Have I out welcomed my stay?
June 25, 2009 10:05am CST
So yesterday was my 23rd birthday and it was actually I think the best birthday I ever had. I had 2 birthday cakes, went out to eat at a really nice resturant, got a nameplate and a lot of cards and birthday wishes. Well, I don't know about others but me personally I would never deliver bad news to someone on their birthday and I had my friend do that to me. Last October, my ex and I broke up and I had no where to go so she took me in. I really appreciated it and it was nice. In the begining, my roommate had no car so I took her everywhere and she even borrowed my car when I was at work. I woke up early mornings and took her son to school because if she didn't wake up, he wouldn't even go to school. I did her elderly mom's laundry, cooked dinner, helped clean, etc. I was like a housewife basically. She finally got a car in late March or early April so what it seemed my services were not needed as much. I am still paying her rent. Every now and then she will make a comment because I am never at home and always doing something. It's not my fault that she likes to stat at home. Back in December I met a guy and we became close we are not in a relationship but a good friendship. Little by little I stopped being at the house so much and doing things. I basically go to his house everyday after work and sometimes sleep over. I got a new job so I work longer hours which means I am not at the house. A typical day I wake up around 8 leave by 9 and don't return to the house until around 1 or 2 in the morning. I don't eat her food, I still help out when I can and now she is telling me out of no where that I have to leave the house. It took me by shock after all what I've done for her. A lot of people think she is doing it because I am not at the house anymore and really only shower and sleep there. Whatever her reason may be I think it is wrong for her to do that on my birthday and just give me short notice especially since she knows that I have no where to go. I guess I just really want to know if she is angry because I am not at home as much so she actually has to do work or what. I mean I think I am a good roommate, we never fight about money, I pay her more than I should, I take care of her kid and mom more than she does and now that I am not avilable for those services she gives me all of this. What do you think of the situation? Any feedback will be gretly appreciated!
• United States
25 Jun 09
first of all happy birthday! i'm glad you had a good one except for your friend kicking you out. i think it is what you said--she is just annoyed now that she is having to do all of her own work. now she has to bring her own kid to school, take care of her own mom, and cook and clean for herself. if you are paying her that much money, she shouldn't care how much you're home or not home. also, it sounds like you and this guy are getting along great and perhaps she is jealous that she doesn't have as much time with you or she is jealous that she doesn't have a relationship right now. she's had it easy for so long and now she's starting to see how hard it is without someone doing everything for her. for her to tell you that on your birthday just shows you that she was trying to be hurtful. maybe she's doing this to get you to beg to be able to stay and offer to do all those things again for her, but don't give in! she'll be very sorry when you're gone because she'll be missing out on all of the hard work you did plus now she won't even be getting the money. she's the one who is wrong but she'll be sorry once you're gone.
• United States
25 Jun 09
Thanks for the birthday wish. I mean I planned on moving out soon but she told me just like last month that she likes having me around and there is no pressure to move. I decided to stay due to the fact that I am making a little bit more money and since I am not paying full rent I could save a lot more. I think it just upseted me more that she would do all of this on my birthday instead of today or another day. I know she will see how hard it is once I am gone and I am not going to give in. I understand once you get to a certain age sometimes the whole roommate thing doesn't sound cool anymore but she's getting extra money, she is not sharing anything with me, and I am not even there.