own. I think it is natural for you to feel this way. You may want to try to rekindle the spark in your marriage between you and your husband. You may want to try and make new friends or new hobbies. May be you could do some volunteer work. Sounds like you are a bit depressed. One way to not be depressed is to get out and do for others. My purpose in life is taking care of cats. I feed some homeless cats in my area every day. I look forward to seeing them and interacting with them in nature. In order to be happy, you need to have your own sense of identity and not rely on others for your happiness. Hopefully a some point your kids will realize what a blessing it is to have a mother and will willingly come back to you and share their lives with you. You just have to keep your heart open. Take care.
• United States
24 Jun 09
Thanks for the comment, but no it's not empty nest syndrome. It hurtful words for ones that are suppose to love you
@EliteUser (3971)
• Australia
29 Sep 09
Hey, Yea almost every day I actually just sit back and try and think why I am actually hear. I also feel like I should help those poor people that are dying their in those poor countries, so if I don't help them, I will also feel quite bad. Make sure you have a good day, God bless and Happy Lotting!!
@kellyjeanne (1578)
• United States
1 Jul 09
Well, as a born again Christian my purpose is to do His will and to spread the word about Jesus Christ, but, with my depression I haven't been doing much of that. I know when I get to Heaven he's going to have a little talk with me. Other than all that I feel that it's my duty to educate people about many things. I can understand your frustration, though. It doesn't help when you have depression. Purrs, Catwoman=^..^= & Mija
@tundeemma (896)
• South Africa
25 Jun 09
i always wonder on this on daily basis and sometimes i thinkabout what else everyone is waiting for on this planet, good and bad things happen everyday and the living are only waiting for a day to die and leave all the struggles in this world, sometimes the good people of today turn bad tomorrow and the bad turn good and things do not always end as we all expect
• United States
25 Jun 09
Unfortunately, when we are raising a family, and taken care of the household, that becomes our purpose. And then, when it's all done, and they don't need us anymore, we have more time to look at our lives and wonder what to do next. I used to say that the role of a parent was to do the best we could for our kids, teach them how to survive in the world without us, and make something for themselves so I could see them happy. I always thought that I didn't care if they had a life of their own, and never really saw them much...as long as I knew they were okay, and just maybe once in awhile call to say "I love You". I would be thrilled just knowing that I taught them how to survive without me. I always remember a story about birds...where the mother birds take care of their babies when they are first born, feed them and house them...but when she thinks its time to let go...the mother bird literally kicks her babies out of the nest.She does it once, to make sure they can fly, and the second time , after they come back, she pushes them out for good. And those babies literally go on their own, without ever looking back. I discovered a long time ago, that you can't depend on anyone for your happiness. and it's time, now, that you look for a life of your own...get involved with something, find some outside interests, get a hobby, gain new friends...instead of focusing on what your hubby and kids can do for you. You need to be happy with yourself, and not depend on them.
@whelsw (8)
• Singapore
25 Jun 09
well base of what I've learn and know about purpose in life is to honor HIM or glorify Him. by doing the things he want us to be family,government,friends,works..etc, things that surround us by giving back his glory and honor. that without him we can do nothing..I know some of you there too skeptical of what I am saying now.
• China
25 Jun 09
I can see that you are kindly, and a nice person, you do everything so perfect for your husband and your children, from your words, I fee guilty, I am young and just finished school this year, and when I finished school I move to another city, it's really far from my home, and I need to work hard here, so I call my mother once a week, sometimes just a short conversation, she always ask me if I live well here, if I happy here, I feel guilty about this, my mom is 47 years this year, and her daughter is far from her, I think she also feels alone about this.
@puqimx (360)
• Malaysia
25 Jun 09
wondered.... never... i'm happy what i doing now... you life seem like perfect physically but not your emotional. for me try more closer to god.... for your age now.. it's time to more religious.. no matter what your religion my friend...!! only god will can make us happy, freedom. you will never feel lonely again..:-)
@bang323 (103)
• Philippines
25 Jun 09
my purpose in life is to achieve my basic goals,if u have ever think of bigger goals u need 5years to enable to achieve that or more years to do that. i feel achieving my goals are on the run im running for it!!