When a Friend Dies

@rainyl (671)
United States
June 28, 2009 3:15pm CST
We know how it feels to have a family member die, however some people do not understand that when a friend dies it at times feels the same as a family member and it is OK to grieve for that friend. I have watched many friends go overseas and never come back and I cry and wish for each one of them to be here so we can laugh and play cards and watch each others children grow up. My Mother told me a long time ago not to be afraid of death, it is a natural apart of the living process and we all must go through it in order to have lived, it will hurt , however the person is always with us and we never really forget them. So now with my own children, I know they are not afraid of death or to see death or people that they know die, we have a little thing that we do and here it is and it may help you and your children understand death bit more. We name a star after each loved one or friend passes on and each night we go out and say goodnight, for you see a star always shines on so therefore our loved ones are always watching over us and will always be there when we need them and when we need to talk or cry we can go outside and look up and see the sparkle of our loved ones shining down on us. I started this process when we worked with HOSPICE, my son would hold the hand of the patient that was leaving us until they were gone and he would talk to them to let them know it is OK and that we are all gonna be OK and will not forget them. Then we would go outside and name a star for the person, it has helped my children understand the dieing process. Well I think I have said enough about this , I know a lot of people are afraid to discuss death and the process.
1 response
@OConnell87 (1046)
28 Jun 09
yeah of course its ok to grieve for a friend the same way as a family. Who you grieve for and how much is your business and no one elses. There is the saying friends are the family you choose so it does make sense that you would grieve the same way.
@rainyl (671)
• United States
28 Jun 09
To some yes it is ok and to some it is not. Thank you for your comments and keep on reading!