Does it matter if you didn't do it?

June 28, 2009 7:02am CST
People will believe what they want to believe, what they choose to believe, very often in spite of what is put in front of them to suggest otherwise. Once they have made their minds up, there is no changing them, for example, lets say you were accused of robbing a bank,you DIDN'T do it, but people think you did, you go through the trial and end up getting acquitted. But people still think that you are guilty, they treat you like a criminal, they will not talk to you, they tell people to stay away from you. You know you didn't do it, but does that matter? Does the fact that they perceive you as guilty, mean that you are? You certainly are guilty to them. Are you one of those people that sticks to your opinion even though the situation or evidence suggests otherwise? Are these people stubborn or stupid or neither? Ever robbed a bank?
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@sid556 (30960)
• United States
28 Jun 09
People will stick to what the want to believe regardless. The people closest to me would know the truth and I'd know the truth. Yes, it can be hurtful and allegations that are untrue can affect your life in a negative way as far as looking for a job etc. As for what people think....I would just ignore those that talk negative of me. oh and no...never robbed a bank.
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• Philippines
29 Jun 09
That's what the world think. I haven't done anything against the law as I am a law abiding citizen. But then when you try to understand that most people would judge a person according to what they have or haven't done. When someone makes a mistake, all the good things you have done will be erased to them, and what they can see is that small speck of mistake you had done. And this is just human nature. I don't like that to happen. And it is really sad to know that there are injustices happening around the globe. What is important is that you don't limit yourself to help people out and reach them no matter what they have done. To pray for them and to share them about the mercy of God and how God can change them is what's important to me. This is the reason why we need to show love and compassion. To love our neighbor as we love ourselves as what God told us we ought to do.
@lynnemg (4529)
• United States
29 Jun 09
I am one of those people who would rather believe the good things than the bad. If I had a friend who was accussed of robbing a bank and that person was in jail and swore to me that they were falsely accussed I would stand by that person. Once acquitted, I would feel even better knowing that my friend was, in fact being honest. Now, I have been in the situation where someone was accussed of unlawwful acts and swore to me that they were falsely accussed and convicted and I still believed it until it happened again and again. At that point, I felt pretty foolish because here I was, only one of the very few people who believed this person, just to find out later on that I was being lied to by this person. Needless to say, that created a serious trust issue. I think that it is good to stand by those we love and only natural to want to believe them, especially in that kind of situation. If the person is being completely honest and is truly innocent, then I would feel good knowing that I stood by that person, but if they were merely lying to me too, I would feel foolish.
@doryvien (2284)
• United States
29 Jun 09
People have the tendency to be judgmental, and most of the time they do this without even trying to know what the whole story is all about. As for me I'd do it on a case to case basis - if a person already has a reputation of doing illegal acts, chances are I might go with the general opinion. But if I know the person to be clean and has no history of being "bad", then I'm prepared to give him the benefit of the doubt. There are a lot of innocent people languishing in jail because they had a mistrial and they were misjudged, in the same manner that a lot of them criminals are freely roaming around waiting for their next victim, because they had the power to have "justice" on their side. Does it matter if you didn't do it? I guess yes, it matters, but it matters more if you have money and the right connections to prove your innocence. Otherwise, you leave everything to chance.
• United States
28 Jun 09
I believe on a whole people want to believe the worst I don't know if it is because we have become a society where we expect the worse which honestly is all out there or so it seems or maybe it is because a lie a scandal is so much more entertaining not really considering the whole story is a shame for even if someone was involved even guilty there are 3 sides of every story one of each person and then the truth for everyone views everything differently it is just who we are and made up of I had someone my oldest lie on me once 7 years ago I did not do it I have proof her own writing it was false I have the people do not believe it and yet my life as been tore apart turned upside down all over a lie and the worse part about it is everyone knows the truth but because it was said it could affect my whole life like say I wanted to go back into nursing or day care something like that the truth would not matter it is the symbol of what might of been and let me tell you it really sucks
• Australia
29 Jun 09
No, it doesn't matter because you know you're guilty it only matters if your friends think your guilty cause that means theur not proper friends
@catdla1 (6005)
• United States
28 Jun 09
The trouble with our legal system, is that the probability of a persons guilt decreases in perportion to the value of their personal wealth. The richer you are, the less likely that you will be found guilty. Conversely, the poorer you are, the more likely you are to be found guilty...even if you are, in fact, innocent. Our jails and prisons have a percentage of innocent people incarcerated. I think our legal systems have become too 'technical'. There is too much real evidence dismissed from consideration for 'technical' reasons, and too many freed on 'technicalities'. In watching cases that are televised, and in serving on jury duty myself, I try to keep an open mind as far as evaluating what I'm seeing. However, I've seen too much damaging (and exonerating) evidence dismissed, on those technicalities. How is that fair?
• United States
28 Jun 09
I am a firm believer in innocent until proven guilty. It is not my place to place blame or judgement. We all make mistakes.