mother n law, bone cancer, passed away wensday

By Liz
United States
June 29, 2009 9:53am CST
Ive see alot of sad things in my life, seen people suffer, watched my own Daddy pass away, but the passing of my Mother n law (whom I loved with all my heart) Was beyond anything I could have imagined. She had bone cancer, was in remission, But returned in her spine. She was to sick and weak for her full treatments, she stopped Eating they put her in the hospital for 2 days till her numbers were good then wanted (because of insurance) to send her home, her husband 74 couldn't possibly take care Of her she couldn't walk, eat, and was in constant pain. We live 8 hours away, but thank God we were there at the time ( my father n law ) has early stages of dementia, our only Option with her insurance was to put her in a nursing home for up to 21 days. She was Never alone we slept there. She got her meds, and they did check on her often. But when The end got close my husband and I were spending the night that night, her meds weren't Working she had an oxygen mask on that was keeping her alive if it was off for even a sec Her levels dropped. From 9pm till 8am she begged pleaded for help. It was the worst thing I've ever seen. At 345am I asked the nurse if she was like this every night (we got there that Day) she said no I asked if I should call her husband if this was bad she said yes. I had no Clue this was it. She ( the nurse) never told us anything. Hospice was called, they got there at 6am said the nursing home didn't do IV's (we were told they Did when we put her in) we got her to the ER at 8am gave her morphine through IV and finally she had Relief. She died 2 hours later. Such unnessary suffering I will never forget.
2 responses
@mcat19 (1358)
• United States
30 Jun 09
I'm so so sorry. What a terrible situation. I'm glad she now has peace. I hope this can ease your heart.
• United States
30 Jun 09
thank u
@TrvlArrngr (4058)
• United States
29 Jun 09
My heart goes out to you! Have faith and believe she is in a better place now.
• United States
29 Jun 09
thank u I have faith and I know she's in heaven